This episode explores the profound impact of both born and chosen families on personal growth and relationships. Jen and Betina dive deep into navigating complex family dynamics, understanding what makes chosen family relationships so transformative, and how to honor blood ties while creating meaningful connections with others.
Time stamps:
00:45 Family relationship temp check
04:35 Jen discusses a listener's insights about ADHD traits
11:43 Jen sharing gems from her born and chosen families
15:15 Backstory: How we’ve navigated family dynamics together
15:20 Betina shares her revelation that born and chosen families are divinely curated and why
10:05 Clarifying Question: What qualities or what about the relationships made them so impactful?
24:11 Alignment moment: Jen’s first real friend having qualities she wanted more of
32:10 Betina on taking ownership of the qualities you desire to become the best version of yourself
35:12 A stranger spoke life into Jen / Crying on a Tues-dee
37:40 Life focus: Creating chosen family while honoring your blood ties
38:35 Jen acting on love which requires honoring blood ties / fear of intimacy
46:14 Tested relationships
47:50 Betina’s framework for chosen family
56:14 Recipes: Heritage Dish
Betina’s Family’s Cornbread Dressing
Keys to success: Homemade Cornbread and Stock
Stock:
In a stock pot add:
Turkey or chicken parts
Water
Diced: celery, onion, bell pepper
Season with: Chicken bouillon, seasoning salt, garlic powder, pepper, cajun seasoning, poultry seasoning, sage (little)
Boil
Cornbread 1 Cup flour, 1 Cup Cornmeal, ¼ cup sugar, Pinch of salt, 8 teaspoons baking powder
1 egg
Milk
Mix well (no lumps)
In baking dish melt butter
Pour excess butter into cornbread batter
Fill pan
Bake until golden brown and let cool
Sauteed Vegetables:
Dice more: Celery (lots), onion, bell pepper
Sautee in skillet with a stick of butter until soft and fragrant
To a roasting pan add 1 box Mrs. Cubbison’s seasoned Cornbread stuffing mix
Crumble in cornbread
Add about 2 cups of stock and begin mixing
Add 1 can cream of mushroom soup
Pour in sauteed vegetables
Mix
Season with Poultry seasoning, pinch of sage, seasoning salt (to taste) garlic powder, white pepper
Bake for about 45 minutes at 350 degrees checking periodically for dryness
Remember to add stock as necessary.
I add meat from stock to the top and bake uncovered for about 20 more minutes
Luke’s Mom’s Hamburger Helper
1lb ground meat (turkey or beef)
2 cans tomato soup
1 carrot
1 celery rib
½ cup onion
½ cup red or green pepper
2 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce
½ box macaroni shells
Peel and chop vegetables
Sautee vegetables with meat
Add both cans of tomato soup
Add 2 cans water
Add W sauce
Bring to a boil
Add macaroni
Simmer for 10 minutes or until noodles are done stirring occasionally
Music Credits:
0:00 “For My Good” - AFTR
Aug 19 202553 mins