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Today we’re exploring the profound impact of how we show up for ourselves and others in grief. Emphasising the importance of kindness, presence, and emotional connection in supporting ourselves or those who are grieving.

I share practical ways to create a ripple effect of healing through simple acts of compassion, the normalisation of grief conversations, and the power of rituals.

Also speaking to the power of a community / collective approach to grief work as a means to foster deeper connections and healing in the world.

Takeaways

• Grief can expand our capacity for compassion and connection.
• Simple acts of kindness can have a profound impact.
• Community support is essential in the healing process of grief.
• Normalizing conversations about grief can reduce isolation.
• Rituals can help honour and express grief meaningfully.
• Presence and listening are powerful gifts we can offer.
• Going deep in conversations about grief can facilitate healing.
• Self-care is crucial when navigating grief.
• Every small act of kindness contributes to a larger ripple effect.
• Witnessing grief creates space for collective healing.

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The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

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This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: The Transformative Power of Grief

04:45: The Importance of Community and Connection

09:25: Practical Ways to Support Grief

14:40: Deepening the Conversation on Grief

19:15: Creating a Ripple Effect of Kindness

I am joined today by Martyn Sibley, to explore his incredible personal story of resilience, acceptance, and the importance of kindness in navigating our path to a better world. Martyn is CEO of Purple Goat inclusion agency and has been voted in the top 100 influential disabled people.

We discuss personal journeys of resilience from a stiff upper lip mentality to a more accepting approach that acknowledges and welcomes emotions. Martyn shares his personal journey with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), emphasising societal barriers to people with disabilities, the need for mentorship and the power of community.

We dive into how we can co-create a better world - looking at fears that need to die in order for progress to be made. With the importance of co-creation to build a more inclusive world where everyone can be valued and belong. Highlighting the importance of generosity and kindness as catalysts for change, we hope this chat encourages others to take practical steps towards fostering connections and empathy in their communities.

Key takeaways

• Resilience involves accepting emotions related to challenges.
• Death is necessary for transformation and growth.
• The world often disables individuals through societal barriers.
• Mentorship plays a crucial role in navigating life's challenges.
• Fear is a significant barrier to inclusion and kindness.
• Co-creation is essential for building a better world.
• Generosity is part of our biological nature.
• Small acts of kindness can have a profound impact.
• Community connections are vital for support and inclusion.
• What we perceive as weaknesses can be our greatest strengths.

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• Website: https://martynsibley.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martynsibley/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martyn-sibley-1227b411/
• Friends in marketing, check out his Purple Goat agency here: https://www.purplegoatagency.com
• Purple Collective: www.purplecollectiveglobal.com

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Understanding Resilience and Acceptance

02:53: The Journey of Martin Sibley

05:39: Navigating Life with Disability

08:24: The Evolution of Resilience

11:09: The Dichotomy of Life and Resilience

14:16: The Importance of Mentorship and Sharing Experiences

17:11: The Role of Fear in Society

20:06: Co-Creation for a Better World

23:06: The Social Model of Disability

25:51: Transforming Fear into Kindness

28:40: Practical Steps Towards Kindness

31:23: The Ripple Effect of Kindness

34:13: Facing Fears and Building Empathy

37:19: The Power of Generosity

40:11: Creating Connections in Communities

43:01: Closing Reflections and Future Aspirations

Today we’re exploring anticipatory grief, when we grieve someone who’s still alive. I share my personal experiences with my grandmother's dementia, in her final chapter.

Discussing the complexities of experiencing grief before a loved one's death, emphasising the importance of acknowledging and expressing your feelings. I offer practical strategies for coping with anticipatory grief, including naming the grief, letting go of perfection, and finding ways to honour this loss and slowly say goodbye.

Talking about coexistence of love, joy and sadness in the grieving process and encouraging you to honour their emotions and seek support.

Takeaways

• Anticipatory grief is the grief experienced before a loved one's death.
• It's important to acknowledge both joy and sadness in grief.
• Naming your grief can be a powerful first step.
• Letting go of perfection is crucial in the grieving process.
• Finding ways to say goodbye can be deeply healing.
• Anticipatory grief can manifest in various life transitions, not just death.
• Self-compassion is essential when navigating grief.
• Professional support can be beneficial for those struggling with grief.
• Creating rituals can help in processing anticipatory grief.
• Grief is a lifelong journey that can bring meaning and connection.

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The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

00:00: Understanding the Complexity of Anticipatory Grief

06:05: Simple Ways That You Can Hold Anticipatory Grief

06:14: Acknowledging and Naming Grief

08:13: Letting Go of Perfection

10:15: Let Yourself Say Goodbye

I’m joined by grief & trauma therapist Rio Richards to explore the complexities of grief, pain and the unhelpful silver lining cultural messaging surrounding them. We discuss our personal experiences of loss, the importance of community and connection in navigating grief, and the barriers that prevent us from sharing our pain.

Emphasising the power of human connection and significance of witnessing others' grief, and not trying to fix anything. Plus the transformative power of being present with our emotions in our own transformation, including in feeling greater depths of joy. We also speak to the experience of anticipatory grief for those caregiving, and the role we all need to play in supporting individuals through their grief journeys.

Takeaways

• Cultural messaging often stigmatizes pain and grief, making it difficult to share.
• Grief and death are integral parts of the human experience, just like birth and joy.
• Creating a supportive community can help individuals navigate their grief.
• Witnessing others' grief can be healing and transformative for both parties.
• We can connect deeply with others through shared experiences of grief.
• Anticipatory grief is a unique experience that deserves recognition and support.
• Caregiving can bring its own set of challenges and grief that often goes unacknowledged.
• It's important to lean on community support during difficult times.
• Taking small steps to explore pain can help individuals reconnect with their emotions.
• Empathy and presence are crucial in supporting those who are grieving.

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You can connect with Rio Richards and find out about her offerings including upcoming group programme here:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andthatsgrief/
• Substack: https://riorichards.substack.com
• 8 week Grief Portal group program starting 7 August 2025: https://riorichards.thrivecart.com/grief-portal-program/
• 1-2-1 waitlist: https://rio-richards.kit.com/5b041a610c

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Introduction and theme

02:16: Personal Journeys of Grief and Transformation

06:46: The Power of Witnessing and Connection

11:00: Navigating Grief in Therapy

16:31: Barriers to Sharing Grief

22:39: Exploring Pain and Grief in Small Steps

30:39: Anticipatory Grief and Caregiving

37:31: Supporting Caregivers and the Importance of Community

43:18: The Complexity of Grief and Human Connection

Today we’re exploring the concept of continuing bonds in grief; how you can maintain connections with loved ones who have passed away. We’ll discuss the continuing bonds theory, which shows that keeping these connections can be beneficial for processing grief.

I share personal stories and practical ways to honour and remember loved ones, including rituals, creative expressions, and journaling. This episode will show you how you can embrace your grief by finding meaningful ways to keep their loved ones present in their lives.

Takeaways

• Grief can be a powerful connection to our loved ones.
• Continuing bonds theory suggests maintaining connections is healthy.
• Grief doesn't diminish; we grow around it.
• Creative expressions can honour our loved ones.
• Rituals provide anchoring in the grieving process.
• Talking to our loved ones can be therapeutic.
• Writing letters to the deceased can help process feelings.
• Wearing or carrying something of theirs keeps their memory alive.
• Journaling can help explore how loved ones show up in our lives.
• It's important to allow space for both joy and sadness in grief.

Disclaimer:

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.

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The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Embracing Grief and Continuing Bonds

10:28: Practical Ways to Maintain Connections: Talk to them

11:24: Writing Your Loved One A Letter

12:07: How To Create Grief Rituals

14:19: Wearing Or Carrying Something Of The Person Who You’re Grieving

Let’s explore the essential conversations and preparations surrounding death and end-of-life planning. Discussing the importance of embracing impermanence, setting out who can advocate for us when we cannot through a lasting power of attorney, getting your will in place, and the significance of exploring, documenting and communicating your plans for end of life and your funeral through advanced planning.

We also dive into the concept of legacy, encouraging you to reflect on the impact you wish to leave behind and the stories they want to share with future generations.

Key takeaways

• Embracing impermanence helps us appreciate the present moment.
• Having a trusted person to speak on your behalf when you can’t is crucial.
• Legal documentation like lasting power of attorney is essential to formalise this.
• Advanced care planning ensures your end of life wishes are known.
• Creating a personalised plan for your farewell can be a beautiful process.
• Legacy is about the impact we leave on others.
• It’s beneficial to get your will in place now, don’t wait.
• Documenting stories and memories is a valuable gift to family.
• End-of-life planning is for the living, not just the dying.
• Conversations about death can bring clarity and comfort.
• Taking small steps in planning can alleviate fear and resistance.

Disclaimer:

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Chapters

00:00: Introducing the end of life essentials.

02:15: Setting up a Lasting Power of Attorney

08:53: Advanced care planning for end of life and planning your funeral

13:34: Understanding your legacy including writing your will

I am joined today by the hilarious and brilliantly creative sister duo that are Katy and Lindsey Vigurs, co-founders of Dead Good. We explore the intersection of creativity, joy, meaning making and death.

Katy and Lindsey share their personal experiences with death & grief. Including anticipatory grief in their Dad’s final year as they listened to their Dad and came up with creative responses as a family - making it his best year. We also discuss the importance of community, conversation about death, and how creative rituals can help us to navigate our own mortality and talk about things that are taboo.

Emphasising the need for open discussions about death, the role of humour, playfulness and joy in navigating death & grief, whilst not shying away from the pain of grief, and the importance of planning for the inevitable.

Through their work, the Dead Good sisters aim to reawaken a connection with death and make the topic more accessible and less taboo. With practical guidance to help you to get important things in place like a will.

Key takeaways

• Creativity can help us to connect with death and grief.
• Community support is vital in navigating grief.
• Humour and playfulness can coexist with grief.
• Creative rituals can make memories and meaning at the end of life for the person and their family.
• Anticipatory grief can be supported through creative expression.
• Conversations about death should be normalised.
• Making wills and legal preparations is essential.
• Coming together for parties to talk about death plans can be fun and empowering.
• Death conversations fosters connection and breaks fear and taboo.
• Light and playful conversation can ease the fear of mortality.
• Death education can empower individuals to engage with their mortality.

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Website: https://www.deadgood.org

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deadgoodlegacies

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Embracing Death: A Creative Perspective

02:45: Personal Journeys Through Grief

05:23: The Importance of Community in Death Conversations

08:15: Creative Rituals and Memory Making

11:08: Navigating Anticipatory Grief

13:46: The Role of Humor and Playfulness in Grief

16:24: Reawakening Our Connection with Death

19:06: Starting Conversations About Mortality

21:53: Creative Approaches to Death Education

24:49: The Power of Connection in Grief

27:24: Making Death Planning Accessible

30:21: The Importance of Wills and Legal Preparations

32:55: Transformative Experiences in Death Work

35:49: Visibility and Community Engagement in Death Conversations

38:34: Finding Joy in the Conversation About Death

Today we’re exploring the concept of glimmers (first coined by Deb Dana). These are small, positive moments that you can connect into - that can help you to navigate grief. She discusses how these glimmers can shift our nervous system state and provide comfort amidst pain.

There is such power in us being present and connecting with simple joys in life, such as nature, pets, and daily rituals. Shared from my heart with the encouragement to actively seek out these moments and incorporate them into their daily practices, particularly through gratitude journaling.

Key takeaways

• Glimmers are micro moments that can help in grief.
• They can shift our nervous system state positively.
• Presence and connection are vital in navigating grief.
• Simple joys can be found in everyday life.
• Glimmers can coexist with feelings of pain and sadness.
• Practicing gratitude can enhance awareness of glimmers.
• Connecting with nature and pets can provide comfort.
• It's important to acknowledge and express emotions.
• Finding glimmers can be a daily practice.
• Glimmers support the journey of grief and healing.

Disclaimer:

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This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Understanding Glimmers: The Opposite of Triggers

04:41: Finding Joy in Simple Moments

10:00: The Power of Connection and Presence

11:54: Daily Practices for Recognizing Glimmers