Raising high-achieving teens is not about pushing harder—it’s about aligning better. We reveal how you can use coaching strategies that keep your teen motivated, connected, and resilient—even when the inevitable, emotional potholes appear. And teens face dozens of emotional potholes in an average school day. It's easy for them to get out of alignment quickly which in turn can create alignment problems with you as a parent.

We've faced this pothole/alignment issue as dads, coaches, and teachers. Let's take this whole pothole thing head on and explore some practical solutions that you can implement with your teen right away!

The Timestamps

00:00 Understanding Alignment in Relationships

03:03 Emotional Potholes and Their Impact

06:00 Navigating Values and Goals

08:17 The Importance of Check-Ins

11:07 Closing Thoughts on Alignment

Takeaways

-Alignment is crucial in relationships, not just for cars.

-Teens face bigger and faster emotional swings than parents.

-Parents and teens often share the same goals but can misalign.

-Emotional potholes knock teens out of their alignment.

-Values play a significant role in maintaining alignment with goals.

-Regular check-ins can help assess emotional states.

-Parents should focus on relationship value over achievement.

-Strong connection helps teens get back on track faster.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever felt your heart race while watching your teen compete or perform, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—sitting in the stands, palms sweaty, wondering if I’ve done enough to prepare them for this moment. We've also been a little shaky at times before an crucial conversation or uncomfortable situation.

Confidence as a parent isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we intentionally build. In this episode,we use the metaphor of a pre-flight checklist to shifting from "parenting" to “coaching.” You’ll discover how to prepare for high-pressure moments so you can show up calm, ready, and modeling confidence your teen can mirror. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Confidence Question

02:31 Building Confidence Through Evidence

05:13 The Role of Systems in Parenting

08:02 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching

11:21 Preparing for High-Pressure Moments

Takeaways

-Confidence comes from doing and having evidence of success.

-Build a "pre-flight checklist" to prepare for parenting challenges.

-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance confidence in both parents and teens.

-High performance habits can help parents feel more confident in their roles.

-It's important for parents to recognize their own high-pressure moments.

-Asking great questions can help parents coach teens effectively.

-Confidence needs to be continuously cultivated.

-Parents should model preparation for high-pressure situations to their kids.

-Feeling nervous while watching kids perform is common and can be managed.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

What is the most important relationship? We've got our answer. Do you have your answer? We won't really fight you over this, but we absolutely, positively believe it is the parent-teen relationship. And...parenting a teen athlete or performer isn’t just another stage of life—it’s a high-stakes job with an expiration date!

Let's get real about what it takes to win in this short window of time that you get with your high achieving teen. If you're tired of your traditional parenting tactics that fall flat, you’re going to want to hear how coaching can change everything—especially implementing the high performance habit of influence.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Most Important Relationship in the World

03:26 Identity Development in Adolescence

06:18 Modeling Behavior and Future Relationships

09:15 The Role of Influence in Parenting

12:14 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability

13:47 Growth Mindset and Parental Growth

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We also are posting valuable content on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-galley/

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

When your high achieving teen starts tuning you out, it’s a warning sign—not a "drive off the cliff" moment. It’s a chance to upgrade your approach. A welcome chance to shift from parenting to coaching.

In this commuter-friendly--"I'm too busy to listen to long form podcasts"--conversation, we explore how a traditional parenting strategy fails miserably—and how coaching habits rooted in connection, curiosity, and courage can unlock your teen’s highest potential.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Power of Listening in Parenting

07:49 Influence and Expectations in Child Development

11:22 Finding Balance: Communication and Connection

Takeaways

-Talk less, smile more is a powerful approach to connecting.

-Listening > lecturing.

-Influence decreases as parents talk more!

-Fewer words and better timing can enhance communication.

-Letting teens sit in uncomfortable emotions can be beneficial.

-Asking good questions leads to deeper conversations.

-Parents should avoid giving unsolicited advice.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Is your playbook outdated? Discover how questions—not commands—empower your teen athlete. You’ve worked hard to give your teen every opportunity for success—but is your parenting actually helping them thrive or holding them back? In today’s episode, we dive into why shifting from advice-giver to question-asker could be the most powerful move you make.

Timestamps

00:00 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching

02:52 Relationship Building is Where It's At!

04:25 Understanding the Role of Expectations

07:27 The Power of Questions in Parenting

Takeaways

-Realizing the old parenting playbook isn't effective is crucial.

-The relationship with teens is paramount for effective parenting.

-Understanding expectations can alleviate pressure on teens.

-All progress starts with the truth in relationships.

-Asking questions fosters autonomy in teens.

-Communication should shift from advice-giving to inquiry.

-Empowering teens through questions is essential for their development.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Parents! CHAOS alert! Ever feel like you're drowning in the chaotic shuffling of schedules, calendars, practices, carpools, uniforms, and GPS instructions?! Well, you probably are! Let's throw you a rescue donut (and maybe a chocolate one, too) and help you create some clarity and control. Want to know how you can turn your family scheduling chaos into "organization on the go?" OK, we've got something for you that you'll wish you had yesterday!

In this week's episode, Zoya Lehrer, co-founder of Orgo--the shared calendar app for crazy busy sports parents--shares the origin story of this amazing app. While on her journey as a supermom managing the messiness of scheduling and organization with three very athletic and active daughters, she and her hubby, and her girls were NOT feeling the joy. They were feeling the pain! The Lehrer family eventually reached a point where the chaos--and we're talking CHAOS in all caps--was as Zoya puts it: untenable!! So she decided to leave the fin-tech corporate world and is now on a mission to help parents just like her, and YOU, to calm the chaos.

Tune in to hear Zoya discuss the fascinating and essential concept of "time literacy," and why we as moms and dads (along with our kids) MUST understand it!

This is a must listen for your crazy busy parents smack dab in the middle of those precious, youth sports and teenage years!!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Chaos of Family Sports Scheduling

09:28 Understanding Time Literacy

19:14 The Emotional Toll of Parenting Kids in Sports

28:39 Building a Support Team at ORGO

37:55 Navigating the Balance of Activities & Choices

37:06 Family Values and Measuring Success

39:45 The ORGO Approach to Family Organization

47:12 Finding Calm in the Chaos of Parenting Your Young Athletes & Performers

49:39 Getting Started with ORGO--Let's Keep it Simple for You

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

-Nate & Steve

Hey there high achieving moms and dads! Are you ready to fill your parenting and coaching pan with some gold nuggets?! Simon Timms is in the house and he's got 30 years of parenting wisdom to share. As an experienced father, husband, and licensed therapist Simon knows the ins, outs, ups, and downs of communicating and connecting with teens, especially when the stakes are high and the going is tough! You're going to love this one!

The Timestamps!

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges

00:57 Simon Timms: Background and Experience

07:57 Understanding Teen Pushback

10:49 The Importance of Validation in Parenting

16:42 Navigating Expectations and Communication

22:13 Addressing Negative Core Beliefs in Teens

27:01 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Helping our Teens

28:26 Building Resilience in our Teens

31:07 Understanding Insecurities in Parenting

33:01 Radical Acceptance and Self-Awareness

35:36 Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices

39:04 The Role of Martial Arts in Self-Discipline

44:07 Creating a Safe Haven for Teens

47:31 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching

52:17 Recognizing When to Seek Therapy

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

-Nate & Steve

Whooa parents! Here's a must listen if you want to simplify the complexities of the recruiting process for your young athlete! David Hitz and Athlete Narrative to your rescue!! Let's get real and learn the importance and best practices of personal branding, your role as a Most Valuable Parent, and how technology can become your athlete's trusted guide in recruitment.

Tune is as we engage with David and discuss the common mistakes parents and athletes are making in their efforts to reach out to coaches and colleges! Listen to some success stories that inspire hope for your young athlete! And to make it all even more amazing, learn how EXTREMELY affordable this is for YOU and the masses! Athlete Narrative is changing the recruiting game one athlete at a time!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Athlete Narrative

04:05 Simplifying the Recruiting Process

08:36 The Importance of Finding Opportunities

11:36 The Numbers Game in Recruiting

13:02 Affordable Solutions for Families

13:51 When to Start the Recruiting Process

15:11 Parental Involvement in Branding

17:17 Signing Up for Athlete Narrative

19:26 Building Your Radar Page

21:15 Emailing Coaches Effectively

22:43 Navigating the Conversation: Technical Challenges and Solutions

23:33 Exploring Personal Branding and NIL in Sports

23:54 The Role of Coaches in Athlete Recruitment

24:53 Simplifying the Recruitment Process for Coaches

26:50 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Recruitment

28:08 The Evolution of Recruitment Strategies

30:46 Affordable Solutions for Aspiring Athletes

33:29 The Importance of Hope in Recruitment

38:07 Success Stories: Real Impact of the Service

42:43 Connecting with Athlete Narrative: Final Thoughts

Hey there Most Valuable Parents!

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

-Nate & Steve