Kelly flies solo in this twenty minute episode about making a move without knowing what the next step will be.

There's a reason you don't know next steps. You can't! When you're moving into new territory, you can't know what to plan for until you have a chance to experience the new terrain and feel the new space you're in.

The idea that you have to have a full plan in order to take the first step is one that keeps people frozen in place for decades.

There's pure magic in forward motion. Listen in!

Welcome to another episode of the Me Skills Podcast, where we lean into self-love and great ideas that build a better life. In this episode, your hosts Kelly and Tish are joined by special guest Cindy Bidar.

We chat with Cindy about self-coaching. Yep, you can self-coach yourself and it’s not complicated at all! Listen in as Cindy shares a few examples of how she uses self-coaching in her life/business.

This conversation was also perfect timing for something Tish was dealing with and they go into detail and chat about that where Kelly points out fixed mindset versus growth mindset.

(Note: this episode, as usual, contains swearing. 😉)

About Cindy: Cindy Bidar is a small business consultant. She works with new coaches, course creators, and content marketers to help them attract their ideal client, grow their email lists, and market their businesses more effectively without hiring a big team or wasting time on social media.

Note Worthy Timestamps:

[00:15:12] - Most of Cindy's self-coaching sessions involve these two simple things.

[00:16:10] - Cindy dismissed mindset work for years because she thought it was a bunch of bullshit.

[00:16:28] - What happened that changed Cindy's perspective about mindset work.

[00:25:15] - Kelly shares some things she wrote down in her shadow journal

[00:38:01] - Tish shares her interesting encounter with a stranger, she had breakfast with, and a question that person asked. The question that sent her into an emotional whirlwind.

[01:04:25] - Kelly shares some thoughts as a follow-up from our conversation & her perspective on Tish's meeting the stranger she had breakfast with.

Key Takeaways:

Here are some key points you’ll take away from this episode:

· Understanding mindset: thoughts create feelings, actions, results.

· Fixed vs. Growth Mindsets

· Writing releases power and fear from thoughts.

· Navigating body positivity and growth mindset challenges.

· Cindy’s view on incremental mindset changes (importance of small steps in self-transformation).

· Self-coaching techniques such as stream of consciousness writing.

Next week we’ll be chatting about our Future Selves. A perfect follow-up to this conversation about self-coaching.

Resources Mentioned:

· Brooke Castillio: The Life Coach School Podcast

· Julia Cameron: The Artist’s Way Book

Welcome to another episode of the Me Skills Podcast, where we lean into self-love and great ideas that build a better life. In today’s episode, we kick off with Kelly reading a few things from Anthony Di Mello's book Awareness and discussing insights we had.

Then we jump right into the main topic for today’s episode – opening yourself up to love later in life & as fat women. Our personal stories take center stage as we explore the challenges and triumphs of maintaining relationships, from long-distance dynamics to defining boundaries and communicating needs.

Tune in for an engaging conversation!

(Note: this episode contains swearing.)

Note Worthy Timestamps:

[04:32] – Reading from the book awareness: “most people, even though they don’t know it, are asleep”…

[00:16:12] – Tish shares how she met Jaime.

[00:26:54] – Kelly kicks off talking about her relationship by a question Tish asked – how long had it been, before meeting Bob, since you’d been in a relationship?

[00:45:02] – An “unconventional” thing Kelly did when she decided to pursue dating again.

[48:40] – Recognizing sexual importance, connection, and compatibility in dating

[01:17:30] – Embrace change and be open to love.

Key Takeaways:

From the book Awareness, exploration of "schema” and spiritual awakening.

Kelly recounts feeling unlovable and her experiences that led to emotional shutdown, including an assault and PTSD.

Relationships after 50? Tish and Kelly say yes! From personal growth to rediscovering sexual pleasure, they unpack the beautiful complexities of later-life romance.

Resources Mentioned:

• Anthony Di Mello’s Book Awareness
• Armchair Expert Podcast

• [00:03:52] – Vision, curiosity, creativity, fun. That’s how Kelly knows what she’s supposed to be doing.
• [00:06:13] – A comment about the first Me Skills episode.
• [00:11:18] – About Michelle
• [00:17:17] – Michelle jumps right into sharing about her mental health crisis & takes us through how it started, making a plan & then the suicide attempt.
• [00:26:07] – Who saved Michelle’s life.
• [00:28:59] – What happened when Michelle woke up (hint: she wasn’t happy about it!)
• [00:54:45] – The importance of being there for someone struggling with mental health.

• [01:01:35] – Do you find it difficult to take help? (And why Kelly says take not ask)
• [01:09:20] – Appearances can be misleading. (Kelly & Tish both say that what they knew about Michelle, & having even met her in person, they would have never guessed she was struggling with anxiety & depression.)
• [01:12:22] – You don’t always have to be strong!

• [00:00] – Intro
• [03:46 ] – Chat about authenticity and depth in sharing.
• [19:42] – Bariatric surgery made body smaller, but not better.
• [35:21] – Personal growth enables sharing and having tough conversations.
• [45:26] – Questioning if losing weight conflicts with body positivity.

• Personal growth enables sharing and having tough conversations.
• Importance of listening to one's body and knowing what's best for oneself.
• Is losing weight inherently anti body positive?
• When you have a value that you hold what other values overlap it?

• Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight