Super Lawyer Sandy Roxas is back to talk about divorce and her advice on getting out quickly (or quick-er) so you can get on with moving forward. Preplanning is key. Think about all the issues that need to be addressed. The spouse who makes more likely pays more (support). A lazy spouse. What the courts will consider. Minimizing consequences. Dealing with a litigious attorney. (Sandy Pro-Tip: If the fees are running up, terminate the attorneys and try mediation.) Making sure you have an attorney with your best interest at heart. Attorney fees as sanctions. Spending more money to ask for more money. Custody games. The effect on the kids. Manipulations. Document everything (record audio/video--but disclose it per the law, keep texts, emails, put verbal agreements in writing). Needing evidence. False allegations. It's all about credibility in family court. Emotions and fueling fire. Aiming for amicable. Focusing on the finish line. Getting therapy to get you through it. The expense of divorce and the options if you can't afford it. Court self-help and workshops. Rules of separation. Date of separation matters. Keeping things separate. Lawyer-up early. Sandy's work in the AAPI community to Stop Asian Hate and pro bono work for hate crime victims. Final Tip: Have our cell phone at the ready to record (let them know you're recording per the law) and back away.

You can find Sandy on her website https://roxaslaw.com on Instagram @roxaslaw and Facebook @Roxas-Law

Episode recorded on 09/18/21

Episode released on 11/10/21

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