Ever wondered why you keep losing it with your kids, even though you know all the "right" things to do?

What if I told you that the missing piece isn't another parenting technique—but how you treat yourself after those inevitable moments when you completely lose your cool?

In this vulnerable solo episode, I share the story of one of my clients who had a complete meltdown with her elementary schooler. Here's what hit me: this wasn't just any parent—she was a kindergarten teacher who helped 25 kids regulate their emotions every single day. Yet when it came to her own child, all that knowledge seemed to vanish the moment she got triggered.

Sound familiar?

If you've ever felt like you're failing at this peaceful parenting thing, if you've wondered why you keep repeating the same reactive patterns even though you know better, this episode will change everything for you.

I dive deep into what's really happening in your brain when your child pushes your buttons—and why your amygdala doesn't care that you've read 17 parenting books. But more importantly, I reveal the cruel irony that keeps us stuck: it's not the losing it that's the problem, it's what we do to ourselves afterward.

In this episode, you'll discover:

* Why the "shame spiral of doom" actually makes it MORE likely you'll lose it again with your kids

* The neuroscience behind why all your parenting knowledge disappears the moment you get triggered

* The three components of self-compassion that can break the cycle of reactive parenting in just 60 seconds

* How one simple shift helped my client stop beating herself up for three days after every parenting mistake

* Why 80% of parents never give themselves this one thing—and how it's sabotaging everything else they're trying to do

* The specific phrases and techniques that can regulate your nervous system faster than any breathing exercise

* How self-compassion isn't "soft" parenting—it's actually what makes authentic repair and connection possible

I share the exact framework my client used to transform her relationship with her parenting mistakes, moving from shame to learning in a matter of minutes instead of days.

Most importantly, I explain why this isn't about becoming a perfect parent—it's about becoming a real one. One who can mess up, take responsibility, repair, and try again with love.

Ready to stop being your own worst critic and start being your own best friend?

I've brought together 35 world-leading experts for the Self-Compassion for Peaceful Parents Summit—completely free for 5 days. You'll hear from incredible voices like:

* Dr. Laura Markham explaining why self-regulation must come before you can help regulate your child

* Jamie Lynn Tatera revealing how to break generational cycles of shame and reactivity

* Emily Delworth sharing somatic techniques that can stop a reactive episode in under 30 seconds

* Dr. Marcy Axness teaching you how to "reparent yourself" while parenting your children

This isn't about collecting more techniques to forget when you're triggered. This is about developing the inner capacity that makes you actually able to use those techniques when you need them most.

Because here's the truth: when you stop fighting with yourself, you naturally stop fighting with your children.

The summit is completely free, with 7 expert interviews available each day for 24 hours. Don't worry about listening to every single one—pick the experts who resonate most with you and dive deep into those conversations.

Register for free at: delightinparenting.com/self-compassion

Your children don't need a perfect parent. They need a real one. And that parent? That's exactly who you already are. You just need to start treating yourself like you believe it.

I'll see you at the summit.