• Afraid of making the wrong choice in love?
    Jul 9 2025

    Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow work and inner child healing, we explore the deeper wounds underneath indecision, and how to start trusting yourself—even when the future feels uncertain.

    This episode is for you if:

    You constantly second-guess your relationship decisions

    You struggle to hear your intuition through the noise of fear and trauma

    You’re scared to leave… but also scared to stay

    You want tools to help you discern truth from self-protection🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

    💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

    Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

    🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

    ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

    💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

    Other resources noted in this episode:

    Healing the Mother Wound- 30 day journey

    Muscle testing- learn how to trust you inner knowing/compass



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    55 mins
  • Why your nervous system craves unhealthy relationships
    Jun 25 2025

    Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections, what happens when our nervous system mistakes chaos for safety, and how dopamine addiction keeps us stuck.

    Sarah bravely reconnects with her younger self, healing deep childhood wounds and reclaiming her power. Listen in to learn practical tools to support your nervous system and break free from patterns that no longer serve you.

    This episode is for you if:

    * You struggle to let go of relationships that you logically know aren't healthy.

    * Your nervous system craves chaos or emotional unavailability.

    * You experience physical anxiety or panic when relationships end.

    * You want guidance on healing relationship-related nervous system triggers.

    🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

    💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

    Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

    🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

    ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

    💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

    Other resources noted from this episode:

    Power Animal Journey

    Testimonial: How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life



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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Boundaries crossed? How to repair family conflict with grace
    Jun 18 2025

    Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety, and how making repairs after conflicts fosters genuine healing. Plus, we'll do a live shadow work practice together to help you understand your fears around boundary-setting and heal the root causes beneath them.

    This episode is for you if:

    * You find it hardest to set boundaries with family.

    * You feel unheard, invalidated, or triggered when boundaries are ignored.

    * You're unsure how to make genuine repairs after a conflict.

    * You want practical ways to support your nervous system when triggered.

    🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

    💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

    Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

    🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

    ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

    💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here

    Other resources noted from this episode:

    Power Animal Journey

    Why boundaries feel hard & how to set them lovingly



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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • Why healthy relationships still trigger you (& that's OK!)
    Jun 11 2025

    Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behind her self-judgment and the pressure she places on her partner, transforming these fears into deeper self-compassion and self-acceptance. Listen in and learn how to embrace relationship triggers as opportunities for growth, understand the cycle of anxiety and judgment, and build true emotional safety from within.

    This episode is for you if:

    * You feel anxious when your partner isn't "doing the work."

    * You struggle with unrealistic expectations about relationships.

    * You frequently judge yourself harshly for getting triggered.

    * You're ready to release old fears and reconnect with your inner child.

    🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

    💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

    Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

    🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

    ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

    💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here



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    1 hr
  • Mastering Boundaries: How to set and actually enforce them
    Jun 4 2025

    Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel uncomfortable but ultimately creates more authentic, fulfilling, and respectful relationships. If you're tired of feeling anxious about enforcing boundaries or resentful when they aren't respected, this episode is exactly what you need.

    This episode is for you if:

    * You feel anxious or guilty when setting boundaries.

    * You've struggled with boundaries being ignored or disrespected.

    * You're ready to move past people-pleasing into empowered action.

    * You need clear steps on how to enforce boundaries effectively.

    🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now!

    💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat

    Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide

    🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library

    ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries

    💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here



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    41 mins
  • The practice I use when codependency creeps in (and how you can try it too)
    Apr 30 2025

    Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence.

    We’ll walk through:

    * How to identify the root fear behind a trigger

    * Why somatic awareness is key to inner child healing

    * How to connect with your inner child (even if no memories come up)

    * What it really means to reparent and set your inner child free

    Want to go deeper? Join Codependency Alchemy, our Substack membership for access to the Healing the Mother Wound 30-day journey — with daily prompts, poems, and guided practices, all for just $4.95 this May. We start tomorrow: just click here to join.

    Want a step-by-step version of this practice? Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

    Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library

    Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾

    Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.



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    52 mins
  • Breaking patterns of people-pleasing & self-abandonment
    Apr 23 2025

    Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries?In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundaries, uncovering her underlying fears of abandonment and loneliness. We get to witness her reconnect deeply with her inner child and learn how nurturing herself with compassion and accountability can transform her healing journey. This session beautifully highlights why self-forgiveness, patience, and consistent self-care are crucial to breaking generational cycles.

    This episode is for you if:

    * You struggle with self-forgiveness and feelings of guilt.

    * You're navigating the complex feelings of abandonment or loneliness.

    * You find yourself trapped in patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment.

    * You're ready to heal your inner child and cultivate deep self-compassion.

    SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now!

    MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist!

    Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide

    Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library

    Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾

    Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey.



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    41 mins