narcissistic behaviors, narcissistic parent, emotional abuse, gaslighting, childhood trauma, CPTSD, inner child healing, toxic family dynamics, emotional neglect, trauma recovery

What if the red flags weren’t loud or obvious—what if they looked like 'love'?
In this video we expose ten narcissistic behaviors you were taught to excuse, minimize, or even admire—especially inside families.

Naming them is the first step to taking back your power and rebuilding real, safe connection.


👇 Grab the FREE Companion Guide: “The Narcissistic Traits Decoder”
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This 3-page PDF helps you:
✔ Recognize the signs
✔ Reclaim your clarity
✔ Begin your healing

⏱ Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:23 - SIGN #1
02:09 - SIGN #2
03:01 - SIGN #3
03:43 - SIGN #4
04:27 - SIGN #5
05:10 - SIGN #6
05:49 - SIGN #7
06:27 - SIGN #8
07:03 - SIGN #9
07:45 - SIGN #10
08:15 - So, What Now?
08:59 - Final Thoughts

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Tell me in the comments:
Which of these narcissistic behaviors were you taught to excuse—or even believe were love? 💛





#NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticParent #RedFlags #GaslightingRecovery #EmotionalNeglect #CycleBreaker #InnerChildHealing #CPTSD #ToxicFamily #CanaryInTheCoalMine

Narcissistic parent. Gaslighting. Childhood trauma. Estrangement. Emotional neglect. This video shares what happened when I confronted my father after years of silence and denial.

It’s been one year since my father and I last spoke.
Not because of a fight.
But because I told the truth—about our childhood.
About the emotional neglect.
About the alcohol.
About the silence.
About the damage.

This is the most personal video I’ve ever made.

If you were raised by someone who gaslit you, denied your reality, or acted like your pain was a performance—this is for you.

You’re not too sensitive. You’re not making it up. You’re remembering. And that means… you’re healing.


✨ Inside this video:
• The final conversation I had with my narcissistic, emotionally immature father
• How gaslighting distorts your memories
• What emotional sobriety really means
• Why estrangement isn’t cruelty—it’s clarity
• How ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) gave me language, tools, and a path to healing
• The radical power of saying: I was there. I remember. It mattered.



📘 Mentioned in this video:
• Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) Red Book
• Melody Beattie – Book 'Codependent No More'


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💬 Tell me in the comments:
Have you ever tried to speak the truth to a parent who just... refused to hear it?

#narcissisticfather #gaslighting #emotionalabuse #adultchildrenofalcoholics #cptsd #cyclebreaker #estrangement #innerchildhealing #nocontact #canariesinthecoalmine

Being a cycle breaker means healing generational trauma, setting boundaries, and choosing truth—even when it hurts. In this video, we explore what it really means to break toxic family patterns.

Being the first in your family to say “no more” can feel lonely, exhausting, and invisible.
But you are not broken. You are the beginning. 💛

In today’s video, we’re talking about the unspoken truth of being the cycle breaker:
the grief, the courage, the healing—and why it often feels like you’re falling apart before you come back home to yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like the “too sensitive one,” the black sheep, or the emotional truth-teller no one clapped for—this is for you.

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#cyclebreakers #GenerationalHealing #cyclebreaker #TraumaHealing #dysfunctionalfamily

Trauma isn’t always what we think.
It doesn’t just come from war zones, accidents, or abuse.

Sometimes, trauma comes quietly—from emotional neglect, disconnection, or growing up without the support you needed.

In this healing deep-dive, we'll gently unpack:
✔️ What trauma really is (it's not the event-it's the body's response)
✔️ The difference between Big "T" and little "t" trauma
✔️ How emotional neglect and ongoing stress impact your nervous system
✔️ Common trauma responses like fawn, freeze, hyper-independence, and minimization
✔️ 5 Grounding Truths to help healing

We're pulling insight from trusted trauma experts like Dr. Gabor Maté, Pete Walker, Glennon Doyle, Melody Beattie, and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk-along with real-world experiences that will help you feel seen, not pathologized.

Because if you've been asking "What's wrong with me?" for years…
It might be time to ask: "What happened to me?"

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✨ FREE DOWNLOADS for Sensitive Souls

📝 NEW! What Counts as Trauma (And Why You're Not Crazy)
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📘 Free Boundary Worksheet to complement the boundary episode
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🛟 The Canary's Survival Guide – 7 Tools for Sensitive Souls
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#WhatIsTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSDRecovery #cptsd #EmotionalNeglect #childhoodtrauma #CanariesInTheCoalMine

Boundaries, people-pleasing, codependency recovery, emotional burnout-if setting limits makes you feel like the bad guy, you're not alone. Sensitive souls often carry the heaviest guilt.

Have you ever said yes with a smile… and then felt resentful, exhausted, or totally invisible?

Here's the truth: We're not monsters for needing space. We're not selfish for saying no.

We're the canaries in the coal mine-and our guilt isn't proof we're wrong. It's a sign we're rewiring old survival patterns.

In this cinematic deep dive from 'Canaries in the Coal Mine', we explore why boundaries feel so hard for sensitive people, adult children of dysfunctional families, and those recovering from people-pleasing and emotional neglect.

You'll discover the deeper roots of boundary guilt, what really happens when we don't speak up, and how to set loving, clear, guilt-free boundaries-even when it feels terrifying.

Because here, we don't abandon ourselves to keep the peace.
We honor our inner truth, one brave "no" at a time.



🕊️ Inside this Episode:

* Why boundaries feel like betrayal for trauma survivors
* The nervous system's response to saying "no"
* 8 real-world tools for setting boundaries with clarity and care
* What to do when people push back
* How to stop feeling like a monster for protecting your peace



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The Canary's Survival Guide – 7 Tools for Sensitive Souls
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#Boundaries #PeoplePleasing #CodependencyRecovery #ACOA #SensitiveButStrong #NervousSystemHealing #EmotionalBurnout #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaHealing #SelfCareTools #Empaths #TheCanaries

Highly Sensitive Person traits, sensitivity, emotional healing - Have you ever been told you're "too sensitive"? Felt like your emotions were inconvenient, dramatic, or just "too much"?

Here's the truth: You're not broken-you're the canary in the coal mine. And your sensitivity isn't weakness; it's survival wisdom.

In this cinematic deep dive from Canaries in the Coal Mine, we explore what it truly means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Inspired by the pioneering research of Dr. Elaine Aron, you'll discover the four core traits of HSPs, the crucial difference between innate sensitivity and trauma responses, and why society often mistakes emotional depth for fragility.

We'll also walk through practical, real-world tools to protect your energy, honor your nervous system, and thrive in a world that often rewards speed over sensitivity.

Because here, we don't toughen up-we tune in.

🕊️ Inside this Episode:
- The 4 core HSP traits (DOES Model)
- How trauma overlaps with sensitivity (and how to tell them apart)
- How society gaslights sensitive people-and how to stop gaslighting yourself
- Powerful daily tools for Highly Sensitive People to protect their energy

🕯️ Featured Resources I Recommend:
- Documentary: 'Sensitive: 'The Untold Story' (with Dr. Elaine Aron)
- Book: 'The Highly Sensitive Person' by Dr. Elaine Aron
- 'Sensitive is the New Strong' by Anita Moorjani
- 'Quiet' by Susan Cain

✨ The HSP Survival Map: 7 Tools to Protect Your Energy and Honor Your Sensitivity
👉 https://www.thecanariesinthecoalmine.com/b3d41t3hp2

✨ Canary's Survival Guide – "7 Tools for Sensitive Souls"*
👉 https://mailchi.mp/7d6d2342bb0b/the-canarys-survival-guide


💬 Let's Stay Connected:
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Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist. This content is for educational purposes only. Please consult a licensed mental health professional if you need support._


#HighlySensitivePerson #HSP #SensitivityIsStrength #Empath #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #SensitiveSuperpower #DrElaineAron #SelfCareTools #Overstimulation #HSPCommunity #TheCanaries

Have you ever felt like you were playing a part in your family—one you never chose?
👉 The Hero.
👉 The Scapegoat.
👉 The Lost Child.
👉 The Mascot.
👉 The Caretaker.
👉 Or the Switcher—always shifting, always adapting?

This episode dives deep into the 6 hidden roles children take on in dysfunctional families—and how they shape your adult identity, relationships, boundaries, burnout, and even your sense of self.

Whether you grew up with narcissistic parents, emotional neglect, alcoholism, or constant chaos—this video is a compassionate, no-fluff breakdown of the survival roles you learned to play just to stay safe.

🕊️ Because you’re not broken.
You’re just the canary.

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✨ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
✅ The psychology behind each role
✅ How these roles create lifelong patterns (like people-pleasing, overfunctioning, or chronic invisibility)
✅ How to begin breaking free and healing—for real
✅ Why sensitivity is not a weakness—it’s your superpower

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📩 Free Downloads:
🖤 Get your copy of 'A Healing Companion for the 6 Roles' here:
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✨Canary's Survival Guide – '7 Tools for Sensitive Souls' →
👉 https://mailchi.mp/7d6d2342bb0b/the-canarys-survival-guide


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This video is for you if…
- You feel like you’re “too much” or “never enough”
- You grew up walking on eggshells
- You’ve been the fixer, the peacekeeper, the performer
- You’re exhausted from carrying your family’s pain
- You want to stop surviving and start becoming 'yourself'

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💬 Let’s stay connected:
✨ Subscribe for weekly truth-telling, healing tools, and Canary content
🌐 [www.thecanariesinthecoalmine.com](http://www.thecanariesinthecoalmine.com)
📧 Email: thecanariesinthecoalmine@gmail.com
🖤 For the empaths, trauma survivors, and cycle-breakers

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Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist. This content is for educational purposes only. Please consult a licensed mental health professional if you need support.

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#DysfunctionalFamilyRoles #FamilyTrauma #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #AdultChildren #EmotionalHealing #CycleBreaker #CodependencyRecovery #CanariesInTheCoalMine #TraumaAwareness #InnerChildHealing #SensitivityIsYourSuperpower #FamilyDynamics #HealingJourney #SelfAbandonment #acoa

Have you ever felt like the adult in your own childhood? Or found yourself constantly fixing everyone else’s emotions — even now?

In this episode, we explore 9 subtle but powerful signs you may have grown up in a dysfunctional family. We’ll talk about parentification, emotional neglect, codependency, and the quiet ways childhood trauma can follow us into adulthood.

Whether you’re a cycle-breaker, an adult child of alcoholics, or simply someone learning to trust their own emotions — this is for you.

🕊️ You’re not broken. You’re a canary. And your sensitivity? It’s your superpower.

New episodes drop every Monday at 6AM!

For free resources and healing tools, watch YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@canariesinthecoalmines