Narcissistic parent. Gaslighting. Childhood trauma. Estrangement. Emotional neglect. This video shares what happened when I confronted my father after years of silence and denial.

It’s been one year since my father and I last spoke.
Not because of a fight.
But because I told the truth—about our childhood.
About the emotional neglect.
About the alcohol.
About the silence.
About the damage.

This is the most personal video I’ve ever made.

If you were raised by someone who gaslit you, denied your reality, or acted like your pain was a performance—this is for you.

You’re not too sensitive. You’re not making it up. You’re remembering. And that means… you’re healing.


✨ Inside this video:
• The final conversation I had with my narcissistic, emotionally immature father
• How gaslighting distorts your memories
• What emotional sobriety really means
• Why estrangement isn’t cruelty—it’s clarity
• How ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) gave me language, tools, and a path to healing
• The radical power of saying: I was there. I remember. It mattered.



📘 Mentioned in this video:
• Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) Red Book
• Melody Beattie – Book 'Codependent No More'


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Being a cycle breaker means healing generational trauma, setting boundaries, and choosing truth—even when it hurts. In this video, we explore what it really means to break toxic family patterns.

Being the first in your family to say “no more” can feel lonely, exhausting, and invisible.
But you are not broken. You are the beginning. 💛

In today’s video, we’re talking about the unspoken truth of being the cycle breaker:
the grief, the courage, the healing—and why it often feels like you’re falling apart before you come back home to yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like the “too sensitive one,” the black sheep, or the emotional truth-teller no one clapped for—this is for you.

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Trauma isn’t always what we think.
It doesn’t just come from war zones, accidents, or abuse.

Sometimes, trauma comes quietly—from emotional neglect, disconnection, or growing up without the support you needed.

In this healing deep-dive, we'll gently unpack:
✔️ What trauma really is (it's not the event-it's the body's response)
✔️ The difference between Big "T" and little "t" trauma
✔️ How emotional neglect and ongoing stress impact your nervous system
✔️ Common trauma responses like fawn, freeze, hyper-independence, and minimization
✔️ 5 Grounding Truths to help healing

We're pulling insight from trusted trauma experts like Dr. Gabor Maté, Pete Walker, Glennon Doyle, Melody Beattie, and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk-along with real-world experiences that will help you feel seen, not pathologized.

Because if you've been asking "What's wrong with me?" for years…
It might be time to ask: "What happened to me?"

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