In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, host Tania Leichliter discusses the concept of amicable divorce with a guest who shares her personal experience with nesting. The conversation explores the benefits of nesting for children, financial considerations, establishing boundaries, and the importance of positive co-parenting dynamics. Tania emphasizes the need for flexibility, support, and open communication between co-parents to ensure a healthy environment for their children during and after the divorce process.

• Nesting can provide a stable environment for children during divorce.
• Financial considerations should include the costs of two residences.
• Flexibility and adjustment are key in co-parenting arrangements.
• Establishing clear boundaries is essential in a nesting situation.
• Positive reinforcement can improve co-parenting dynamics.
• Disparaging an ex can harm children emotionally.
• Open communication is vital for successful co-parenting.
• Nesting can lead to a smoother transition for children.
• Support each other to foster a healthy co-parenting relationship.
• Planning and organization can ease the challenges of co-parenting.

Navigating Divorce with Grace

The Benefits of Nesting in Divorce

"You can try nesting and how great it can be."

"You need a place with a room for the kids."

"Packing is kind of an art."

00:00 Introduction to Nesting

02:58 The Journey of Nesting

09:48 Navigating Finances in Nesting

13:38 Establishing Boundaries in the Nesting Home

21:02 Navigating Finances and Self-Doubt

21:12 Growth Mindset in Parenting

22:37 Supporting Each Other as Co-Parents

23:43 Encouragement Over Competition

26:27 The Impact of Disparaging Remarks

28:38 Nesting: A Cooperative Approach

30:43 Financial Dynamics in Co-Parenting

32:21 Unique Financial Arrangements

32:22 Top Tips for Successful Co-Parenting

36:21 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

37:50 Resources for Support and Growth

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This conversation focuses on navigating the complexities of divorce with compassion and effective communication. Tania Leichliter emphasizes the importance of flexibility in co-parenting and setting clear rules of engagement to foster amicable relationships between ex-spouses. The discussion provides practical strategies for managing emotional responses and ensuring that the needs of children are prioritized throughout the divorce process.

• Divorce can be navigated without conflict.
• Effective communication is crucial during divorce.
• Flexibility is key in co-parenting arrangements.
• Check your emotional state before reacting.
• Changes in schedules may require renegotiation.
• Children's needs should always come first.
• Setting rules of engagement can improve communication.
• Being open to change benefits everyone involved.
• Documenting agreements helps maintain clarity.
• Believe in a positive future post-divorce.

Navigating Divorce with Compassion

Effective Communication in Divorce

Sound Bites

"Believe in your brighter future."

"Your kids are the key."

"Be flexible, be open."

00:00 Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges

06:39 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

08:08 Resources for Support and Growth

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At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter discusses the essential communication strategies for achieving an amicable divorce. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, compassion, mindfulness, and assertiveness in navigating the emotional challenges of divorce and co-parenting. Tania provides practical techniques for effective negotiation and conflict resolution, encouraging listeners to focus on solutions rather than problems. The episode also includes role-playing scenarios to help listeners practice these communication skills in real-life situations.

• You can't control the other person, only your reactions.
• Being an asshole is counterproductive in negotiations.
• Vulnerability can lead to better communication outcomes.
• Self-compassion is crucial during the divorce process.
• Understanding the 'why' behind requests is essential.
• Focus on solutions, not problems, during mediation.
• Appreciation can foster a more cooperative environment.
• Setting rules for mediation is important for effective communication.
• Role-playing can help practice communication techniques.
• Emotional awareness is key to managing conflict.

Mastering Communication for an Amicable Divorce

Navigating Divorce: The Power of Vulnerability

"You can't control the other person."

"The why is a really important question."

"You want to feel appreciated too."

00:00 Navigating Divorce Communication

11:43 The Power of Vulnerability

20:52 Compassion and Understanding in Negotiation

24:55 Mindfulness and Assertiveness

30:57 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

32:26 Resources for Support and Growth

amicable divorce, communication, co-parenting, negotiation, mindfulness, vulnerability, compassion, assertiveness, appreciation, mediation+

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At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be...

Our Guest for This Episode:

Susan Trotter

Susan Trotter, Ph.D. is a Relationship Coach who is passionate about helping people to feel confident and empowered in their lives. She has expertise in dating, relationships and divorce, with a special interest in the areas of mindset and communication.

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Summary

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, Tania Leichliter and Dr. Susan Trotter discuss the importance of intentional dating during and after divorce. They explore how to prepare for life post-divorce, the significance of understanding one's intentions in dating, and the challenges of navigating relationships after betrayal. The conversation emphasizes effective communication strategies, the impact of narcissism, and the necessity of building self-trust and independence. Key takeaways include the importance of clarity in intentions, the value of positive reinforcement, and the need for personal growth before entering new relationships.

• Start thinking about your post-divorce life before you get there.
• Clarity around your intentions in dating is crucial.
• Every experience has lessons that can inform future relationships.
• You can't control what others do, only how you respond.
• Effective communication is key to healthy relationships.
• Positive reinforcement encourages good behavior in others.
• Narcissism exists on a spectrum; be aware of it in relationships.
• Pay attention to behavior over time to understand a partner.
• Building self-trust is essential after a divorce.
• You must do the hard work on yourself before dating again.

Navigating Intentional Dating After Divorce

Building a Brighter Future Post-Divorce

Sound Bites

"Don't date for the wrong reasons."

"Every experience has lessons for us."

"Narcissism is a continuum."

00:00 Introduction to Intentional Dating

02:38 Preparing for Life After Divorce

05:05 Understanding Intentions in Dating

08:43 Learning from Past Relationships

10:54 Navigating Betrayal and Trust Issues

11:45 Regaining Power After Betrayal

13:57 Effective Communication Strategies

17:59 Building a Foundation of Goodwill

19:43 Leading with Positivity in Communication

20:06 Understanding Narcissism and Its Impact

21:15 Navigating Relationships with Narcissistic Individuals

23:04 Recognizing Patterns in Dating After Divorce

25:02 The Importance of Observing Behavior Over Time

27:46 Building Independence and Trusting Yourself

31:50 Intentional Dating and Clarity of Purpose

37:09 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

38:38 Resources for Support and Growth

intentional dating, divorce recovery, relationship coaching, self-awareness, communication skills, trust rebuilding, narcissism, emotional healing, dating after divorce, personal growth

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In this conversation, Tania Leichliter discusses the complexities of dating and relationships after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of self-love, independence, and rebuilding one's authentic self before entering new relationships. Tania also highlights the significance of having a support system and resources available for those navigating dating during or after divorce.

• The importance of self-reliance after a marriage.
• Rebuilding your authentic self is crucial for future relationships.
• Passion for oneself is foundational for healthy relationships.
• Finding hobbies and friends is essential for independence.
• A partner should complement your independence, not define it.
• Building intimacy requires vulnerability and trust.
• Support groups can provide valuable resources during transitions.
• Success in relationships is measured by what we give, not get.
• It's important to change the narrative around divorce.
• Dating can be approached with courage and self-compassion.

Navigating Love After Divorce: A New Perspective

Rebuilding Yourself: The Key to Healthy Relationships

"You can have something."

"You can lean on each other."

"You should join our support group."

00:00 Navigating Post-Divorce Relationships

03:19 Building Independence and Self-Discovery

07:07 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

08:36 Resources for Support and Growth

divorce, dating, relationships, self-love, independence, support group, rebuilding, intimacy, partnership, personal growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact

In this conversation, Tania Leichliter discusses the importance of self-love and emotional readiness in the context of dating, especially after divorce. She emphasizes the need to understand one's intentions behind dating, the significance of healing from past trauma, and the role of validation in relationships. Tania also highlights the importance of authenticity in online dating and encourages self-reflection through journaling prompts. Ultimately, she advocates for finding fulfillment in various aspects of life rather than relying solely on romantic relationships.

• Self-love is crucial before entering new relationships.
• Dating can be a means of escape if not approached mindfully.
• Understanding emotional baggage is key to healthy dating.
• Intentions behind dating should be clear and honest.
• Loneliness and being alone are different experiences.
• Healing from past trauma is essential before dating again.
• Validation should come from within, not just from others.
• Authenticity in online dating is important for genuine connections.
• Self-reflection through journaling can aid in understanding dating motivations.
• Fulfillment should come from multiple sources, not just romantic partners.

Navigating Love After Divorce

The Importance of Self-Love in Dating

"Love yourself before you love others."

"Are you dating as an escape?"

"Make sure your personality shines through."

00:00 Embracing Change: New Beginnings in Life and Work

01:20 The Journey of Self-Discovery: Healing and Moving Forward

01:32 Dating After Divorce: Readiness and Intentions

11:37 The Role of Validation: Seeking Connection vs. Authenticity

15:52 Navigating Friendships and Relationships

17:41 Understanding Emotional Drivers in Dating

18:23 Patterns in Relationships and Friendships

19:21 Intentions and Emotional Check-ins

20:09 Community and Connection in Dating

20:14 Planning for Future Connections

20:14 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

21:43 Resources for Support and Growth

self-love, dating, divorce, emotional baggage, intentions, loneliness, healing, validation, authenticity, fulfillment

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a

Our Guest for This Episode:

Robyn Vogel

Recognized as one of the top teachers of the Heart in her community, Robyn Vogel, founder of Come Back To Love® is known for providing trauma-informed, heart-centered solutions that are designed to ignite a sense of love, expand the spirit, and heal the past. In a time of fleeting social media interactions, one-hour coffee dates, and a world that looks like it’s falling apart, Robyn offers hope, genuine human connection, and inner transformation. Participants are enveloped in a warm transmission of Divine Love, absorbing heart-healing wisdom shared by Robyn. Seemingly stuck patterns and wounds from the past can find resolution and peace. Participants will gain a renewed sense of love, connection, and intimacy in their lives and witness the activation of their own intuitive heart.

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, Tania Leichliter and Robyn Vogel discuss the intricate relationship between healing from divorce and the journey of dating. They explore the importance of self-compassion, recognizing patterns in past relationships, and the necessity of healing before entering new romantic connections. The conversation emphasizes that while dating can be a part of the healing process, it is crucial to focus on personal growth and emotional well-being. Robyn shares insights from her trauma-informed coaching practice and the significance of community support in healing. The episode concludes with a discussion on retreats that combine personal development with community connection.

• Divorce can be navigated amicably with hope.
• Healing is essential before dating again.
• Recognizing patterns in past relationships is crucial.
• Self-compassion plays a key role in healing.
• Emotions are like waves; they will pass.
• Community support enhances the healing process.
• You can heal and date simultaneously, but balance is key.
• Identifying your worthiness of love is vital.
• Engaging in retreats can foster deep healing.
• The journey of healing is ongoing and requires patience.

Navigating Divorce with Hope

The Journey of Healing and Dating

"Stop dating and start healing."

"You are lovable just the way you are."

"Self-compassion is key to healing."

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Dating

02:05 Understanding the Healing Process

08:28 Dating While Healing: Is It Possible?

13:40 Recognizing Patterns in Relationships

15:14 Exercises for Self-Discovery and Healing

21:13 Daily Practices for Self-Compassion

21:34 Mindfulness and Self-Awareness

22:33 Neuroscience of Thought Patterns

23:58 Rewiring Negative Beliefs

26:02 Challenging Limiting Beliefs

28:12 Emotional Healing and Regulation

30:29 Compartmentalization and Emotional Processing

32:52 Retreats and Community Healing

43:19 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

44:48 Resources for Support and Growth

divorce, healing, dating, trauma-informed coaching, emotional resilience, self-compassion, relationship patterns, personal growth, intimacy, community support

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, Tania Leichliter discusses the importance of being solutions-oriented during the divorce process. She emphasizes the need to focus on solutions rather than problems, particularly when navigating physical separation, emotional challenges, and financial uncertainties. Tania shares practical strategies for creating a healthy co-parenting schedule and highlights the value of support systems and resources available for individuals going through divorce. The episode encourages listeners to take charge of their emotions and invest in their independence as they transition through this challenging time.

• Focus on solutions, not problems.
• Empower yourself by finding solutions.
• Physical separation can be managed creatively.
• Financial clarity is essential during divorce.
• Invest in your independence and skills.
• Stop blaming others for your feelings.
• Create a co-parenting schedule that works for everyone.
• Utilize support systems and resources available.
• Communicate solutions effectively with your ex.
• Join supportive communities for guidance and encouragement.

Be Solutions-Oriented in Divorce

Navigating Divorce with a Positive Mindset

"Be solutions-oriented."

"Invest in your independence."

"Take back your power."

00:00 Introduction to Solutions Orientation

03:46 Transition Planning in Divorce

10:37 Financial Clarity and Support

13:58 Empowerment Through Solutions

19:56 Creating a Supportive Environment

22:59 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

24:28 Resources for Support and Growth

divorce, solutions-oriented, co-parenting, financial clarity, emotional empowerment, amicable resolution, support systems, communication, transition planning, Better Than Bitter

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better...