What if the loudest voice shaping your confidence has never belonged to “them” at all but to the stories you’ve been telling yourself about their opinions?

This throwback episode takes a fresh look at validation and why so many of us treat other people’s opinions as the final verdict on our worth. Leslie Randolph breaks down how this instinct forms, why it feels so compelling, and how it quietly chips away at self-confidence when we rely on external cues to decide who we can be. She invites you to question the idea of “everyone” watching or judging and to notice how often those fears come from your own inner dialogue rather than real people with real thoughts. What shifts if you stop assuming the worst? What new moves become possible when your own approval matters more than imagined commentary from the sidelines?

This episode offers a practical path back to self-confidence through stronger self-trust. Confidence expands when you give yourself the validation you keep seeking elsewhere and take action anyway—whether that means pitching the idea, wearing the loud dress, trying something new, or choosing a path that feels true to you. It’s a reminder that the most powerful relationship you build is the one you build with yourself.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Core Idea of Self-Confidence

06:09 How Others’ Opinions Shape Confidence

09:06 Why We’re Wired to Seek Validation

15:09 Caring About Opinions Without Losing Yourself

17:52 Identifying Who “They” Really Are

20:46 How to Challenge Assumed Judgments

23:56 Strengthening Self-Trust and Personal Confidence

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Positivity turns out to be less of a lucky personality trait and more of a skill you can shape with intention.

At the center of this conversation is a simple idea: confidence grows when you learn to guide your attention instead of letting your brain run on autopilot. Leslie Randolph explains why teens often slip into negative thinking and why women who want stronger self-confidence feel the same pull. The mind naturally scans for what feels hard, yet the ability to shift toward positivity is always available once you understand that this habit can be trained.

From there, Leslie highlights the practices that make optimism feel real rather than forced. Catching yourself in a spiral, pausing long enough to ask a better question, and using gratitude as a grounding tool help confident teens and confident women build a steadier inner voice. Even small changes in daily conversation, like naming what went well, create a mindset that notices good moments with more clarity. The heart of her message is simple: positivity becomes a powerful part of your life when you choose it with intention, and that choice strengthens self-confidence in ways that last.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Quest for Positivity

03:45 Genetics vs. Choice: Understanding Positivity

09:29 Shifting Perspectives Through Mindfulness

15:13 Building a Daily Habit of Positivity

19:11 Positivity and Reality: Finding the Balance

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Mindfulness stops being a buzzword when kids learn to use it in real time to calm their bodies, name their feelings, and stay connected to their breath when life gets loud.

Leslie sits down with Julie Freeman, Executive Director of KNOWTICE, to talk about how mindfulness for kids can shape the kind of self-awareness that leads to genuine self-confidence. Julie shares how small, repeatable moments, like pausing to notice a feeling or grounding the body before reacting, help children manage stress, stay present, and access their best thinking. When mindfulness starts early, kids learn they have control over their reactions, which builds emotional strength that grows with them through adolescence and adulthood.

The conversation goes beyond quiet moments and breathing exercises to reveal how these early lessons create confident teens who trust themselves and understand their emotions. Leslie and Julie also reflect on how this work ripples forward into adulthood, showing up in the way confident women lead, parent, and care for themselves. By teaching kids mindfulness now, we give them tools to feel steady in uncertainty and connected to who they are - a foundation every confident person stands on.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Mindfulness Matters Now

05:28 KNOWTICE Origin Story and Julie Freeman’s Path

11:32 Why Start Early Mindfulness for Kids and Brain Development

16:54 Classroom Basics Mindful Body Stillness and Calming Techniques

22:23 Mindful Parenting and Raising Confident Teens

31:24 The 90-Second Rule and Managing Anxiety in Real Time

43:17 From Mindful Kids to Confident Women

45:42 How to Bring KNOWTICE to Your School

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Confidence isn’t a personality trait you’re born with but a daily choice you make in the smallest moments.

Self-confidence doesn’t always show up with fireworks. Sometimes it starts as a mindset shift so small no one else can hear it, a quiet decision to replace old self-talk with something kinder. Leslie Randolph sits down with Simone Knego to redefine what it really means to become confident women and raise confident teens, not through perfection or performance but through daily honesty and courage.

Simone’s REAL framework (Respect yourself, Embrace failures, Ask for what you want, Live without limits) turns self-confidence into something you can build like a muscle. She shares stories from motherhood, adventure, and loss that reveal how mindset isn’t just what you think, but how you recover, reset, and speak to yourself when things get hard.

If your inner voice became a loudspeaker, would it motivate you or tear you down? Whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or trying to model it for someone watching, this episode is a reminder that confident women aren’t born - they’re built one thought, one ask, one brave moment at a time.

Episode Breakdown

00:00 Why Self-Confidence Matters for Women and Teens

02:23 Simone Knego’s REAL Method for Building Confidence

07:45 How Self-Talk Shapes Your Mindset

09:02 Modeling Confidence for Children and Confident Teens

15:05 Climbing Kilimanjaro to Overcome Fear

20:08 Asking for Help and Breaking People-Pleasing Habits

26:39 Control-Alt-Delete Mindset Reset

32:06 Moving Forward After Setbacks and Self-Doubt

37:01 Daily Confidence Practices: Affirmations and Gratitude

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We’ve all been there: standing at the crossroads of a parenting decision and wondering, am I making the wrong call? For many of us, the idea of letting our kids quit an activity feels like giving in—or worse, failing them. But what if the word “quit” is the problem in the first place?

In this episode, Leslie Randolph sits down with psychologist Dr. Emily Gordon to reframe what’s really going on when kids want out of something. Together, they swap “quitting” for a new lens: detours, decisions, and opportunities to choose differently. The conversation is equal parts practical and freeing, with guiding questions parents can ask themselves and their kids to figure out whether an activity is helping or hurting, whether resistance is about the activity itself or just the transition into it, and how to know when it’s time to stay the course, or turn down a new road.

They also talk about the deeper goal behind these decisions: raising confident teens who know how to check in with themselves, build resilience, and trust their own judgment. From family values to tween autonomy to the lifelong practice of self-confidence, this episode shows how even small parenting choices can strengthen the foundation for confident women in the future.

The takeaway? There’s no universal “right” answer. There’s only the right decision for you and your family, right now.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Letting Kids Quit: Why It Feels So Hard

03:02 Meet Dr. Emily Gordon

05:03 Reframing Quitting as Taking a Detour

07:18 A Framework for Making Parenting Decisions

12:07 Parental Pressure, Fear, and Self-Confidence

14:22 How to Help Adolescents Name Their Feelings

17:09 Anxiety, Transitions, and Building Resilience

20:03 Balancing Parental Control and Tween Autonomy

29:07 Weighing Benefits, Costs, and Family Values

31:08 Protecting the Parent-Child Relationship

34:48 Confidence, Resilience, and Growth

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We all crave comfort. But the truth is, self-confidence isn’t built in comfort zones, it’s built in the moments when we’re willing to be uncomfortable.

Leslie Randolph introduces the idea of deliberate discomfort and why it’s the key to both confident teens and confident women. Drawing from her own life and her coaching work, Leslie unpacks how stretching beyond what feels easy builds the emotional resilience we need to face challenges, pursue big goals, and show up with confidence in everyday life.

What if nothing changes because nothing changes? What if growth, joy, and genuine self-confidence all live on the other side of discomfort? Whether you’re raising a teen girl or navigating your own season of change, this episode will remind you that confidence isn’t about avoiding fear or struggle, it’s about the willingness to walk through it.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why Comfort Zones Don’t Build Confidence

03:17 How Health Challenges Sparked a Wake-Up Call

05:56 Resistance to Change and Why It Feels So Hard

09:00 What Deliberate Discomfort Really Means

12:24 How Discomfort Builds Emotional Resilience

14:00 Everyday Examples of Practicing Discomfort

18:02 Asking for Help as a Confidence Skill

20:54 Strength, Growth, and True Self-Confidence

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Some days feel heavier than others. Whether it’s a personal heartbreak or a tragedy in the news, the weight of the world can be a lot to carry. And if you’re someone who feels deeply, it’s not always clear how to keep moving forward.

In this episode, Leslie Randolph offers a thoughtful perspective on what it means to live with sadness, anger, and grief without letting them take over. She shares how self-confidence plays a role even in the hardest moments, not as a way to power through or shut emotions down, but as the quiet willingness to feel it all. What if confidence isn’t about being fearless or upbeat, but about staying present when things are messy? What happens when we let go of the idea that we’re supposed to be happy all the time?

Leslie invites us to stop “shoulding” ourselves into silence or shame. There’s no timeline for healing and no perfect way to process pain. Whether you’re a teenager building confidence for the first time or a grown woman learning how to trust yourself again, this episode will meet you where you are with compassion, clarity, and a few tools to help you keep going.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why We Need Tools for the Hard Days 01:17 Accepting That Sadness Is Part of Life 03:03 Why Asking “Why” Doesn’t Always Help 05:12 You Have to Feel It to Heal It 06:48 The Pressure to Be Happy All the Time 08:12 Confidence Means Feeling the Hard Stuff Too 10:04 Avoiding Discomfort Isn’t the Same as Staying Safe 11:28 Compassion Over Comparison During Grief 13:18 How to Stay Connected When Everything Feels Heavy 14:56 Big Feelings Don’t Last Forever Even When It Feels Like They Might

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At every age and stage, we long to belong. But too often, that desire comes at the cost of abandoning parts of ourselves. True friendship isn’t about fitting in - it’s about finding your people: the ones you like, and the ones you feel good being around.

Leslie Randolph is joined by friendship expert and advice columnist Nina Badzin for a conversation about friendship and friend groups, especially during the tween and teen years. But the truths they explore reach well beyond middle school. How do we recognize a real friend versus someone we’re just trying to impress? Why do so many of us stay in groups that drain us? And how can we help kids build friendships that reflect who they are, not who they think they’re supposed to be?

Nina shares what she’s learned from years of listening to people wrestle with connection, exclusion, and the pressure to belong. Together, Leslie and Nine unpack the difference between fitting in and finding true friendship, the quiet harm of chasing the “right” group, and the role adults play, often unintentionally, in keeping those patterns alive. They also talk about the value of community and how spaces like family dinners, extracurriculars, and youth groups can offer kids a sense of belonging that isn’t dependent on social status.

This episode is a gentle reminder that strong friendships aren’t built on proximity or history alone. They’re built on trust, emotional safety, and mutual effort. And that’s true at any age.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Friendship and Confidence

03:04 Meet Nina Badzin: Friendship Columnist and Expert

05:00 The Myth of the Perfect Friend Group

08:09 Fitting In vs. Authentic Friendship

11:12 How Parents Shape Social Pressure

15:04 What Makes a Friendship Real

20:10 Trust, Safety, and Showing Up as Yourself

24:05 Building Social Confidence Through Multiple Buckets

28:02 Where to Find Belonging Beyond School

30:12 Friendship vs. Community: Why Both Matter

38:09 Practical Advice for Building Real Friendships

41:00 Letting Go and Moving On with Openness

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