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We've all been there wondering: "Am I growing and healing, or just reinforcing old patterns?" Whether you're questioning if you should stay or leave, set boundaries or be understanding, there IS a compass to guide you.

And I tell you all about it in this episode. So that you can practice what truly builds better relationships (to yourself and others).

The path to healthier relationships isn't about following all the social media relationship advice. It's about transforming how you view your challenges. Instead of seeing your attachment insecurities as evidence you've pulled the shortest straw in life, what if they're actually your training ground for becoming exceptional at relationships?

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Ready to transform your relationship triggers into pathways for healing? Join me in this episode to discover how your "crazy" moments are your greatest teachers on the journey to secure connection.

Welcome to the Relationship Revolution, where we're flipping the script on emotional triggers in relationships. Your nervous system activation isn't a failure—it's a pathway leading to your core wounds and deepest desires when you learn to follow it down rather than manage it away.

In this episode, I walk you through my own triggering moment and how I transformed into gold. You get to meet my three parts:

• an anxious little girl needing reassurance
• a "go-getter" needing new leadership
• a sensual "lover" needing freedom of expression

By meeting these needs myself rather than demanding someone else fulfill them, I build self-esteem instead of diminishing it.

The difference between emotionally mature and immature relationships isn't the absence of conflict—it's how you move through it together. Conflict either becomes a doorway to deeper intimacy or a cycle of pain, depending on your capacity to hold yourself through it.

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Ready to reimagine everything you thought you knew about relationships? Season 3 of the Uncover You podcast turns conventional self-development upside down.

For too long, you've told yourself that you need to "fix" yourself to deserve love. You've internalized the belief that success means you've "healed enough" to have a good relationship. This mindset creates endless cycles of shame and self-judgment when relationships don't go as planned.

What if your attachment wounds, your sensitivity, and your relationship challenges aren't obstacles to overcome but specialized training for deeper connection? What if people who have consciously worked through attachment trauma actually make better relationship leaders than naturally secure attachers who haven't developed these emotional muscles?

This season, I'm sharing my own messy, beautiful journey through relationships. I'm not speaking from some imaginary mountaintop of perfect healing—I'm right in the trenches with you, learning to love my nervous system responses, finding gold in my "crazy episodes," and showing you that relationship growth isn't about reaching some mythical destination of perfection.

The Relationship Revolution is about tending to three intertwined gardens: your inner landscape, your partner's inner world, and the relationship itself. It's about rejecting one-size-fits-all dating advice that creates more shame when it fails. It's about recognizing that your unique path to love might look nothing like someone else's—and that's exactly how it should be.

Are you ready to rebel against outdated relationship paradigms and discover the leader you're meant to be?

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Have you ever experienced that you want to do things differently in relationships with yourself or others - but the old programming is strong? Stopping you from doing that new thing.

To break old patterns and start doing something new, you need a strong why, a motivation. “I should be doing that” just isn’t strong enough to overcome old survival strategies.

In this episode, I share how you can tap into rebellion against old conditioning. And stand for love for yourself and your relationships.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationships
Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you want
Ep180: From anxious and obsessing to enjoying her relationship, with Kate

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Two years ago, after starting the most secure relationship Kate had ever had, she noticed anxiety about being enough or too much. Her system wasn’t used to consistency, kindness and support, and her body wasn’t sure it could trust it.

Kate was often worried Ben would leave for someone “more attractive”. And when her fear and hurt would show up, she feared she was ruining everything.

After doing Being Me a second time everything shifted. No more stuck in reactive loops, endless “solving” conversations, and bracing for being let down. Instead, she feels safe in herself, playful and fully enjoying her relationship.

In this episode, Kate shares how her relationship and life went from anxiety and obsessing to feeling safe and enjoying.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep97: Releasing shame - live coaching #3 with Kate
Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactions
Ep96: “I’ve done so much work, why am I not healed yet??”
Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactions

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We often have this idea that healing means we’re NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow.

If you’re avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has kept you safe) - you need to learn how conflict can open doors to more intimacy and connection.

In this episode, I invite you to discover the gift of friction and how to feel safe moving through it.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactions
Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactions
Ep154: Understanding and practicing honesty

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I want to get to the bottom of our reactive relationship patterns and what’s driving them. Because when we do we can heal and shift things at the core.

One thing that I found hiding behind other emotions or protective patterns - on my own journey and working with a lot of clients - is shame. Shame is not just an emotion, but a full body-mind-emotion, and even soul, experience.

In this episode, I uncover shame so you can move that linchpin and have a whole house of cards of protection patterns fall apart. Let’s get to the mother of all lies and stop believing it.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this year
Ep 136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactions
Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you want
Ep 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment

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Since I’m all about embodied, turned-on living and relating, I keep exploring what else can support my body in more aliveness. When I find things that have a big enough impact, I bring them into my programs.

In the past year, I’ve focused on hormonal health and cyclical living and experienced HUGE benefits. Dr Maria Tedim is a female hormonal health specialist who has guided me in having unexpected levels of energy, creativity, and general gusto. (Italian for enthusiasm and vigor.)

In this episode, dr Maria shares how women can work with their body’s cyclical rhythm instead of against it. So you can unlock confidence, radiance and vigor. And why every man should know this for better relationships with their wives, girlfriends, and daughters.

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Learn more about Dr Maria Tedim on Instagram and her website

Check out these related episodes:
Ep114: What is turn-on?
Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this year
Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you long for
Ep117: The turn-on between your feminine and masculine archetypes

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