Welcome to the Security Series! In this episode, we're diving deep into a surprising truth: while releasing the need for external approval is crucial, healthy relationships are absolutely fundamental to understanding and experiencing true love and security. It’s not about being "mushy" or self-indulgent; it's about becoming your own ally and building a foundation of inner strength.

We discuss how love, like any vital resource, needs to flow. When it's hoarded or kept in isolation, it stagnates and ultimately dies. Just as an economy needs the flow of money, your emotional well-being needs the flow of give and receive love. This is why the idea of "love yourself" isn't about being alone; it's about being in a position to love and be loved by others, learning what that truly looks like from those around you. We'll explore Dr. Henry Cloud's insights on how we learn love from our earliest relationships and how allowing others to see your flaws and still like you can teach you to like yourself.

But what if you didn't have those strong examples growing up, or you find yourself isolated now? Don't worry, we've got you covered! We'll share actionable advice on how to find healthy relationships that will bolster your security and well-being.

• Why security is about being comfortable and loving yourself, not about self-indulgence.
• The crucial role of others in learning to give and receive love.
• The danger of isolation and how it stunts emotional growth.
• "Green Flags" to look for in healthy friendships: authenticity, the ability to celebrate others, a general slant toward positivity and gratitude, and resilience.
• Where to look for these supportive relationships, including healthy churches and community groups.
• "Red Flags" to watch out for: dependency, consistent negativity, and a habit of quitting.

1. Make a list of "green flag" people in your life to reach out to.
2. Contact them within the next week to start a conversation.
3. Identify any "red flag" relationships that might be holding you back and consider how to create healthy boundaries.

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In this powerful episode, David Maxwell of Thriving Man tackles a struggle many of us face: releasing the need for approval and letting go of what others think.

David opens with a relatable illustration: trying to impress a professional drummer while playing in a band, highlighting how easy it is to get caught in the trap of focusing on what others think. This desire for external validation can prevent us from truly living as the men we were designed to be. This episode, part of the Insecurity Series, is all about helping you live a thriving life.

The struggle with what others think is not new. From fashion choices to relationship decisions (like picking a partner for appearance rather than connection), we often let external perceptions dictate our lives. David clarifies that it’s not about never caring what people think, but about releasing the need for approval. When you live for others' approval, you lose control of your own life.

Healthy detachment is not coldness or indifference. Instead, it's a mature and balanced way of relating to the world. It allows you to:

• Focus on your individual well-being while engaging in respectful interactions.
• Navigate complex relationships without losing yourself.
• Practice compassion without enmeshment and engagement without undue emotional burden.
• Live authentically, without playing a part or acting out a character.
• Cultivate empathy and build healthy connections, avoiding the people-pleasing trap.

Healthy detachment requires truth:

• Be honest about your own strengths and weaknesses.
• Be truthful in your dealings with others, speaking honestly about your actions.
• Jesus is presented as an example: loving and empathetic, yet speaking uncomfortable truths and not letting others control him.

You cannot control what others think of you, so stop trying. This doesn't mean you don't care, but it means their opinions can't control you. David illustrates this with examples like wearing uncomfortable fashion trends or putting on an "I don't care mask" – both are attempts to control perception. The key is to simply be you.

Trying to control others' opinions often stems from our own insecurity. As you become more secure in who you are, acknowledging both your strengths and weaknesses, you'll develop a peace that permeates all areas of your life. While protecting your name and integrity is important, you ultimately cannot control what happens in other people's minds.

Start by focusing on building your healthy detachment:

• Individual well-being: How are you growing as a man? Explore resources at Thrivingman.com.
• Respectful interactions: Are you cultivating strong friendships and relationships?

By taking these steps to release the need for approval, you will unlock a whole new aspect of your life and truly begin to thrive.

Ready to ditch the "I got it" facade and step into real growth? 💪 This week, we're getting HONEST about our weaknesses and why OWNING them is the key to conquering insecurity! We've all been there, pretending we're fine when the weights are too heavy or relationship struggles weigh us down. It's time to see our vulnerabilities not as failures, but as fertile ground for development.

Remember last week? We talked about embracing a spirit of adventure! Now, we're diving deeper into the journey of conquering insecurity, and HONESTY is our compass. We'll explore why EVERYONE is imperfect, why chasing unattainable perfection sets us up for unhappiness, and how vulnerability is simply an openness to the reality of being human.

Feeling brave? We'll guide you through honestly evaluating yourself (strengths AND weaknesses!), learning from trusted people (even when it's tough to hear!), and inviting the right support into your growth journey.

Stop beating yourself up and start building yourself up! Knowing your weaknesses isn't a defeat; it's the first step to getting stronger.

Stay tuned for next week's video, where we'll tackle the need for others' approval! 👀

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Ready to boldly go where you've never gone before? Just like Captain Kirk on the Enterprise, there's a spirit of adventure inside each of us that yearns to connect with the unknown. But often, life feels less like a starship and more like being stuck in orbit, held back by the gravity of fear and insecurity.

In this episode of ThrivingMan.com, join David Maxwell as we explore how to Unleash Your Courage: Living with a Spirit of Adventure. We'll dive into why that adventurous spark seems to fade as we get older and how to reignite it, breaking free from the paralysis of "what ifs."

We'll uncover two powerful ways to cultivate this vital spirit:

Willingness to Put Yourself Out There:

Remember when you were a kid, learning to walk, undeterred by tumbles? We'll rediscover that "why not?" attitude that allows us to take smart risks and try new things, understanding that messing up is just part of the journey. It's about being authentically you, even when it feels a little scary.

Separating Performance from Identity:

What if a setback didn't define you? We'll explore the crucial skill of detaching your worth from your achievements. Whether you soar or stumble, your fundamental value as a person remains constant. This inner security is the bedrock that allows you to navigate both failure and victory with grounded wisdom.

Ready to take the first step? Here's your mission:

Get Grounded: Identify the unwavering foundations of who you are – your faith, relationships, and core values.

Pick Your Adventure: Choose one area where you can intentionally step outside your comfort zone – whether it's being more outgoing, trying a new hobby, approaching dating with fresh eyes, deepening your faith, or building new friendships.

Reflect and Grow: Start a habit like journaling to process your experiences and track your growth along the way.

Visit Thrivingman.com for more resources to help you on your journey.

It's time to stop holding back. Unleash your courage, embrace the spirit of adventure, and become the man you were designed to be!

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From Self-Critic to Self-Cheerleader: 3 Lessons from Uncle Iroh & Fire Lord Ozai

➡️ Tired of the negative voice in your head? Learn 3 actionable steps to go from constantly criticizing yourself to becoming your own biggest cheerleader! We're using the iconic contrast between Uncle Iroh and Fire Lord Ozai from Avatar: The Last Airbender to show you how.

Hey Thriving Men! David Maxwell here from ThrivingMan.com. We're tackling insecurity head-on!

Learn why your inner "idiot" is holding you back and how to cultivate self-compassion. We'll analyze Iroh's wisdom and Ozai's negativity to unlock the secrets to self-acceptance.

Here's how to transform your inner critic:

• Open Up Your Worldview: Like Uncle Iroh, see the world beyond yourself to reduce self-obsession and criticism.
• Build Solid Relationships: Mirror Iroh's nurturing relationships to shift focus outward and build self-worth.
• Find Your Joy: Embrace simple pleasures like Uncle Iroh to build inner peace and combat negativity.

It starts by looking outward, not inward.

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Stop Blaming, Start Owning! 4 Keys to Take Control & Crush Insecurity

Tired of saying "it's not my fault"? We all do it, often without realizing it!

Learn the 4 crucial keys to owning your journey, taking radical responsibility, and finally letting go of insecurity and the need for perfectionism.

Welcome to ThrivingMan.com! I'm David Maxwell, helping you conquer chaos and thrive. This is the FIX for insecurity we've been diagnosing! Learn why taking responsibility (even when it's hard - my first job story!) is the ultimate power move.

In this video:

• Stepping into Ownership: It's a choice! Learn how self-ownership empowers you (like Jinwoo!).
• Recognize Perfectionism: Your "do it right or not at all" mentality might be keeping you from growth and responsibility.
• Embrace Failure as a Teacher: Shift your mindset! Failure isn't your identity, it's your greatest lesson (growth mindset!).
• Make the Mindset Shift: Separate your worth from your performance for true freedom and resilience.

Ready to take control? Practice separating who you are from what you do. Discover the freedom of authentic ownership!

Check out more resources to help you grow as a man at www.thrivingman.com.

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Unmasking Yourself: Why We Project a False Image & How It Hurts Us 🎭

Do you ever feel like you're wearing a mask, pretending to be someone you're not? You're not alone. This eye-opening video explores the common reasons behind projecting a false image – from social media pressures to our own insecurities.

Quick Question: What's ONE WORD that comes to mind when you think about "faking it"? Share in the comments below!

This is the final part of our "diagnosing" series (catch the previous video on humility vs. insecurity). Now, we're tackling the why behind the facade:

• It feels normal in our society.
• Social media often fuels the highlight reel.
• We see curated versions of celebrities.
• Even church on Sunday can become a performance.
• It's a defense mechanism against rejection.

But what are the real costs of living behind a mask? We'll break down examples (the funny one, the alpha, the aloof) and the surprising consequences, including becoming obsessed with our image, distorting how we see others, seeking validation, and ultimately blocking genuine intimacy. You can't be truly loved if you're not truly known.

Are you ready to take a look in the mirror? Are you filling a role because you're unsure of your identity, or because you're uncomfortable with your authentic self?

Don't miss the next video! We'll be diving into practical steps on how to shed the mask and embrace your true self.

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Ever notice those overpowered anime characters? Take Jin Woo from Solo Leveling. He starts out weak and becomes a total boss, yet he often still doubts himself.

A lot of people think that's humility, but it’s not. True humility isn't about thinking you're less; it's about being secure enough to think of yourself less and focus on others.

I'm David Maxwell from thrivingman.com, where we help you conquer the chaos and build a truly thriving life.

Today, we're tackling a common trap: mistaking self-hatred for humility. We'll unpack C.S. Lewis's powerful quote: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." So many of us get this wrong, constantly putting ourselves down, thinking that's what we're supposed to do. But this mindset hurts us and hinders our growth. Let's dive into how this plays out and how to naturally break free.

The Mask Problem: Remember Jim Carrey in "The Mask"? Slapping on a persona because he didn't know how to be his authentic self? A lot of guys today struggle with this, wearing a "mask" to pretend or play a part because they're insecure. I saw this in myself after I found God, trying to cover up my insecurities by acting "humble," constantly putting myself down. It didn't work! It held me back. We've got to be careful we're not hiding behind a mask, preventing ourselves from learning how to be genuinely authentic in our worldview.

The Gravity Issue: We often see ourselves as the sun in our own solar system, with everything revolving around "me." But while we're not the center of the universe, we're definitely not the trash of the universe either! We tend to go all-or-nothing: either we're the most important person, or we're worthless. This self-hatred doesn't benefit us or our relationships.

The Focus Shift: The key to true humility isn't dwelling on your perceived shortcomings; it's intentionally shifting your focus outward, towards serving and helping others. Think about walking into an event and your first thought being, "Who can I help feel comfortable here?" Genuine care and service is the core of humility. But be warned: serving to "network" or get ahead is just another form of pride. We want to authentically serve because it's a natural expression of humility. Interestingly, it's often in serving others that we discover and develop our gifts.

True humility is being secure enough to take the spotlight off yourself.

• Check your Masks: Are you hiding behind a persona?
• Check your Universe: Does everything revolve around you?
• Work on Shifting Your Focus: Intentionally look for ways to serve and help others.

For more help on living a thriving life, head over to www.thrivingman.com.