Ever catch yourself thinking you need to have it all figured out before stepping into bigger leadership? I recorded this episode twice (tech crashed the first time—apparently even I don't have all the answers about equipment!) because this message hit me so hard on a Sunday drive. If you're waiting for complete clarity before you lead, you're actually disqualifying yourself from being the leader your team needs most.

Ready to lead with clarity instead of confusion? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to navigate uncertainty with confidence and finally step into the leadership identity you're called to embody.

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• You don't need to be the smartest person in the room—you need to embrace that you're not and surround yourself with people who know what you don't
• Curiosity beats certainty every time—model "I don't know, let's find out" instead of pretending to have answers you don't have
• Leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about having the right people and being willing to learn alongside them
• Your people already know you're new—authenticity builds more trust than fake expertise ever will

➡️ The ASK Framework: Accept that not knowing is data (not failure), Seek input from people who see what you can't, and Keep moving while you're learning. Don't stop to figure it all out—learn as you lead.

In your next team meeting, ask "What am I missing here?" instead of pretending you have all the context. Watch how your team responds when you model curiosity over certainty.

"What question have I been afraid to ask my team because I think I should already know the answer?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

You're not someone who makes decisions from panic or pressure…you're someone who leads with intentional clarity and purpose. But sometimes that clarity feels a little cloudy, doesn't it? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is exactly what you need. Today we're talking about the mirror test and why it's a complete game-changer for leaders who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading from their true identity.

💬 "Self-awareness isn't a destination—it's a practice. And the leaders who commit to the practice are the ones who actually change the game." ~Tami Imlay

Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Strategy without self-awareness is expensive chaos—you can't navigate what you can't see clearly
• The best leaders aren't the ones with perfect instincts—they're the ones who catch themselves when they go off course
• Leading from reaction instead of intention costs you team trust, consistency, and burns you out fighting the same patterns
• The Mirror Test using the 3 C's gives you a simple framework to recalibrate in real-time: Catch, Clarify, Choose
• Every decision point is a choice—serve your leadership mission or serve your ego (both are human, but only one builds the future)

➡️ The Netflix story perfectly illustrates what happens when a leader chooses to build the future instead of protecting the past. Reed Hastings lost 800,000 subscribers in the short term, but he knew streaming was the wave of the future—and he made decisions from identity, not impulse.

Practice the Mirror Test this week using the 3 C's. Before your next big decision, ask yourself: What's really driving this? Does this serve my leadership or my ego? What would the leader I'm becoming choose here? Even if you make the same choice, slow down the process and let your heart, gut, and mind catch up with each other.

"When do I default to control, people-pleasing, or avoiding hard conversations? What patterns am I noticing without judgment—just as data?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Ever feel like you're stuck in the hamster wheel of good intentions? You know what you should do as a leader, but somehow you keep falling back into the same patterns. Whether it's avoiding difficult conversations, letting your workout routine slide, or saying yes when you mean no, the cycle feels endless. Today we're talking about how to break free from behavior-based changes that don't stick and start building from the inside out. Because here's the truth: Rome wasn't built in a day, but it also wasn't built by accident.

💬 "You don't need more forced discipline. You need a clearer identity." ~Tami Imlay

Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Identity beats willpower every time — Motivation has a two-week shelf life, but "I am someone who..." statements create lasting transformation
• The Two-Day Rule changes everything — Missing once is human; missing twice builds a different story (and identity)
• Your brain doesn't register negatives — When you say "I'm not someone who skips the gym," your brain hears "skip the gym"
• Link habits to purpose, not just performance — Move from "I have to" to "I get to because it's who I'm becoming"
• Let identity drive action, not emotion — Emotions are a 90-second thermometer, not your decision-making system

➡️ The Three Bricks to Build Identity That Sticks: Speak to who you ARE (not who you're not), link it to purpose (not just performance), and let identity drive action (not emotion). This is how you go from trying to change behaviors to embodying the leader you're meant to be.

Choose ONE identity statement that starts with "I am someone who..." and ties to your leadership vision. Write it down, anchor it to your deeper purpose, and implement the Two-Day Rule. Watch how quickly your actions align when your identity leads.

"Who am I becoming as a leader, and what would that version of me do in this situation?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Have you ever said, “It’s just something I do” when someone complimented you on a skill or strength? I know I have. For a long time, I overlooked the things that came naturally to me—thinking they didn’t really count because they felt easy. But what if that ease is actually the clue to your zone of genius?

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story (inspired by a sweet question from my kids) and a powerful conversation with a client who realized she’d been dismissing the very thing that made her magnetic. If you’ve ever downplayed your strengths or struggled to see what makes you different, this episode is for you.

Let’s take a closer look at what you’re carrying so naturally... and maybe, just maybe, stop calling it “nothing.”

You’re not behind—you’re just starting to see it clearly.

💬 “Your ease might be someone else’s breakthrough.” ~Tami Imlay

If you’ve been circling your calling or second-guessing your next move, it’s time to stop trying to figure it out alone. Let’s cut through the noise together. In a 1:1 Leadership Strategy Call, we’ll map out your next bold step with clarity and confidence—so you can lead with purpose, not pressure. 👉 Book your call now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Just because it’s easy for you doesn’t mean it’s easy for others. That might be your zone of genius.
• Leadership blind spots often come from what we assume is “normal.”
• Three leadership assumption traps to avoid:

1. The Normalization Trap: Thinking everyone thinks and acts like you.
2. Strength Blindness: Dismissing your gifts because they come effortlessly.
3. The Perception Gap: Seeing only from your lens limits your impact.

➡️ You may be overlooking your most powerful leadership strengths simply because they come naturally. Recognizing and owning what comes easy could be the key to unlocking your next level.

Start noticing the things others praise you for but you tend to downplay. Write them down. This week, choose one to name, own, and use with intention.

What feels effortless to me…and why might that be more valuable than I’ve given it credit for?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Have you noticed how hard it’s become to trust anything lately? From AI-curated content to contradictory leadership advice, it’s no wonder leaders are spinning in self-doubt. In today’s episode, I unpack the invisible but costly impact of the Trust Recession—and how it’s not just about the world “out there”… it’s about how it’s eroding your ability to trust yourself.

This one is a gut check.

💬 “If we can't trust ourselves, how are the people we lead going to trust us?”

It’s time to say yes to clarity, confidence and leading from the inside out. Book your Leadership Strategy Call today!

tamimariecoaching.com/call

• We are living in a Trust Recession—externally and internally.
• Constant information overload leads to decision paralysis and self-doubt.
• Outsourcing decisions to culture or “the experts” erodes your clarity and leadership.
• Real leadership requires self-trust rooted in identity, not approval.
• Your internal compass can be recalibrated—but it starts with slowing down and listening in.
• The SHINE™ Framework is a roadmap to reclaim your clarity, confidence, and purpose.

➡️ Self-trust isn’t a personality trait—it’s a leadership strategy. If you’re leading from a place of imposter syndrome, chaos, or second-guessing, it’s time to recalibrate your inner compass.

Audit your last three big decisions. Were they made from alignment or autopilot?

Then ask yourself: What would I have chosen if I trusted myself fully?

Where in my leadership am I outsourcing wisdom instead of anchoring into my own?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

We rarely talk about grief in leadership—but we should. Grief isn’t just about loss through death. It shows up in promotions, career pivots, team shifts, unmet goals, and changes in identity. Whether it’s visible or not, unresolved grief impacts how we lead, how we connect, and how we make decisions. In this deeply personal and powerful episode, I walk you through the real, often hidden ways grief can shape (or derail) your leadership—and how facing it might just be your boldest next step.

💬 "If you're feeling numb, reactive, or like you've outgrown your life—but you're not sure why—unresolved grief could be quietly writing the script."

Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next? Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take.

👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz

• Grief isn’t just about losing people; it’s also about losing identity, dreams, routine, confidence, and connection.
• Leaders often carry unresolved grief that leads to over-functioning, poor decision-making, emotional numbness, or team dysfunction.
• Unresolved grief quietly erodes leadership clarity, self-awareness, and authentic connection. Grieving with intention creates wisdom, depth, and presence that transforms your leadership.
• You don’t need to unpack everything at once, but naming your grief is the first step toward alignment.

➡️ Unprocessed grief impacts every decision you make—even when you don’t realize it.

Take 15 minutes this week to identify a “quiet grief” you’ve been carrying—a dream, identity, or routine you lost but never acknowledged. Write it down, name it, and consider what wisdom it left behind.

What loss (big or small) is still quietly influencing how I lead, show up, or make decisions—and what do I need to release to move forward?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Have you ever followed a leader who looked impressive on paper but left you drained, disoriented, or doubting your value? You’re not alone—and more importantly, you’re not powerless. This episode will help you spot leadership patterns that push people away—and give you five traits that magnetize teams and create real, lasting impact.

Because leadership isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence, clarity, and alignment.

💬 “People don’t follow perfection. They follow truth.”

Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next? Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take.

👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz

• Impact is measured by the internal shift you create, not by revenue or recognition.
• Five types of leaders people run from:

1. Performative – All image, no depth
2. Controlling – Leads from fear, not vision
3. Insecure – Needs constant validation
4. Absent – Physically there, emotionally gone
5. Rigid – Resistant to change or input

1. Bring clarity in chaos
2. Lead with authenticity over image
3. Cast inclusive vision
4. Lead with confidence that grounds, not intimidates
5. Model integrity when no one is watching

➡️ The most magnetic leaders are those who create safe, purpose-aligned environments where others feel seen, empowered, and invited to rise.

Audit your leadership style this week. Ask your team—or a trusted peer—what it’s like to be led by you. Then ask yourself:

Am I leading from alignment or fear? From clarity or control?

Where in my leadership do I still feel the need to prove myself, and what would it look like to lead from alignment instead?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

You know that strange moment when you’ve done everything “right”—hit the goals, earned the respect, built the reputation—and yet… it feels off? Like the version of success you’ve created doesn’t quite fit who you are anymore?

That’s what we’re unpacking in this first official episode under the new podcast name, A Leader’s Purpose. And if you’ve ever felt like you were wearing armor that looked good but wasn’t built for you, this one’s for you.

Let’s talk about how to move from the pressure to perform into the power to lead with clarity and conviction.

💬 “Success without self-awareness isn’t leadership—it’s performance.”

Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next? Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take.

👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz

• You can outgrow a version of success and still honor what it taught you.
• High performance without self-awareness creates friction and burnout.
• Misalignment shows up as exhaustion, overthinking, and disconnection.
• You don’t need more titles—you need internal clarity on who you are now. True leadership begins with understanding your identity, not just managing others.

➡️ If it looks like success but feels off, it’s not you—it’s misalignment. The armor that got you here may no longer fit the leader you’re becoming.

Take 5 minutes to identify one area of your life or leadership that feels “off.”

Ask yourself: Am I leading from alignment or just performing a role that no longer fits?

Then commit to one small step this week to reconnect with what feels like you.

Where am I still performing for a version of success I’ve already outgrown? What would it feel like to lead fully as me—not the version others expect?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025