Ever catch yourself thinking you need to have it all figured out before stepping into bigger leadership? I recorded this episode twice (tech crashed the first time—apparently even I don't have all the answers about equipment!) because this message hit me so hard on a Sunday drive. If you're waiting for complete clarity before you lead, you're actually disqualifying yourself from being the leader your team needs most.

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• You don't need to be the smartest person in the room—you need to embrace that you're not and surround yourself with people who know what you don't
• Curiosity beats certainty every time—model "I don't know, let's find out" instead of pretending to have answers you don't have
• Leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about having the right people and being willing to learn alongside them
• Your people already know you're new—authenticity builds more trust than fake expertise ever will

➡️ The ASK Framework: Accept that not knowing is data (not failure), Seek input from people who see what you can't, and Keep moving while you're learning. Don't stop to figure it all out—learn as you lead.

In your next team meeting, ask "What am I missing here?" instead of pretending you have all the context. Watch how your team responds when you model curiosity over certainty.

"What question have I been afraid to ask my team because I think I should already know the answer?"

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• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

You're not someone who makes decisions from panic or pressure…you're someone who leads with intentional clarity and purpose. But sometimes that clarity feels a little cloudy, doesn't it? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is exactly what you need. Today we're talking about the mirror test and why it's a complete game-changer for leaders who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading from their true identity.

💬 "Self-awareness isn't a destination—it's a practice. And the leaders who commit to the practice are the ones who actually change the game." ~Tami Imlay

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• Strategy without self-awareness is expensive chaos—you can't navigate what you can't see clearly
• The best leaders aren't the ones with perfect instincts—they're the ones who catch themselves when they go off course
• Leading from reaction instead of intention costs you team trust, consistency, and burns you out fighting the same patterns
• The Mirror Test using the 3 C's gives you a simple framework to recalibrate in real-time: Catch, Clarify, Choose
• Every decision point is a choice—serve your leadership mission or serve your ego (both are human, but only one builds the future)

➡️ The Netflix story perfectly illustrates what happens when a leader chooses to build the future instead of protecting the past. Reed Hastings lost 800,000 subscribers in the short term, but he knew streaming was the wave of the future—and he made decisions from identity, not impulse.

Practice the Mirror Test this week using the 3 C's. Before your next big decision, ask yourself: What's really driving this? Does this serve my leadership or my ego? What would the leader I'm becoming choose here? Even if you make the same choice, slow down the process and let your heart, gut, and mind catch up with each other.

"When do I default to control, people-pleasing, or avoiding hard conversations? What patterns am I noticing without judgment—just as data?"

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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Ever feel like you're stuck in the hamster wheel of good intentions? You know what you should do as a leader, but somehow you keep falling back into the same patterns. Whether it's avoiding difficult conversations, letting your workout routine slide, or saying yes when you mean no, the cycle feels endless. Today we're talking about how to break free from behavior-based changes that don't stick and start building from the inside out. Because here's the truth: Rome wasn't built in a day, but it also wasn't built by accident.

💬 "You don't need more forced discipline. You need a clearer identity." ~Tami Imlay

Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Identity beats willpower every time — Motivation has a two-week shelf life, but "I am someone who..." statements create lasting transformation
• The Two-Day Rule changes everything — Missing once is human; missing twice builds a different story (and identity)
• Your brain doesn't register negatives — When you say "I'm not someone who skips the gym," your brain hears "skip the gym"
• Link habits to purpose, not just performance — Move from "I have to" to "I get to because it's who I'm becoming"
• Let identity drive action, not emotion — Emotions are a 90-second thermometer, not your decision-making system

➡️ The Three Bricks to Build Identity That Sticks: Speak to who you ARE (not who you're not), link it to purpose (not just performance), and let identity drive action (not emotion). This is how you go from trying to change behaviors to embodying the leader you're meant to be.

Choose ONE identity statement that starts with "I am someone who..." and ties to your leadership vision. Write it down, anchor it to your deeper purpose, and implement the Two-Day Rule. Watch how quickly your actions align when your identity leads.

"Who am I becoming as a leader, and what would that version of me do in this situation?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025