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The Nashville cottage that houses the Family Barber Shop is constantly buzzing as 63-year-old Patty Stelmaszak adds the finishing touches for a continuous stream of customers.

The barber’s cheerful energy keeps her stepping on and off a wooden wine crate she brought from her first shop in San Diego’s Ocean Beach.

Her business model is simple. Cash only. Affordable, quality haircuts delivered with lively conversation and compassion.

Word around Nashville is that she’s especially welcoming to those who may be undergoing treatment at nearby Vanderbilt University Medical Center or other area hospitals.

On one breezy day with clear blue sky, Stelmaszak plugged in an extension cord and gave Jim Devillez, who was in a wheelchair due to a leg injury, a haircut just outside the door of her shop. That's just something she does sometimes to make life a little easier for those with mobility issues who might need a little extra dose of kindness.

She has a guiding ideal on what she offers college students, young professionals and older adults when they arrive for a haircut: “I want this to be the best 15 minutes of their day.”

On the home front, Stelmaszak and her husband, Jerry, a teacher, have had a long line of dogs.

“You can never go wrong with dogs,” says Stelmaszak. “I have a yellow lab and a blue tick coon hound. I’ve had two greyhounds from the racetracks, one from Birmingham, one from Florida. I’ve had a Weimaraner. I’ve had a boxer. I’ve had a black lab. I’ve had a Chesapeake Bay retriever. I’ve had a chocolate lab. Had a kind of a mixed thing. Dogs are the best thing ever.”

Dogs are right up there with the enjoyment of working in her bustling little barber shop, which she says, “…is the best job ever.”

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Jerry Colpitts began acting as a child, when he and his sister created skits in the kitchen, singing, dancing and doing mime.

When the family moved to a new town their mother entered them in a talent contest - and they won. The thrill of the stage created a lifelong love of acting.

As Colpitts nears his 70th birthday, he’s finding continuing work and joy as an extra, or sometimes larger roles, in independent films.

These current roles come after 22 years as Spider-Man, from 1979 to 2001, making personal appearances around the globe as the superhero for Marvel Comics.

Like anyone who has the good fortune to live through many decades, Colpitts has thrived in good times and survived dark times.

Just before 8th grade he was diagnosed with Type 1 insulin dependent diabetes. He overheard the doctor tell his parents that by 19 or 20 he’d “probably have major challenges.” He discovered he was able to keep from thinking about diabetes when he was playing someone else on stage.

In high school and college in Maine he found his place in theater, then headed for New York.

He got a job as a doorman at The Navarro, a hotel on Central Park South frequented by luminaries like Leonard Bernstein, Luciano Pavarotti and Bruce Springsteen.

Colpitts found occasional work on the soap operas, including “Ryan’s Hope” and “The Guiding Light.”

After two years in the city, he landed the amazing gig as Spider-Man and says,
“I felt totally privileged to wear the webs. It was one adventure after another.”

After “hanging up the webs” in 2001, Colpitts spent 12 years working in business, earning six figures. But it never gave him a thrill equal to being on stage with a group of creative people.

In 2006 he met his “life partner,” Rita Hamilton, a dancer beloved by students in her Brooklyn studio. Dark times came when Hamilton was diagnosed with cancer. She died in 2020.

Colpitts had to face his own personal darkness. Alcohol. He went to a rehab facility in South Florida and has been sober for nine years.

Suffering the grief of losing his life partner, Colpitts took the advice of a friend to audition for “background” work.

“Directors look over who could be in the background. I tend to get picked because I’m tall and thin, six-two and 175 pounds,” he says. “And I still have hair.”

He's been on the set of “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel,” “Succession,” the series “Evil,” and the Netflix comedy “Kinda Pregnant” with Amy Schumer.

He recently had a major role in an independent film as an “ornery and funny” retired New York Yankees pitcher who’s dying of cancer.

“I’m still living my dream. I still have the energy and the ability to do that. I have more passion about it than I ever had,” says Colpitts.

Does he feel like he was “destined” to be an actor?

“Opportunities kept appearing and if they seemed interesting and worthwhile I’d say ‘yes’ and go forth,” says Colpitts. “I do have a good deal of faith and courage and trust that a Higher Power is looking out for me. Angels have been flying beside me most of my life, I guess.”
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You can read more about Jerry Colpitts in "From Spider-Man to Indie Films, Actor Persists Through Decades" on Next Avenue, an online magazine produced by Twin Cities PBS.

https://www.nextavenue.org/actor-persists-spiderman-indie-films/

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The Age of Being Real is created by writer and audio producer Rhonda J. Miller.

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Nancy Barker took piano lessons as young girl and says, "I absolutely hated it. But I could sing." She discovered her path in music when a high school boyfriend gave her a guitar for her birthday. She loved guitar and taught herself to play. For her next birthday that boyfriend gave her a dulcimer. That was her next heartfelt connection to music, one that continues to carry her through decades of bringing traditional music to people of all ages.
For a few years, Barker took a conventional path for girls of the time. She went to business school and worked as a secretary. The money she earned in the office gave her freedom to buy a VW camper and hit the road with a friend, playing guitar and dulcimer across the country.
Barker created her own unique musical path over decades. In addition to performing and writing music, she was Kentucky's first artist-in-residence hired by a public school system, a job she held for 15 years. She's also been an adjunct professor, without a college degree, because she says, "They don't make degrees in what I do." She describes what she taught as "music traditions of Kentucky."
Barker has been launching and guiding festivals of traditional music in Kentucky for several decades. She's been the guiding force for Louisville Dulcimer Society, Kentucky Music Weekend, which continued for 40 years, and Kentucky Music Week, which marks its 39th year in June 2024.
Her musical talent and organizational skills are complemented by her generous welcome to share in Kentucky's musical traditions. Kentucky Music Week is a camp and community gathering that offers small group classes in a wide range of offerings, including guitar, dulcimer, mandolin, ukulele, banjo, fiddle, autoharp, penny whistle and vocal performance.
Seventy-eight-year-old Barker has launched a new project with her daughter, Jaeni Barker, who applies her graphic design talent and production skills to their online music school, Kentucky Music Institute.
Nancy Barker describes the generational development of her projects. Kentucky Music Weekend is the grandparent. Kentucky Music Week is the child and Kentucky Music Institute is the grandchild. Nancy and Jaeni Barker are dedicated to keeping Kentucky's traditional music alive.
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You can read more about Nancy Barker in "Making the Planet Better With Traditional Kentucky Music" on Next Avenue, an online magazine produced by Twin Cities PBS.
https://www.nextavenue.org/traditional-kentucky-music/

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Music for The Age of Being Real is "Kites Over the Ocean" by the Kentucky Standard Band from their album "Angels of Mercy."
The Age of Being Real is created by writer and audio producer Rhonda J. Miller.

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Sally Hindman was expected to be a debutante. She nixed that idea when she was a junior in high school. She told her mother she didn't want to be presented to society. Her chosen path veered dramatically away from her childhood in a wealthy Chicago suburb. One defining experience was when Hindman was six years old and the family cleaning lady listened with her to Martin Luther King's "I Have a Dream" speech. As she grew, Hindman became aware of dramatic differences in people's lives and discovered her calling to encourage the homeless and those on the margins through art and social justice. She grew up in a Methodist family, but found her path with the Quakers. She founded Young Spirit Artworks in Berkeley, California. Working with young people evolved into guiding the creation of the first tiny house village for young adults in Oakland. The second project is the Richmond Tiny House Village, Farm and Garden in Richmond, California where young adults will have the opportunity to learn culinary skills. The tiny house villages are created through a wide financial and volunteer support network of churches, synagogues, businesses, schools and local organizations.
An essential element of Hindman's work is encouraging and guiding young people to
take major roles in envisioning and building the tiny house villages.

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You can read more about Sally Hindman on Next Avenue, a digital publication of PBS, based at Twin Cities PBS, in the article titled "Quaker minister creating tiny house village for homeless young adults."
https://www.nextavenue.org/creating-tiny-house-village-for-homeless/

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Music for The Age of Being Real is "Kites Over the Ocean" by the Kentucky Standard Band from their album "Angels of Mercy."
The Age of Being Real is created by writer and audio producer Rhonda J. Miller.

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It's bringing joy day-by-day that keeps Nick Wilkins thriving as a professional clown 51 years into living his dream.
The 67-year-old entertainer, balloon artist and entrepreneur based in Bowling Green, Kentucky got his early training in the family magic show. Then he trained and worked at Ringling Bros. Barnum & Bailey Circus in Florida.
Returning to Kentucky, he grew his business by entertaining children, adults and corporate clients as a clown and through his Balloon-A-Gram company.
Clowns are not immune to the trials and tribulations faced by humans everywhere. Sickness, loss of loved ones, broken relationships.
Wilkins found the skills, or natural instincts, he uses in being a clown can help get through the difficult times. Once, while driving his mother to a chemotherapy appointment at Vanderbilt Hospital an hour away in Nashville, a gust of wind from a passing truck pulled her wig off her head and deposited it in the middle of the road.
"We laughed and just laughed and laughed," Wilkins recalls. "I went out there and picked it up like it was an animal and gave it back to her. You take tough times and try to live through them with some type of humor."
When he teaches young people the skills of clowning like stilt walking, makeup, juggling and responding to a "scene" with humor, it's also about a positive attitude. Students are not allowed to use the word "can't."
Wilkins has seen creativity in young people fade over the past 10 or 15 years, as more students in his workshops seem to struggle to find their own sense of humor. He suspects that's from too much time on social media.
He guides them in understanding the priority of connecting directly with people. That means no phones during a two-week summer camp, except to call home occasionally, and no TV.
In student workshops, parades, birthday parties, corporate gatherings or just greeting the mailman, Wilkins loves to drop a dose of humor. So in response to a question about when he's going to retire Wilkins says, "Yeah, I retired last week. I put a new set of Michelin tires on my van."
Sprinkling humor at every opportunity is just how lives.
"I'm definitely a jovial individual. I enjoy cutting up with everybody," he says. "In this world today there's so much negativity, I just want to give 'em a chance to stop their brain for enough time to just laugh and smile."
And he plans to keep doing that because being a clown is not a job he can retire from.
"It's more than a job. It's a passion. I mean, clowning is right here," he says, putting his hand on his chest, ". . . from your heart."
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You can read more about Nick Wilkins on Next Avenue, a digital publication of PBS, based at Twin Cities PBS.
https://www.nextavenue.org/a-clown-about-town/

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Music for The Age of Being Real is "Kites Over the Ocean" by the Kentucky Standard Band from their album "Angels of Mercy."
The Age of Being Real is created by writer and audio producer Rhonda J. Miller.