Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle.

In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn addiction. They’re simple, but don’t let that fool you. These two practices can rewire your brain, reduce cravings, and give you a life filled with meaning and purpose beyond just “not watching porn.”

We’ll dive deep into:

• Why fear-based recovery backfires and actually makes relapse more likely.
  
  
• The psychology of gratitude and how it interrupts rumination, rewires your attention, and helps you build a new identity.
  
  
• How focusing on good outcomes for others strengthens self-worth, connection, and significance in ways porn never can.
  
  
• The neuroscience behind gratitude and service, including how they restructure dopamine, reduce stress, and build long-term resilience.
  
  
• The spiritual truth that joy isn’t found in hoarding for self, but in living with gratitude and giving to others.
  
  

By the end of this episode, you’ll see why gratitude and focusing on the good of others are not just “feel-good extras” in recovery—they’re essential builders of a porn-free life.

If you’re ready to stop living in fear of relapse and start building a life worth living for, this episode is for you.

👉 Listen now and take the next step toward lasting freedom from porn addiction.

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When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it often makes things worse.

In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually increase shame, suppress your real emotions, and fuel relapse. We’ll talk about the trap of toxic positivity, the failure of the “law of attraction” in recovery, and why pretending to be fine when you’re hurting only keeps you stuck in the cycle of cravings.

Instead, I’ll show you a mindset shift that actually works: facing your pain head-on, learning to process negative thoughts and emotions honestly, and using practical tools to rewire your brain for long-term recovery. You’ll discover why the real solution isn’t blind positivity—it’s courageous presence.

We’ll cover:

• The psychology of toxic positivity and why suppressing pain drives porn use
• The neuroscience of stress, dopamine, and why fake positivity backfires
• The spiritual truth that freedom comes not from escaping pain, but transforming it
• A simple recovery exercise to ground yourself in reality and break free from cravings

If you’ve ever felt frustrated that positive thinking isn’t working—or worse, that it’s made you feel more ashamed—this episode will help you see the path forward with clarity and hope.

Porn recovery isn’t about “positive vibes only.” It’s about building the strength to face reality with courage and rewire your mind for freedom.

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When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s more than just “background noise,” and how it changes your brain in ways that make cravings harder to resist. We’ll dive into the psychology, neuroscience, and spiritual truths behind why self-condemnation, all-or-nothing thinking, and emotional reasoning can lock you into relapse cycles—and what to do about it.

You’ll learn:

• The psychological impact of shame loops and how they create a self-fulfilling prophecy in addiction.
• How the brain’s negativity bias and stress response prime you to seek quick dopamine from porn.
• Why most men’s internal “motivation” strategies backfire and keep them stuck.
• The first practical step to rewire your brain and break the craving–relapse pattern.

This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine or replacing negative thoughts with forced positivity. It’s about developing the awareness and tools to face painful emotions head-on, dismantle toxic thinking patterns, and reclaim the mental freedom you need for long-term porn addiction recovery.

Whether you’re looking to quit porn, stop watching porn, or finally break free from years of feeling stuck, this episode will give you a clear and practical starting point.

Listen now—and let’s start breaking the cycle for good.

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Free Resources:
Grab my Free eBook and Free Workshop for more strategies to overcome porn addiction, rewire your brain, and rebuild your life.

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The Inner War that Keeps you Addicted to Porn

Why Pain, Not Pleasure, Keeps You Addicted

My Real Rock Bottom – Years After I Got Sober

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