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109: From Stuck to Free—The 2 Recovery Mindset Elements That Most People Overlook

109: From Stuck to Free—The 2 Recovery Mindset Elements That Most People Overlook

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Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle.

In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn addiction. They’re simple, but don’t let that fool you. These two practices can rewire your brain, reduce cravings, and give you a life filled with meaning and purpose beyond just “not watching porn.”

We’ll dive deep into:

  • Why fear-based recovery backfires and actually makes relapse more likely.

  • The psychology of gratitude and how it interrupts rumination, rewires your attention, and helps you build a new identity.

  • How focusing on good outcomes for others strengthens self-worth, connection, and significance in ways porn never can.

  • The neuroscience behind gratitude and service, including how they restructure dopamine, reduce stress, and build long-term resilience.

  • The spiritual truth that joy isn’t found in hoarding for self, but in living with gratitude and giving to others.

By the end of this episode, you’ll see why gratitude and focusing on the good of others are not just “feel-good extras” in recovery—they’re essential builders of a porn-free life.

If you’re ready to stop living in fear of relapse and start building a life worth living for, this episode is for you.

👉 Listen now and take the next step toward lasting freedom from porn addiction.


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