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Ladies Take Control

By: Katie Mares
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  • Katie Mares is a best-selling author, a highly sought-after international speaker and the host of Ladies Take Control; a podcast about finding the courage to do hard things. Katie is known for speaking about bravery, resilience, and the power of choice. As a survivor of domestic abuse, she is on a mission to empower women who have lost access to their voices. Ladies Take Control is a community of women learning about the power of choice in any situation.
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  • Carlen Costa: Understanding Sexual Abuse

    Carlen Costa: Understanding Sexual Abuse
    Apr 18 2024
    In this conversation, Katie Mares and Psychotherapist Carlen Costa discuss topics and tools related to sexual assault, domestic abuse, and the importance of self-care. They explore concepts such as manipulation, narcissism, and gaslighting, and how these behaviors can contribute to trauma bonds. The conversation explores the dynamics of abusive relationships and the reasons why victims may stay in them. It emphasizes that being in an abusive relationship is not a reflection of the victim's worth or choices, but rather the result of the abuser's intentions. Victim-blaming and self-gaslighting are common responses that hinder victims from recognizing the red flags and leaving the relationship. The conversation also delves into the concept of fear being disguised as love, where intense emotions and hyper-arousal can be mistaken for love and excitement. It highlights the importance of validating one's own experiences, seeking support from others, and creating a safety plan to break free from the cycle of abuse. In this part of the conversation, Carlen shares her personal experience of sexual assault and the impact it had on her. They discuss the importance of holding perpetrators accountable, the importance of checking in with oneself and seeking validation when boundaries are crossed. Carlen Costa is a dynamic OCSWSSW psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, psychedelic-assisted psychotherapist and cannabis educator based in London, Ontario, Canada. She engages you to learn how to love yourself and others better through her revolutionary love and mental wealth lifestyle brand that is committed to making a positive impact. Her passion for empowering others extends to her role as the host of The Spicy Fat Podcast, where she delves into topics ranging from ADHD, weight loss, positive body image, mental health, love, relationships, to cannabis and psychedelics. This podcast, available on YouTube, reflects Carlen's mission to guide women entering their 40s in understanding their bodies, brains, and hearts while fostering radical self-love. Find out more about Carlen Costa and her practice: https://www.carlencosta.com/ April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month https://opdv.ny.gov/april-sexual-assault-awareness-month April is Sexual Assault Awareness month; a month of solidarity dedicated to sexual assault victims. It’s meant to raise awareness about the prevalence of sexual assault and violence while sharing information and resources to foster a great understanding of consent. Some statistics from www.sexassault.ca: 1 in 4 women in North America will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. For every 100 incidents in Canada, only 6 are reported to police. Over 80% of sex crime victims in Canada are women. Fewer than half of sexual assault cases in adult criminal court result in a guilty verdict. (www.justice.gc.ca) Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. Proceeds from Women in Media Network launch merchandise will support the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.womeninmedia.network/. Access the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/ The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse. National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233 National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255 Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357 Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741 Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    50 mins
  • Breaking the Silence

    Breaking the Silence
    Apr 4 2024
    *Episode Disclaimer* This podcast explores topics surrounding domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. Host Katie Mares explores the process and challenges of breaking the silence surrounding domestic abuse. She discusses reasons why survivors may choose not to report abuse and the fear and consequences they may face. Katie discusses backlash from abusers and the positive effects of sharing and speaking up. As always, Katie emphasizes the importance of community support and provides practical advice for survivors who are considering breaking their silence. Takeaways Breaking the silence surrounding domestic abuse is a complex and individualized process that requires courage and support. Survivors may choose not to report abuse due to fear, shame, and lack of trust in the system. Breaking the silence can lead to backlash from abusers, but it can also empower survivors and help others recognize their own abuse. Community support and resources are crucial for survivors who choose to break their silence. The journey from surviving to thriving requires self-worth, a positive mindset, and ongoing healing and growth. Chapters (00:00) Introduction (02:10) Reasons for not reporting abuse (03:28) Reactions and experiences after breaking silence (05:08) The impact of breaking silence (08:17) The continuation of abuse (09:10) The self-gaslighting fight (09:38) The power of sharing and speaking up (13:51) The challenges of life after abuse (15:35) The process of healing and growth (22:39) The impact of breaking silence on the survivor (28:45) Creating a safer society (31:43) Ways to prepare for breaking silence (36:12) The reporting process (39:04) The importance of community support (41:18) The journey from surviving to thriving (45:02) The power of sharing and being heard (52:52) The importance of celebrating progress (54:46) Conclusion Resources Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. All proceeds from Women in Media Network launch merchandise will support the London Abused Women's Centre. https://www.womeninmedia.network/. Access the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/ The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse. National Child Abuse Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-799−7233 National Sexual Assault Hotline: 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255 Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 24/7 at 1-800-622-4357 Crisis Text Line: 24/7 text DS to 741741 Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 mins
  • Jennifer Dunn of the London Abused Women's Centre: The Journey to Justice

    Jennifer Dunn of the London Abused Women's Centre: The Journey to Justice
    Mar 21 2024
    *Disclaimer* This episode discusses domestic abuse and intimate partner violence, listener discretion is advised. Host Katie Mares interviews Jennifer Dunn, the Executive Director of the London Abused Women's Centre (LAWC). They discuss the mission of the center and the different types of abuse, including physical, emotional, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse. They also explore the challenges faced by women in identifying and leaving abusive relationships and the societal and systemic barriers that prevent them from seeking help. The conversation highlights the need for increased awareness, support, and systemic changes to address intimate partner violence. They also discuss the impact of abuse on children, the importance of prevention and education, and the availability of support and resources. Jennifer Dunn has been with the London Abused Women’s Centre for 13 years in various roles and is in her third year as the Executive Director. Jennifer advocates locally, provincially, nationally and at all levels of government to take systemic action to end the oppression of women and girls. During her time at the London Abused Women’s Centre, she has appeared before the House of Commons and the Senate. Topics Introduction and Mission of the London Abused Women's Center Understanding Abuse and Identifying It The Complexity of Leaving an Abusive Relationship Breaking the Silence and Bringing Awareness The Challenges of Speaking Up and Seeking Help The Criminal Justice System and Intimate Partner Violence The Need for an Investigative Unit and Systemic Issues The Challenges of Charging and Proving Abuse The Reality of Domestic Abuse The Need for Change in Society The Impact on Children Prevention and Education Support and Resources Breaking the Silence Takeaways Abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse. Leaving an abusive relationship is complex and often hindered by various factors such as fear, shame, lack of support, immigration status, and financial dependence. The criminal justice system needs to be more trauma-informed and better equipped to handle cases of intimate partner violence. Increased awareness, support, and systemic changes are necessary to address and prevent intimate partner violence. Domestic abuse is a pervasive issue that affects many individuals, and it is important to recognize the signs and support those who are experiencing it. Societal change is necessary to address the root causes of domestic abuse and create a culture that values and respects women. Children who witness domestic abuse are deeply affected and need support and resources to break the cycle of violence. Prevention and education are key in addressing domestic abuse, and it is crucial to teach young boys and men about healthy relationships and consent. There are resources and organizations available to support victims of domestic abuse, and it is important to reach out for help and break the silence. Resources in Canada for Family and Intimate Partner Violence A note from the Women in Media Network: The WIMN is proud to support organizations that provide relief and guidance to women and girls who have been subjected to violence, trafficking, and/or homelessness. The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a free, anonymous telephone line for women in Ontario experiencing any form of abuse. Find out more about Jennifer's work with the London Abused Women's Centre: https://www.lawc.on.ca/ Find out more information about the Ladies Take Control Community: https://ladiestakecontrol.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    47 mins
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