Trigger warnings: Trauma and self harm

What happens when past trauma transforms into empowered pleasure? In this deeply moving conversation with Talis, founder of Beyond Taboo, we explore the complex journey from self-harm to healing through consensual BDSM practices.

Talis brings a unique perspective as both a dominant who wears a collar and a clinical sexology student with a psychology background. They share their evolution in kink, from problematic beginnings at 18 to becoming an educator passionate about consent and community safety. "We put ourselves in very vulnerable positions, doing things that normal people can get into legal trouble for," Talis explains, highlighting why accountability matters so deeply in kink spaces.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when we discuss blood play as trauma recovery. Talis eloquently describes how practices once associated with self-harm can be reclaimed through consensual play: "Blood doesn't have to mean harm anymore. It can mean connection, control, devotion, beauty, and erotic power." We explore the neurochemistry behind these experiences and how they provide healing for neurodivergent individuals specifically.

For those new to kink, Talis offers practical advice about attending munches, researching consent models, and finding supportive community members. We also discuss creating more inclusive play spaces with sensory considerations and crisis support protocols, recognizing that accessibility means different things to different bodies and minds.

Talis’s bio:

They are a “neuro-spicy” disabled veteran with a B.S. in Psychology and over a decade in the kink community, with an emphasis on healing trauma through responsible practice of BDSM, Talis brings a unique perspective, commitment to continuous learning, and passion to their work. Currently offering consulting and mentorship services, Talis is a Sex Coach/Clinical Sexologist in Training under Dr. Patti Britton’s method. They are a research volunteer for TASHRA under Dr. Richard Sprott, a pioneer of the scientific world in destigmatizing kink and educating about its benefits.

Key Topics:

• How Talis identifies within the BDSM community
• Pressures of being a kink educator
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to this lifestyle
• Play frenzy and tips for managing it
• What makes a great play party
• How to make dungeons more inclusive and accessible
• Funniest story from an event
• Sharing of blood play fantasies and hopes for future scenes
• Advice we wish we had when we started engaging with sharps
• Transforming trauma into positive experiences

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In this episode, we dive into the fascinating and important topic of neurodivergency within the BDSM community. We explore what it means to be neurodivergent and how different neurological profiles can present themselves. We delve into why many neurodivergent folks are drawn to BDSM, and how the structure, consent, and clarity of power dynamics can feel like a natural fit. We also touch on the importance of open and honest negotiation, particularly when it comes to communicating needs, boundaries, and preferences, whether you're neurodivergent yourself or partnering with someone who is. Throughout the conversation, we emphasize inclusivity, offering tips for creating a welcoming space that encourages neurodivergent individuals to share their experiences and feel supported. This episode is all about fostering understanding, compassion, and awareness, ensuring that BDSM spaces remain safe and accommodating for people of all neurological backgrounds. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion filled with valuable insights into creating a more inclusive and welcoming kink community.

Key Topics:

• Understanding neurodivergency in BDSM
• Communication styles and considerations for ND individuals
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to BDSM
• Sensory aversions and how to account for them
• Negotiation tips for neurodivergent individuals and partners
• Fostering inclusivity and a welcoming environment in kink communities

So cuddle up with your lover and a joint, listen up and take notes on how to elevate your experiences even further next time!

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We host a free monthly discussion group and decided to try something new: record it to share with all our fans! In this engaging video episode, we delve into the art of creating the ideal atmosphere for intimate moments. We explore the crucial elements that set the mood, such as lighting, scent, and sound, and discuss how they can enhance sensual and exhilarating experiences alike. From sensual to extreme, we’ll talk about different ways to really make the encounter immersive for all parties. We offer up some suggestions for turning even small spaces into a different vibe to elicit alternate headspaces. Music can really play a role in crafting the perfect atmosphere for your partner so let’s delve a little further into how you can incorporate it into your sexy time. Since we recorded this live, we were able to hear from participants who joined us and offered tips of their own in this realm. Our conversation highlights the importance of intentionality and creativity when crafting your intimate environment. By focusing on the senses and involving your partner in the process, you can create memorable experiences tailored to your desires.

Key Points:

- Tips for choosing the right type of lighting
- Musical suggestions for various types of experiences
- Different scent suggestions for eliciting desire in your partner
- Live audience insights including stories and suggestions
- Creating mood boards for a collaborative approach for setting the mood
- Learn to introduce elements that can deepen intimacy

So cuddle up with your lover and a joint, listen up and take notes on how to elevate your experiences even further next time!

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Strap in folks, this episode takes all kinds of twists and turns! This was not necessarily the episode we wanted to come back with, but it’s happening regardless. You’ll have to excuse the randomness and unstructured format of it as we go off on several different tangents. Be a fly on the wall as we lay and talk in aftercare from our Rough Body Play class hosted by Filthy FemDom and Filth Syndicate Events. This episode gives a closer look at our dynamic and how we debrief after a class or playtime. We are tossing around the idea of doing more episodes like this because we’ve gotten feedback that people enjoy the sneak peek into the intimacy of our 24/7 dynamic. So if you enjoy this type of content from us, please leave us a note or send an email!

Pack your bowl, make sure your vapes are charged, or roll something…either way, get ready for a wild time. And we’re going to play a little game so you need to be prepared: every time Parker says the word “interesting,” you take a hit!

Key topics:
● How it feels to get back into rough body play
● The art and dance between a top and bottom
● The responsibilities of a top in a scene
● Overcoming obstacles of virtual education as educators
● Discussing the possibility of recording longer demos because they get cut short
● Jell-o wrestling and how to make it as safe as possible

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This week’s show was so much fun to record! And it has been a long time coming! After many scheduling attempts, we finally got Jessica Gonzalez, aka The Mommy Jane to join us in the lounge. We talk a little bit about what NLP, or neuro-linguistic programming, is and how it’s useful. There were more than a few hilarious moments where we talked about imposter syndrome and what it’s like to be an influencer. We chat about the importance of language and how we talk to ourselves. Jessica shares a terrifying experience that changed her life that all started with olive oil. We got the scoop on a new app where you can track your cannabis usage and the effects it has on you. Our conversation flows and we cover so many different topics so you better strap in for this one!

Jessica Gonzalez is a California cannabis patient, NLP and mindset coach, wife, and mother of two young girls, residing in Northern California. After trading her prescription drug and wine abuse for plant medicine back in 2015, she discovered a wealth of health and knowledge from her own research and personal experiences regarding cannabis and plant medicine, which allowed her to overcome a myriad of physical and mental health issues.

Knowing how impactful plant medicine was, but realizing the lack of education and awareness on social media, Jessica wanted to help others discover their path to health, wellness and success. As a mom on a mission, @themommyjane was born: a social media community dubbed “The Neighborhood'' where people could be educated, entertained and inspired. Jessica works hard every day sharing her knowledge and power with others and believes wholeheartedly that mindset, mindfulness and Mary Jane are the key to a fulfilling and abundant life.

Key topics:

● Becoming “the mommyjane”

● Parenthood and cannabis

● The terrible stereotypes of stoners

● Mindfulness with Mary Jane

● Cannabis as the anecdote to the pandemic

● Some of Jessica’s favorite products

● Great cannabis resources

Resources:

● https://www.themommyjane.com

● Instagram: @themommyjane

● Sarah Landry: https://thebirdspapaya.com

● SheWeed: https://sheweed.com

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Hello everyone! We have an amazing episode for you this week! Shani Hart, the founder of The Noir Leaf, joined us in the lounge to talk all about her company and THC’s sober cousin: CBD. The idea for The Noir Leaf was born in 2019 when Shani noticed that there were not a lot of places where she lived that were accessible to buy and learn about CBD products. In fact, she realized many African Americans didn’t even know what CBD was. That had to change.

Shani has over 6 years of experience in the retail business for sensual and sexual health and pleasure. As a certified Sexuality Coach, the owner of Noir Leaf CBD & Co. understands the sensual and sexual needs of women of color. Her dedication to provide quality products and educate her community of the benefits of CBD is something she was born to do.

Shani shares all about her experience starting her company and some of the obstacles she ran into in the process. You’ll get a glimpse into her “hoe-phase” and how that helped propel her into her career. For those who may not know a lot about CBD and its benefits in the bedroom, as well as outside of it, this is a really great episode filled with tons of knowledge and hilarious conversation. Shani is as real as they come and we cannot wait to have her back on the show.

Key topics:

● Shani’s desire to help educate women of color on CBD and their pleasure

● Learn about some of the science of CBD

● Benefits of using CBD products over THC products

● Things to look for on labels when shopping for products

● Some of her more popular products, including arousal oil and how to use it!

● Favorite ways to use CBD outside of the bedroom

● THCa and Delta-8

Resources:

● Shani on Instagram with her Linktree: https://www.instagram.com/sexstuffwithshani

● Hart’s Desires on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hartsdesires

● The Noir Leaf: https://www.thenoirleaf.com

● Coupon Code for The Noir Leaf: GANJAGODDESS

● Hart’s Desires: https://hartsdesires.com/

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The Ganja Goddesses are back! We have missed you all and know that you’ve missed us too. Pandemic life got the best of us and we dove into our resin business. This episode is all about updating you on what we’ve been up to. We also talk about our experiences switching to virtual work when everything shut down. There’s tons of moments where we just laugh and are silly, as we usually do. And guess what? We didn’t even smoke before recording! We talk a great deal about education and upcoming classes so you won’t want to miss this one. We are just so happy to bring you a new episode and hope you enjoy it.


Key topics:
● Our resin business, the Crafty Goddess Gallery
● What has been our favorite part about starting this new business venture
● Teaching virtually and what we enjoy most about it
● Upcoming classes
● Transitioning back to in-person sessions

Resources:
● Crafty Goddess Gallery shop: http://www.missmackenzee.com/shop
● Crafty Goddess Gallery on Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/craftygoddessgallery
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● Cam Fraser: https://www.cam-fraser.com/
● Sign up for the education mailing list: http://www.missmackenzee.com/teaching
● Upcoming classes: http://www.kicloungepodcast.com/education
● Book an in-person session with Miss Mackenzee: http://www.missmackenzee.com/prodomservices
● Book an in-person session with Parker Leigh: http://www.missparkerleigh.com/contact


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Welcome to another wonderful week here at the Lounge. We decided to throw something a little different in the mix for this week’s episode. We came up with a long list of questions to ask each other. This was fun because we got to know each other better and you get to hear our thoughts on different topics as well as personal stories. Strap in and spark up, it’s bound to be an exciting ride.

We share some tales from our younger years, including what we wanted to be when we grew up. We came up with some great questions to ask on a first date which can always be awkward or hard. Listen in as we both talk about our last sex dreams. Miss Mackenzee talks about her Sweet 16 while Parker shares some fun with hypnosis during her surprise party. Parker gets deep with talking about her favorite part of Mackenzee’s body. Want to know what we think our biggest faults are? Tune in to learn about them and so much more!

Key topics:

● What 3 words describe us best?
● How we view intimacy and what it means to us
● What is our favorite part of our job? Worst part?
● Hear all about how we get in the mood for sexy times
● Our individual experiences being walked in on while having sex

Resources:

● Email us with comments or questions: kicloungepodcast@gmail.com

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● Parker Leigh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miss.parker.leigh

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