Trigger warnings: Trauma and self harm

What happens when past trauma transforms into empowered pleasure? In this deeply moving conversation with Talis, founder of Beyond Taboo, we explore the complex journey from self-harm to healing through consensual BDSM practices.

Talis brings a unique perspective as both a dominant who wears a collar and a clinical sexology student with a psychology background. They share their evolution in kink, from problematic beginnings at 18 to becoming an educator passionate about consent and community safety. "We put ourselves in very vulnerable positions, doing things that normal people can get into legal trouble for," Talis explains, highlighting why accountability matters so deeply in kink spaces.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when we discuss blood play as trauma recovery. Talis eloquently describes how practices once associated with self-harm can be reclaimed through consensual play: "Blood doesn't have to mean harm anymore. It can mean connection, control, devotion, beauty, and erotic power." We explore the neurochemistry behind these experiences and how they provide healing for neurodivergent individuals specifically.

For those new to kink, Talis offers practical advice about attending munches, researching consent models, and finding supportive community members. We also discuss creating more inclusive play spaces with sensory considerations and crisis support protocols, recognizing that accessibility means different things to different bodies and minds.

Talis’s bio:

They are a “neuro-spicy” disabled veteran with a B.S. in Psychology and over a decade in the kink community, with an emphasis on healing trauma through responsible practice of BDSM, Talis brings a unique perspective, commitment to continuous learning, and passion to their work. Currently offering consulting and mentorship services, Talis is a Sex Coach/Clinical Sexologist in Training under Dr. Patti Britton’s method. They are a research volunteer for TASHRA under Dr. Richard Sprott, a pioneer of the scientific world in destigmatizing kink and educating about its benefits.

Key Topics:

• How Talis identifies within the BDSM community
• Pressures of being a kink educator
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to this lifestyle
• Play frenzy and tips for managing it
• What makes a great play party
• How to make dungeons more inclusive and accessible
• Funniest story from an event
• Sharing of blood play fantasies and hopes for future scenes
• Advice we wish we had when we started engaging with sharps
• Transforming trauma into positive experiences

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In this episode, we dive into the fascinating and important topic of neurodivergency within the BDSM community. We explore what it means to be neurodivergent and how different neurological profiles can present themselves. We delve into why many neurodivergent folks are drawn to BDSM, and how the structure, consent, and clarity of power dynamics can feel like a natural fit. We also touch on the importance of open and honest negotiation, particularly when it comes to communicating needs, boundaries, and preferences, whether you're neurodivergent yourself or partnering with someone who is. Throughout the conversation, we emphasize inclusivity, offering tips for creating a welcoming space that encourages neurodivergent individuals to share their experiences and feel supported. This episode is all about fostering understanding, compassion, and awareness, ensuring that BDSM spaces remain safe and accommodating for people of all neurological backgrounds. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion filled with valuable insights into creating a more inclusive and welcoming kink community.

Key Topics:

• Understanding neurodivergency in BDSM
• Communication styles and considerations for ND individuals
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to BDSM
• Sensory aversions and how to account for them
• Negotiation tips for neurodivergent individuals and partners
• Fostering inclusivity and a welcoming environment in kink communities

So cuddle up with your lover and a joint, listen up and take notes on how to elevate your experiences even further next time!

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We host a free monthly discussion group and decided to try something new: record it to share with all our fans! In this engaging video episode, we delve into the art of creating the ideal atmosphere for intimate moments. We explore the crucial elements that set the mood, such as lighting, scent, and sound, and discuss how they can enhance sensual and exhilarating experiences alike. From sensual to extreme, we’ll talk about different ways to really make the encounter immersive for all parties. We offer up some suggestions for turning even small spaces into a different vibe to elicit alternate headspaces. Music can really play a role in crafting the perfect atmosphere for your partner so let’s delve a little further into how you can incorporate it into your sexy time. Since we recorded this live, we were able to hear from participants who joined us and offered tips of their own in this realm. Our conversation highlights the importance of intentionality and creativity when crafting your intimate environment. By focusing on the senses and involving your partner in the process, you can create memorable experiences tailored to your desires.

Key Points:

- Tips for choosing the right type of lighting
- Musical suggestions for various types of experiences
- Different scent suggestions for eliciting desire in your partner
- Live audience insights including stories and suggestions
- Creating mood boards for a collaborative approach for setting the mood
- Learn to introduce elements that can deepen intimacy

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