Ever wonder how people just don't seem phased about stuff happening. Like they adapt to it and keep going? HOW DO THEY DO THAT?

The very first step that they do involves Engaging The Baby, to engage their inner worthiness. Listen to feel all the feels! Then post what you visualized in our facebook group at https://facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

AND...how do people stay there are souls who are tapping into the five principles of Goldfish Self-Leadership!

What is Goldfish Self-Leadership? It's a proven 5-part framework that will help you create a Joyful Life of your very own. Skills that help you "deal" with whatever life is serving you that day. Woke up with a headache? Yelled at the kids? Loved one in the hospital? Someone cut you off? Yes, I've been there and we have you covered. Where can you learn more? https://heidiesther.com/self-leadership

Which of the five principles do you need more of in your life?
Go here to know what LIE you're currently believing that you need to banish to get to more Joyful Skies... https://heidiesther.com/truth

Go here to book a Joy Discovery Chat to learn about how you can get more Joy in your life! https://heidiesther.com/calendar/#Discovery

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Get the pen and paper ready! Trauma therapist, Heather Pierce, MSEd, LCPC, and I are sharing about the oft-begroaned healing tool of WRITING today! Not about grammar, or outlines, but about how WRITING can help you better understand your inner and outer landscapes.

Heidi shares her story about Cars and Bad Poetry, and Heather shares her, stories, wisdom, and gifts from years using and teaching this powerful Healing Tool!

HELPFUL TIPS + GROUPS for anyone who wants to start a writing practice, from Heather!

1. “Morning pages” based on The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
2. Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg
3. For trauma survivors in particular, there is Writing Ourselves Whole by Jen Cross
4. Steadfast Center is offering a writing group based on Jen's book in the Fall.
5. OR... try the Instagram account @Inspiredtowrite – encourages anyone with a desire to write to call themselves a writer

AND, here are the top books I use(d) to overcome writer's resistance
1) Jeff Goins, You are a Writer
2) Steven Pressfield's The War of Art

Who is Heather? Read more about this wise and divine human here!

And connect with her Here: https://www.steadfastcenter.com/

What are Through The Looking Glass Conversations? Convos with different teachers who have new tools for us to know and heal and understand ourselves better. That tool could be yoga or astrology or the enneagram. Just like you grew up and figured out how you thrived and learned - whether that be in a classroom environment, scraping your knees climbing trees in the woods, or belting out cheers on the cheerleading squad, I bring you different tools, mirrors to see yourself, so you can find ways to best learn and see your power and beauty and joy.

If you are ready to be a part of Heidi's Joyfully Ever After Community, sign up here to get her monthly newsletter on Cultivating Joy! http://HeidiEsther.com/Joy

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

What's really going on with this podcast? I'll tell you what! Self-Leadership!

You know that feeling, when someone asks you "what's that book or movie about, again?" and you're able to look at it from 10,000 feet and Just. Nail. It? That Elaine-happy-dance-don't-leave-me-hangin-Spidey-tingle feeling?

I am proud to introduce you to the Visionary Leader of the Joyfully Ever After family!

The word behind my Playshops. Stories. Through The Looking Glass and Joyfully Ever After convos. Even my truckload of Freebies. ANNOUNCING (dat-da-da-Daaa!)

📣 Self-Leadership 🎉 💃 🎉

That's what I'm jazzed and honored and gifted to share with you. Tools to get yourself outta mind and heart traffic jams and the Keys to Save your Day 🦸‍♀️ and Create your Joy, ☀️ Every day.

Because I got the tools, and you, my beautiful friend, have all the answers inside.

Listen in today to hear all about a STORY and SELF-LEADERSHIP. Or read more about it on my website!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

What do salt, pepper, sugar, and spice have to do with Joyfully Ever After? Everything!
Watch as you hear the continuation of the story of dark and light, with fellow That's What She Said Sister and Community Healer, Shandra Summerville. We shared about her Rotarian journey, the words Healer, Advocate, and Ally, the impact of the strong sisterhood she nurtured in college, and lemons she made into lemonade to find joy in her life after a devastating loss.

And finally, YASSSSS, we talked ALL ABOUT salt, pepper, sugar, and spice!

Watch Shandra's That's What She Said Story here
See what Shandra's up to here.
Connect with her at http://ShandraSummerville.com

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

I am back (third time's a charm!) with the brilliant, wise, and compassionate life coach, Jennifer Erwin, to have an honest conversation about Mindfulness. I know, she's getting close to being a co-host now. So, she's an Enneagram 4 (and that's my growth path, as an Enneagram 2...) Oh, sorry. Nerded out there. Back to mindfulness...
Shall we say Mindfulness is the soil from which all other Joy and Goodness in life will sprout? We shall. Join us to see how YOU can nurture the rich soil of Mindfulness in your life.
Check out more goodness from Jennifer Erwin at http://JenniferErwinCoaching.com!

WHAT ARE Grow your Joyful Life Foundational Playshops? Tips and stories that help you recognize when you are in the circling-fishbowl of negative patterns that keep you from swimming in the free ocean of your Joyful Life! Patterns like Burnout, Perfectionism, Guilt, and Regret. These patterns keep us stuck, swimming round-and-round in a fishbowl not of our own making. Each workshop has a true story from me and a strategy that works. No fluff, my friend. Ready to breath the free ocean? GREAT! 🐟

Want a monthly hug and laugh on your way to a more Joyful Life? Sign up for my monthly Cultivating Newsletter at https://heidiesther.com/JOY and receive a free Joy Guide!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

LINKS REFERERNCED
CoDA 12-Step program: https://coda.org/
Patterns and Characteristics of Codependency: https://coda.org/meeting-materials/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/
Chat with me to see if Codependency is a self-defeating pattern that's blocking your way to joy: https://heidiesther.com/contact-me/

When my kids were little, I can remember two things. First, calling myself a Mommy Doormat. Second, waking up every day asking myself "I wonder who my pound of flesh is going to feed today?" I know, gross, right?

However, part of me needed that. Because I didn't know who I was if I wasn't sacrificing myself to be, in turn, needed by other people. I didn't think a lot about love back then. My unconscious was programmed for need. Need felt more permanent, reliable, and something I could control. (HINT: important word!) I even slept next to a drawer full of thank you notes to remind myself of what others thought of me.

So, codependency. I was a classic case.

It's been a dozen years from then, and ten of those were in recovery. Beautiful, sane, tearful, joyful, recovery.

What is codependency, and how do you get it? And, when you have it, what can you do about it? And how is it different from other kinds of dependency?

If you resonate (even reluctantly) with any of the following words to describe you... People Pleaser, Doormat, Accomodating, Compliant, Self-Sacrificing, someone who Loves Too Much, The Rescuer, then you don't want to miss this playshop!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Does Drama follow you around and you can't seem to shake it?
Do you ever get in conversations and situations you can't win?
Do you worry a lot about what you said because of what other people will say behind your back?

PRE WORK! If you want out, you're gonna have to practice Letting Go of what other people think and feel about you. I know, you have to be willing to be seen as "the bad guy." But in the end, you will NOT have other people controlling you. Sound liberating? Yes, yes it is.

Here's the A.C.E. Method I talk about in the show!

A - Awareness + Assertiveness. Become aware you're in it and cultivate Assertiveness
C - Cultivate compassion for their side of the story AND your Sanity and listen to and honor what YOU want, first. Let go of how other people think and feel about you.
E - Remember that we are all Equal and we are all trying our best. AND that gives NOONE else the right to control you. Life is calmer and happier outside of the triangle.

Link to the Drama Triangle Graphic
And here's the link to my White Rose Tea!

AND...welcome to a Grow your Joyful Life Foundational Playshop! What are they? Playshops that help you recognize when you are in the circling-fishbowl of negative patterns that keep you from swimming in the free ocean of your Joyful Life! Patterns like Burnout, Perfectionism, Guilt, and Regret. These patterns keep us stuck, swimming round-and-round in a fishbowl not of our own making. Each workshop has a true story from me and a strategy that works. No fluff, my friend. Ready to breath the free ocean? GREAT! 🐟

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Join me as Professional Life Coach + Self-Compassion Expert, Jennifer Erwin, and I break down our journeys and struggles and tools we've used to combat the formidable foe of Impostor Syndrome. We talked about using our Lego sets differently, how we hide, three powerful steps we can use to work with it, and what happened when Heidi had an emotional yard sale (brought on by, you guessed it, her Impostor Syndrome).

We also looked at Impostor Syndrome through THREE lenses:
1) The Sneaky pre-awareness Impostor Syndrome
2) The sometimes more-painful Impostor Syndrome we start to notice when we name it but can't deal, and
3) What Impostor Syndrome looks like even when we have mature tools to work with it.

AND...welcome to a Grow your Joyful Life Foundational Playshop! What are they? Playshops that help you recognize when you are in the circling-fishbowl of negative patterns that keep you from swimming in the free ocean of your Joyful Life! Patterns like Burnout, Perfectionism, Guilt, and Regret. These patterns keep us stuck, swimming round-and-round in a fishbowl not of our own making. Each workshop has a true story from me and a strategy that works. No fluff, my friend. Ready to breath the free ocean? GREAT! 🐟 Today's playshop is a twist because it's also a Joyfully Ever After conversation!

Jennifer Erwin is a professional life coach with expertise in serving physicians and others in caregiving positions. She supports women in decreasing burnout and increasing well-being through an evidence based coaching model as well as through her online self-compassion programs. She has a degree in psychology and masters in education as well as advanced training in NVC (non-violent communication), positive psychology, mindfulness and self-compassion. She is passionate about helping women grow their confidence and life satisfaction through taming the inner critic and developing an unshakeable sense of trust themselves.

If you want to follow up with Jennifer (and who wouldn't???!?) She can be found at https://jenniferlifecoaching.com/

Would YOU like a free ebook "The Perfectionist Guide to Turning Self-Care into Radical Self-Love"? Then go to https://jenniferlifecoaching.com/ and scroll to the bottom of the page to get it!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter