This week, we talk about the concept of Delulu is the Solulu - "Delusion is the Solution".

And we shared about what that looks like for each of us.

Believing that things are going to work out no matter what.

Dealing with disappointment, and being able to go back to tease out the limiting beliefs.

How seeing our parents (and our ancestors) doing their best.

Also how for those of us with parents who don't love us, seeing our lives as the Hero's Journey.

This month, stay delusional! We hope you're a magnetic for the magic in your life.

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A little more about Phoebe Maina (@selflovewithphoebe )

A heart break and the lost of her best friend propelled Phoebe to a deep practice of self-love, which forever changed the trajectory of her life. From being a model, an aeronautical engineer to now a Self-Love Coach and Speaker. Other things she love: her cat, the gym & dancing in elevators.

A bit about Claudia Chan: from playing super small and chock full of self-doubt to becoming an award winning speaker, a Courage Coach, and the queen of burning everything down just so she can have fun along the way.

Things she love: her son, her husband, Japan, and tango and salsa around the world.

Today, we opened our conversation to share things that are getting too real.

We shared about this mean inner voice we have.

We talked about gratitude, our dreams, of what we want to see happen.

If you want to connect with us:

Phoebe:

https://www.instagram.com/selflovewithphoebe/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/phoebe-maina-22109222b/

Claudia:

https://www.instagram.com/claudiachan.co/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-chan-coaching/

Starting this week, Phoebe and myself are going to go live once a week for 30 min, come together for a chat on Youtube. And the recording will also be uploaded here.

This week, we talked about friendship, and choice.

Have a listen, and would love any feedback!

I fucked up a lot this year.
I mean … I said yes when I should have & needed to say no.
I hesitated saying “HECK YES” to what felt in alignment.
I waited too long when opportunities came up.
I put off doing the big things & the small, almost inconsequential ones.
Some days I ended up with a longer to do list than I started the day with.

Point is, I failed A LOT.
I fucked up one too many times.
And yes, I took multiple detours in 2024.

But you see, in the detours, failures & fuckery / fuckedupness, I grew, I stretched & ended up exactly where I was meant to be.
I became who I am & I drew invaluable life lessons that I will take with me to the next phase of my life.

How about you? Did you win a lot? Did you kiss rock bottom at least once in 2024?

Join my beautiful soul sister @claudiachan.co & I, for our 10th & final Radiant Blossom in 2024, on the 28th Dec 9:00am, Beijing Time (8pm Eastern 27th), where we will all celebrate the detours, fuck-ups & wins in a safe space.
Come as you are & Bring all of who you are.

DM for the Zoom link.

From the deepest parts of who I am,
I see you & I love you.

Sometimes when two people come together, we may come into conflict.

If only this person can do that! Or I have to behave this way.

Many of it can be traced back to our childhood, while growing up, we had written ourselves a book of expectations.

And the only way to make changes to the list is to get to know what is written in this book.

That’s why Phoebe Maina and myself hosting our 9th Radiant Blossom: My expectations in and within my relationships.

WHAT'S HOLDING ME/YOU BACK?

When the world is quiet and you’re truly alone and with your mind, what do you think about? What do you hope for? Follow that. - Bianca Sparacino

Now, what's holding you back from going all in after the deep seated desires of your soul? What's holding you back from saying Yes and jumping in head first? What's holding you back?

Join us for Part 2 of The Becoming Series, on the 17th of August, 9:00am Beijing Time (16th of August, 9:00pm Eastern) where my girl @claudiachan.co and I, will sit with you and explore this question deeper.

I can't wait to see you then!
Love you loads.

When the world is quiet and you’re truly alone and with your mind, what do you think about? What do you hope for? Follow that. - Bianca Sparacino

Man, this quote ... When all the distractions are gone ...
When your phone's off & your laptop is shut ...
When all your friends are away ...
and you're by yourself ... all alone ... with nothing but time & quiet ...

What do you think about?
What do you dream about?
What do you hope for? Wish for?
...

Join us this Saturday where my girl @claudiachan.co and I will be holding space for us to explore this question ... What do I really want? ...

As always,
I see you & I love you.

9th August, 2020, I walked into a changing room that changed my life.
The stylist took one long look at me, sized me up & down … and blatantly said how not quite right my body was.
How unokay & unpropotional I was.
Hips too wide … check.
Boobs too small … check.
Ass too big … check.
…
& that ripped away at my self-confidence.
I thought I was enough & pretty enough & good enough to be a model. To be a pretty girl. To be a p… person.
But here I’m standing … blinking away at these hot tears fighting their way through & eventually streaming down my face … two minutes away from my runway walk. Damn!

You see … your body is your own, with all its perks, all its perfections & imperfections.
Your body is your own.
There’s no body like it out there.
Only one of a kind. And that’s the one you’ve been gifted to walk this life with.

& yet sometimes we have a tendency to perhaps look outside of ourselves, for validation.
To maybe wait for someone else to praise how we look, move & do life, with our bodies.
Sometimes, we may end up using what someone may have said about us as evidence that we aren’t good enough.

Has there been a time in your life, where maybe just maybe, you may have felt this way?

Mmmh.
I see you.
Yes. I do.
And sis, you are not alone.

Join us on the 28th June @9pm EST / 29th June 9am Beijing Time, where my incredible friend @claudiachan.co & I will be sharing from our souls, some struggles we’ve had when it came to loving & appreciating our bodies … as they are …
Bring your heart, your soul & be ready to get loved on as you also get to love on your beautiful body.

Because the truth is …
You have a beautiful body that matches your beautiful soul.