• Rest is Not the Opposite of Ambition: Lessons from a 6-month Sabbatical
    Oct 7 2025

    About the Episode:

    In this deeply personal episode, Lindsay sits down with her husband Mike to talk about something that’s often overlooked in ambitious careers: rest.


    Mike shares his journey from UCLA to management consulting, to London Business School, and eventually to a leadership role in real estate private equity—before making the courageous decision to step away for a six-month sabbatical.


    Together, they explore how cultural expectations, family responsibilities, and relentless work habits shaped his views on success—and why choosing to pause became one ofthe bravest decisions of his life.


    What You’ll Learn in this Episode:

    · Why high achievers struggle with the idea of rest—and why it’s not a lack of ambition.

    · How the regret minimization framework (from Jeff Bezos) helped Mike decide to take a sabbatical.

    · The cultural influences (Asian, Western, corporate) that make rest feel like weakness—and how to reframe it.

    · What surprised Mike most about stepping away from work for the first time in decades.

    · Why redefining success means balancing ambition with family, health, and joy.


    Episode Breakdown

    01:26 Introducing Mike's Sabbatical

    02:32 Mike's Career Journey

    06:11 Balancing Work and Family

    08:26 The Decision to Take a Sabbatical

    11:21 Cultural Expectations and Work Ethic

    17:08 Reflections on the Sabbatical

    39:47 Advice for Young Parents

    43:15 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

    Connect with Mike Hu

    IG: @mikehu_bruin


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    Courage Class with Dr. Lindsay Kwock Hu and content posted by Dr. Lindsay Kwock Hu is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website isat the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of aphysician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.


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  • Living the Life They Didn't Choose For You - Creativity, Rest, and Partnership as Asian Americans
    Sep 29 2025

    Episode Summary:
    What if the life your parents imagined for you isn’t the life you want for yourself?


    In this episode of Courage Class, Lindsay is joined by her husband Mike and their close friends Alice Teng(Executive Director of Asia Week New York, independent curator) and Jon Eng (banking professional turned actor). Together, Alice and Jon share their journey of leaving “safe” careers to pursue creativity, authenticity, and rest—while navigating cultural expectations and building a supportive marriage.


    This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt torn between honoring their family’s sacrifices and pursuing their ownpath, and for couples who are considering what it looks like to live boldly, together.


    Episode Breakdown:

    00:00 Introduction: Following Others' Dreams

    00:38 Meet the Guests: Alice and Jon's Bold Choices

    01:34 Alice's Journey: From Pre-Med to Art

    03:38 Jon's Path: From Business to Acting

    05:58 Family Reactions and Inner Courage

    09:12 Navigating Judgment and Building Community

    21:49 Reflections on Being an Only Child

    23:37 Networking and Building Relationships

    25:24 Taking a Sabbatical for Acting

    28:03 Parental Expectations and Career Choices

    35:58 Advice for Young Couples and Individuals

    How to connect with Jon and Alice

    IG Alice: @lalaland

    IG Jon: @jonnyfornia


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  • Beyond the Box: Redefining Success as an Asian American
    Sep 22 2025

    In this episode, Lindsay sits down with Kyle Denman—Executive Director of Arts Bridging the Gap, award-winning fashion designer, and lifelong advocate for equity through creativity.


    Kyle shares his journey from being adopted from South Korea into a Midwest family, to becoming youth mayor of Cincinnati, to leading a nonprofit that empowers thousands of young people in Los Angeles through the arts.


    They talk about the challenges of being “othered,” the stereotypes Asian Americans often face, and how Kyle’s experiences in politics, education, and art have shaped his leadership style. Most importantly, Kyle reveals what it means to lead with love in a world that often rewards the opposite.


    If you’ve ever felt confined by other people’s expectations or questioned whether your voice matters, Kyle’s story will inspire you to create your own possibilities—and to help others do the same.


    Episode Outline

    00:00 – Introduction: Breaking Out of the Box
    Why Kyle represents possibility beyond traditional expectations.


    02:11 – Adoption, Identity, and Growing Up Different
    Kyle’s story of being adopted from Korea and navigating life in the Midwest without role models who looked like him.


    07:28 – The Boxes People Put Us In
    Stereotypes about Asian Americans and how Kyle learned he didn’t fit the “doctor, lawyer, engineer” mold.


    11:56 – Finding His Voice Through Politics
    From youth mayor of Cincinnati to national policy work—how Kyle defied assumptions of weakness.


    18:34 – Politics Meets Fashion
    Why political science and fashion design are more connected than you think.


    25:47 – Creating Safe Spaces to Speak
    Kyle’s early advocacy and how it shaped his belief in co-creating safe environments for young voices.


    32:15 – Arts Bridging the Gap
    Kyle’s work leading ABG to uplift thousands of young people in Los Angeles through visual, performing, and healing arts.


    44:02 – Expanding the Creative Economy
    Why ABG pays artists more than industry standards and how representation changes what young people believe is possible.


    53:40 – Leadership with Love
    Kyle’s philosophy of leading with love, protecting his team, and breaking traditional molds of leadership.


    1:04:28 – Shrinking to Expand
    Kyle’s reflections on times he felt he had to shrink—and how being “soft” can also be a form of strength.


    1:12:00 – Overcoming Underestimation
    What it’s like to be a young, gay, Asian leader in the nonprofit space—and how Kyle deals with being underestimated.


    1:20:45 – Closing Reflections
    How Kyle stays grounded in love, and what listeners can take away about finding their own voice.


    How to connect with Kyle Denman:

    www.kyledenman.com

    @thekyledenman


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    41 mins
  • Your Pain is Valid: Breaking Free from Stereotypes of Asian Women
    Sep 16 2025
    Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence and trauma and may be upsetting or triggering. It is not suitable for children. Please take care of yourself and pause if you need to.In this powerful conversation Danielle Espinosa — therapist, PhD student, published scholar, and survivor — unpacks how historical colonialism and contemporary racialized sexual stereotypes make AAPI women more vulnerable to sexualviolence, why silence persists in our communities, and concrete steps families and friends can take to prevent harm and support survivors. The episode blends trauma-informed research, clinical insight, and practical parenting strategies aimed at disrupting intergenerational patterns of shame.Chapter Outline 00:00 — 01:00 — Opening question & validationDanielle validates pain and reminds survivors that their trauma is never their fault.01:00 — 03:00 — Personal context & research introLindsay invites Danielle to introduce her research focus and key concepts.03:00 — 06:00 — Colonialism as a root of racialized sexual violenceDanielle traces how militarized prostitution and colonial conquest created stereotypes (Lotus Blossom, Dragon Lady, etc.) that objectify Asian women.06:00 — 09:00 — How stereotypes create vulnerability & microaggressionsDiscussion of how fetishization and assumptions of consent show up in pornography, workplace comments, and everyday microaggressions.09:00 — 12:00 — Culture of shame and why silence enduresExplores shame-based cultural dynamics, victim-blaming, and why sexual violence becomes hidden or normalized in family structures.12:00 — 15:00 — Denial, protection of assailants, and intergenerational traumaDanielle and the host discuss denial, protecting perpetrators within families, and how trauma is passed across generations as survival tactics.15:00 — 19:00 — Parenting: teaching bodily autonomy and opening the conversationPractical, immediately actionable advice for parents: normalize saying “no,” teach bodily autonomy, and start imperfect conversations early.19:00 — 22:00 — Culturally attuned, trauma-informed care & community healingWhy Western individual-focused therapy can fall short and how collective, community-based approaches (support groups, shared identity therapists) aid healing.22:00 — 26:00 — How friends & family can support survivors right nowConcrete actions listeners can take: reassure survivors it’s not their fault, offer practical help (meals, meds, errands), and remove blame-laden questions.26:00 — 29:00 — Broader systems: patriarchy, racial hegemony & sexual violenceDanielle zooms out to name the systemic forces (colonialism, patriarchy, racial entitlement) that sustain cycles of violence and where to focus change.29:00 — 33:00 — Hope, resilience & ongoing workWhat gives Danielle hope: clients breaking cycles, generational change, and research into internalized racialized sexism — plus current projects.33:00 — 34:00 — Closing & where to find DanielleContact and project info; invitation to plug into community resources and continue the conversation.How to connect with Danielle Espinosa, LMFT- Website: www.danielletherapy.com- Instagram: @danielletherapy- Free peer wellness circle - Asian Woemn/Femme Peer Wellness through Asian Mental Health ProjectConnect with Courage Class on TikTok,Instagram, YouTube:@courageclasspod@drlindsaykwockhu⁠www.drlindsaykwockhu.com/podcast⁠Sign up for Courage Class Notes, a weeklynewsletter:⁠https://dr-lindsay-kwock-hu.kit.com/980fac101a⁠Music Credit: DayNigthMorning from Pixabayinvitation-no-copyright-music-388387
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    34 mins
  • Breaking the Cycle: Redefining Parenting for Ourselves and Our Kids with Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge
    Sep 9 2025
    About the EpisodeIn this episode of Courage Class, Lindsay speaks with Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge, a licensed clinical psychologist and Co-Founder of The Modern Asian Parent (MAP). Dr. Berssenbrugge shares her journey towards the founding of MAP, a movement and community aimed at merging cultural roots with modern parenting practices. Together, they discuss the importance of creating real sustainable change in parenting (hint: it starts with us), the strengths and challenges of traditional Asian values, and the significance of emotional resilience and validation in parenting. They also explore methods for addressing intergenerational trauma and the vital role of repair in family relationships. Gain invaluable insights on how to parent with a blend of Asian and Western approaches, honoring both cultural heritage and modern values.Episode Breakdown:00:34 Meet Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge02:10 Founding the Modern Asian Parent06:50 Parenting Values and Challenges09:26 Resilience and Well-Balanced Parenting22:45 The Importance of Self-Change in Parenting25:03 Understanding and Healing Intergenerational Trauma34:01 The Role of Apologies and Repair in Parenting41:00 Connecting with The Modern Asian ParentAbout Dr. Laura BerssenbruggeDr. Laura Berssenbrugge is a Hawaii- and New York-based child and adolescent clinical psychologist in private practice and a former middle school teacher. She works with individuals across the lifespan and specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and evidence-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders (including Selective Mutism/ SM), mood disorders, OCD, PTSD, social skill and communication issues, and more. Laura also has specialized expertise in supporting individuals navigating fertility challenges, offering compassionate, evidence-based care to address the emotional toll of infertility, reproductive trauma, and assisted reproductive journeys.Laura completed her training at the Child Mind Institute, NYU Child Study Center, Rutgers University, and Brooklyn Friends School, and holds a doctorate in School-Clinical Psychology from Yeshiva University. She is the creator of ‘Dr. Laura B’s Release, Regulate, & Relax Aromatherapy Inhaler Set,’ a DBT-inspired stress management tool designed to reduce physical and emotional stress at different emotional intensity levels. And the author of several workbooks, such as: "Beyond the Blush: A CBT Approach to Overcoming Social Anxiety.”Connect with Dr. Laura:https://www.drlaurab.com/IG: @drlaurabtherapyAbout The Modern Asian ParentThe Modern Asian Parent (MAP) believes in the power of intergenerational healing—honoring cultural roots while breaking harmful cycles to build healthier, more connected families for the future. Founded by two Asian American psychologists, MAP is a movement for parents of all backgrounds who want to raise emotionally healthy, resilient kids in cultures of pressure, perfectionism, and sacrifice.Redefine parenting in a way that honors our values and culture, while embracing the future. Together, they're creating a world where every child—and parent—feels supported, understood, and empowered to succeed.www.themodernasianparent.comIG: @themodernasianparentConnect with Courage Class on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube:@courageclasspod@drlindsaykwockhuwww.drlindsaykwockhu.com/podcastSign up for Courage Class Notes, a weekly newsletter:https://dr-lindsay-kwock-hu.kit.com/980fac101aMusic Credit: DayNigthMorning from Pixabayinvitation-no-copyright-music-388387
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  • Therapy That Sees Us: Why Cultural Fit Matters in Mental Health with Dr. Ummul Kathawalla
    Sep 3 2025

    About the Episode:

    In this episode, Lindsay sits down with Dr. Ummul Kathawalla, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, and researcher who specializes in culturally informed mental health care—and she’s here to explain what that means, why it matters for our community, and how it can transform the way we think about healing.

    This episode also includes a real-time demonstration of a culturally informed therapy session, offering listeners practical insight into what this approach feels like.

    Key Themes Include:

    • The impact of cultural context on mental health and identity.
    • The limitations and blind spots of traditional therapy models for minority clients.
    • How culturally attuned care can break cycles of shame and silence in families and communities.
    • Practical advice for finding and assessing a culturally competent therapist.
    • A live mini-therapy session around navigating guilt, boundaries and generational expectations.


    Episode Breakdown:

    00:34 – Why Culturally Informed Therapy?

    The host sets up the episode’s focus:what therapy could look like if it truly recognized our lived experiences, and introduces Dr. Ummul Kathawalla.

    01:51 – Meet Dr. Ummul Kathawalla

    Dr. Kathawalla’s credentials, background, and her work in culturally informed mental health care are introduced.

    10:03 – Applied Ethnic Minority Psychology

    Defining the field, Dr. Kathawalla explains how research on discrimination, stress, and culture is translated into real-world interventions for minority communities.

    11:28 – What is Culture? Surface vs. Deep Culture

    A discussion on the difference between surface culture (holidays, language) and deep culture (values, beliefs, unspoken norms).

    12:36 – Why Cultural Context Matters in Therapy

    Dr. Kathawalla explains why practitioners must consider each client’s unique cultural background and how it shapes their mental health.

    14:22 – Culturally Informed Care vs. Traditional Therapy

    Contrasts culturally informed care (tailored, client-centered) with traditional models (one-size-fits-all, manualized), and discusses the importance of adaptability.

    16:34 – Blind Spots in Traditional Therapy

    Examples of how traditional therapy can pathologize cultural strengths or miss the real source of a client’s struggles, such as microaggressions.

    18:23 – The Asian Community: Stigma & Nuances

    Explores intergenerational expectations, bicultural stress, and how cultural beliefs can discourage seeking help.

    21:39 – Finding a Culturally Competent Therapist

    Practical advice for finding a therapist who is a good cultural fit, including what questions to ask and how to assess fit over several sessions.

    27:10 – Real-Time Mini Therapy Demonstration

    A real-time, mini culturally informed therapy session: Lindsay shares her struggle with boundaries, guilt, and career vs. family expectations, and Dr. Kathawalla models a non-judgmental, listening-centered approach.

    45:55 – What Does Healing Look Like?

    Dr. Kathawalla describes healing as coherence between identity and values, being comfortable with nuance, and practicing self-compassion.

    49:35 – Breaking Generational Cycles

    How culturally informed care can disrupt cycles of silence and shame, and help future generations live more authentically.

    53:30 – Resources & Closing

    Dr. Kathawalla shares how listeners can connect with her, her current projects, and the host reflects on the power of culturally attuned therapy.

    Find Dr. Kathawalla at:

    www.kirampsychology.com

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