In this candid and insightful episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn welcome author and intimacy expert J. Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous. Research shows that in roughly 75% of marriages, the husband has a higher sex drive or initiates more often. But what about the other 25%—when the wife is the one with more desire, or when the couple’s patterns don’t match the stereotype at all? J. Parker, whose ministry focuses heavily on this topic, shares practical, grace-filled wisdom for couples navigating mismatched desire—especially when the higher-desire spouse is the wife. This frank, faith-based conversation tackles myths, encourages empathy, and offers hope for every couple to thrive in intimacy, no matter where they fall on the spectrum of desire.

Note: This conversation is PG-13 and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

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In this engaging conversation, Dr. Michael Sytsma, a seasoned therapist specializing in marriage and intimacy, shares his extensive experience and insights into the complexities of sexual relationships. The discussion covers common questions couples have about their sexual health, the importance of understanding desire discrepancies, and the normalization of various sexual experiences. Dr. Sytsma emphasizes the significance of communication and understanding in fostering healthy relationships, while also addressing the myths surrounding sexual intimacy.

Note: This conversation is PG-13 and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

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https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20

In this conversation, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn explore the fundamental differences in how men and women process thoughts and decisions. They discuss the implications of these differences on relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. The episode highlights the brain wiring differences, the significance of verbal versus internal processing, and practical strategies for couples to navigate these challenges effectively. Through real-life examples and insights from neuroscience, the Feldhahns provide valuable advice for fostering stronger connections between partners.

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn interview Michelle Lentz, an Instagram influencer and author, who shares her journey through marriage, parenting, and overcoming significant life challenges, including a devastating earthquake. Michelle discusses the importance of community support, the power of prayer, and treating your spouse like a friend to build a strong marriage. Her insights are particularly valuable for young couples navigating the early stages of marriage.

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Bonus Episode 13: Looking Back, Moving Forward

Description:
In this heartfelt Season 1 finale bonus episode, Shaunti and Jeff take listeners on a reflective journey through the most powerful insights shared over the season. This bonus installment isn’t just a recap—it’s a spiritual reset button that captures the highs, lessons, and most touching moments that moved both guests and listeners alike.

Episode 12 Release Date: June 17, 2025    

Duration: Episode 11: 44 minutes    

Summary: Shaunti, Jeff, and Jenilee Samuel (host of the Java with Jen podcast) explore the complexities of being a woman leader in ministry, the challenges of marriage, and the importance of understanding the male psyche. Jenilee shares her journey from being a missionary kid to a co-pastor and her experiences with raising boys. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy, learning, and the balance between strength and sensitivity in both personal and professional realms. Jenilee also shares her insights on parenting teenage boys, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the challenges of maintaining a healthy marriage.

Link Mentioned:      

Java with Jen Podcast

Jenilee Samuel Website

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Summary: In this engaging conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn are joined by Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier. Arelene shares insights on how to prioritize marriage, avoid the roommate syndrome, and implement small, practical actions to strengthen relationships. The podcast also explores the profound effects of social media on relationships, emphasizing the need for intentionality in how we engage with technology.

Link Mentioned:      

Book: Making Marriage Easier

https://arlenepellicane.com/

The Happy Home Podcast

Important questions from this week’s podcast:

• What’s it like to be married to me?
• When was the last time we had fun together?

Summary: 

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, along with clinical psychologist Dr. James Sells, explore the phenomenon of young adults going “no contact” with their parents. They discuss the emotional turmoil this causes for both parents and children, the factors contributing to this phenomenon, and the importance of family therapy in addressing these issues. The conversation highlights the need for understanding, communication, and the potential for healing within family dynamics.

Link Mentioned:     

Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality.

https://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12898