Believing in yourself is tough.

Believing in yourself after verbal and emotional abuse is even tougher.

So often we have someone else’s negative words in our head, and it can create a lot of self doubt.

(If you missed it, go back and listen to episode 141. Core 4 Wounds of Narcissistic Abuse: Self Doubt.)

Typically someone dysfunctional (and highly dysregulated) had to put YOU down in order to make THEMSELVES feel better.

It was THEIR projection, THEIR insecurity, masked as inadequacy in you.

But you don’t have to take that on anymore.

Believing in yourself is a choice, and some days we have to consciously choose it, because it’s easier for our brains to NOT believe in ourselves.

Keep listening as I share how to do this.

And if you’d like some help believing in yourself more this year,

Reclaiming your goals, your body, your self worth,

I’d love to help.

Schedule your free Clarity Call – A space to move from confusion to clarity together.

www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule

• (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love
• (00:00:26) - The Magic of Believing in Yourself
• (00:06:07) - How to Love Yourself When Self-Question is Triggering
• (00:15:23) - The Power of Codependency
• (00:18:33) - What Do You Want to Believe About Your Divorce?
• (00:20:33) - Believing in Yourself: The Weight Loss Journey
• (00:28:14) - What is it like to lose weight before getting married?
• (00:29:01) - What's For You?: Surrender to God
• (00:33:55) - Believing in Yourself
• (00:41:09) - Break the Cycle

No one likes to feel disappointed, but when you’ve gone through emotional abuse, that fear and avoidance is even stronger.

Growing up, you learned the only way you could have value as a person was by pleasing others and essentially preventing them from experiencing a negative emotion.

So if someone was disappointed in you, that was your fault, and thus, your responsibility to “fix.”

I also think of disappointment as a gateway emotion to things like: shame, guilt, regret, inadequacy, etc.

Disappointment isn’t that big or heavy of an emotion; it’s what you make that disappointment (or failure, or missed expectation) mean about you.

Keep listening as we dive further into this concept and how it impacts our ability to set goals, to believe in ourselves, to believe new things about ourselves, and fully heal from trauma and abuse.

Join me this Saturday, January 3rd for an all new workshop

From Survival to Desire: Crafting Your Future Vision

This is not about goal-setting.

This is a reclamation.

Reclaiming your voice, your body, your life.

Get more details and save your seat: https://workshops.bodyyoucrave.com/fv-workshop

When you're ready to learn more about working together, schedule your free consultation to see if we’re a good fit at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.

Not knowing what you want is not a failure — it’s a survival skill.”

That's why I'm hosting a new workshop: From Survival to Desire: Crafting Your Future Vision

This workshop is not about pressure or performance;

It’s not even about goal-setting.

This is a reclamation.

Reclaiming your voice, your body, your life.

From Survival to Desire Workshop is strategically designed to help you go from feeling disconnected from your desires, direction, or clarity, and relearn how to want—without guilt, fear, or pressure—and translate that into a grounded 1-year and 3-year vision you can start implementing immediately.

Saturday January 3, at 7am pst / 10am est

(Replay available if you can’t join us live)

Get all the details and save your spot:

https://workshops.bodyyoucrave.com/fv-workshop

For those of us who are (or have been):

emotional eaters,

in emotionally abusive or neglectful relationships,

or struggled with your self-worth,

Food, your weight, and people were never the real issues.

*The key problem was the identity you were forced to develop in order to survive.*

You learned to abandon your own needs to stay safe, loved, accepted, or chosen.

One of the most profound questions we can ask is:

“Who was I before the world told me who to be?”

This is how we get to the deeper layers driving your emotional eating, attracting emotionally abusive or neglectful people, and ultimately keeping you stuck in the same patterns year after year.

Ready to break free?

Keep listening and I’ll show you how.

When you’re ready to come work with me and reclaim your life, your vision, your voice, and your power, schedule your free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.

This is your one precious life.

Let’s make it count.

• (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love
• (00:00:26) - Why Relationships and Diets feel so hard
• (00:05:43) - Weight Loss and Codependency
• (00:08:59) - How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship
• (00:13:02) - How codependency affects our nervous system
• (00:14:26) - How to Get Out of Toxic Relationships
• (00:18:48) - How To Cultivate a Perfect Body With Restriction
• (00:21:50) - Why Weight Loss Feels So Hard
• (00:25:54) - How to Love Yourself Now
• (00:32:08) - Don't Let Your Child Struggle
• (00:34:41) - How to Heal Your Self-Worth
• (00:41:24) - How To Become The Girl Of Your Dreams
• (00:44:02) - How to Reclaim Your Identity
• (00:49:53) - How to Heal Your Relationships With Food, Alcohol
• (00:51:15) - Break the Cycle

As humans, we want life to be easy.

We want results to come easily,

We want to lose weight quickly and easily,

We want relationships to be easy.

And yet we have so much experience with marriage, divorce, and weight loss being hard, that we become extremely skeptical when things feel easy.

I noticed this specifically for myself around love and not needing to work for it or earn it.

Just like there have been times weight loss felt easy, and it was almost ‘too good to be true.’

Or we didn’t know exactly why it felt easy, so we didn’t know how to keep creating that.

Join me for today’s episode where I break down why we’re often so afraid of things being ‘easy’ even though that’s exactly what we want.

And when you’re ready to break free from toxic relationships with food, alcohol, your body, and other people, I can 100% help!

Schedule your free consultation to better identify how and where to break these cycles, so that you can create the LIFE and body you crave.

www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule

• (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love
• (00:00:24) - Why Weight Loss and Relationships Feel So Hard
• (00:06:49) - Why We Don't Trust Our Love Relationships
• (00:13:53) - Why There's 'Safety' in Weight Loss & Marriage Being Hard
• (00:18:17) - How to Stop Self-Sabotage
• (00:25:18) - Reclaim Your Body and Identity After Toxic Relationships
• (00:32:50) - Break Free From Bad Eating and Relationship Cycle

Have you ever had a craving or urge, but you just couldn’t figure out where it came from?

The day was fine, you weren’t overly stressed…

But you just couldn’t resist that urge to eat.

Today we’re diving into this exact topic and how to allow and process even the ‘low-level’ emotions that still drive your emotional eating habit, even if it comes days later.

Because ultimately the emotions you don’t process become the cravings you can’t control.

You’ll also get a sneak peek into my new group coaching program, The Reclaiming: Reignite your passion. Rebuild your body. Rebirth the woman.

Yes I’ll help you Reclaim your body, but I’m also going to help you Reclaim your voice, your power, your self-trust, your self-worth, and reignite that passion and fire inside of you.

If you’ve ever used food and relationships as survival strategies, this is for you.

Your next best step is to schedule a free consultation at bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.

On the call we’ll explore your 1-year future vision, and what it actually looks like to put it into action.

No more broken dreams, no more broken promises and “if-I-get-around-to-it” goals.

One future, one focus: Reclaiming YOURSELF.

If you haven’t yet downloaded your free feelings wheel to help you better spot and break your emotional eating habit, grab it here: https://download.bodyyoucrave.com/feelings-wheel-sign-up

• (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love
• (00:00:26) - How to Handle Unpleasant Emotions (and Eating Out of Them
• (00:07:46) - How to manage an emotional eating pattern
• (00:09:19) - What Processing an Emotion Looks Like
• (00:11:52) - How to Notice the Differences Between Emotions
• (00:17:57) - Signs That Things Are Not Right With Someone
• (00:25:51) - How to Control Your Emotions in a Relationship
• (00:33:46) - Dream Girl Coaching
• (00:41:11) - This is Your Year to Heal Yourself
• (00:45:40) - Don't Be Afraid of Your Default Thoughts
• (00:47:22) - Break the Cycle

This ‘all or nothing’ mindset shows up in so many areas of life.

This episode piggy-backs off of episode 81 Busting “All-Or-Nothing” Thinking (from March 2023), and highlights how this is a ‘mindset problem,’ which means we need a ‘mindset solution.’

Keep listening as I share how and why this comes up so much during the holidays.

Plus how to break free.

Do you find yourself wrestling with ‘all or nothing’ thinking and habits, too?

It’s time to come work with me.

Schedule your free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule and I’ll help you see the real patterns keeping you stuck + how to break free for good.

Download your free end emotional eating tool here: https://download.bodyyoucrave.com/feelings-wheel-sign-up

Come join the afterparty conversation on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianscoaching

• (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love
• (00:00:26) - All or Nothing Thinking
• (00:06:38) - How to Get Out of the Fear Zone
• (00:12:29) - All-Or-Nothing Thinking
• (00:19:06) - How to Win a Hard Season
• (00:20:48) - Let's Be Authentic During the Holidays
• (00:21:53) - Self-Doubt During Narcissism
• (00:28:06) - What You Need To Do To Win
• (00:29:08) - How to Stay Content and Sufficiency
• (00:33:04) - A Coaching Coach: How to Solve Your Problems
• (00:39:47) - Binge Eating and Relationship Break the Cycle

Holidays are often a prime-time for overeating, but they don’t have to be.

Tune in as I share 3 new beliefs that will help you stay mindful while eating all your favorite holiday dishes and desserts.