In this milestone episode of our monthly series Accept & Reflect, Lea and Paula dive into one of the most common (and misunderstood) dynamics in relationships: how to express your needs without slipping into clinginess.

We explore:

• Why asking for what you want can feel so vulnerable

• The difference between healthy need-sharing and over-dependency

• Free tools we love to support communication and self-awareness

• Simple mindset shifts that make it easier to get your needs met

• How to uplevel your relationships by owning your desires with confidence

Whether you’re navigating dating, long-term partnerships, or friendships, this conversation will help you reframe “needy” into empowered and connected.

Mentioned in this episode:Follow Paula on Instagram → @paulafehrmannFollow Lea on Instagram → @leacristin

Websites:
paulafehrmann.com

Join us every month to accept & reflect on personal lessons through the lens of Human Design & Astrology. Our aim to provide you a realistic insight into solutions, tools and remind you that whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone. After listening to this, you’ll remember that whatever is happening is happening FOR and not to you. You will feel empowered and excited about moving on with ease and welcome whatever life is throwing your way, because you deeply feel that it is working out in your favour.

Ever wonder if you’re actually growing, or just looping in the same old comfort zone? In this episode, I break down how to recognise your growth edge in real life, and how to know when you’re stretching in a way that’s expansive vs. stuck in patterns that feel safe but keep you small.

We’ll explore:

• What the South Node and North Node represent in your birth chart

• How to spot the difference between comfort vs. growth in everyday situations

• My own story of learning this the hard (and liberating) way

• Examples of how this axis plays out in different houses (so you can spot your own)

Your growth edge doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. It’s about that small, powerful stretch beyond your comfort zone that expands you without burning you out.

If you want to explore your own growth edge in detail, I’m offering a special 30-minute mini coaching session where we’ll dive into your chart, your South Node comfort zone, and your North Node growth path.

💫 Price: 50€

Book here. or simply click the link below:

https://Paulafehrmanncoaching.as.me/intro

To unlock this offer, book a free intro call with me and include the word GROWTH when you schedule.

This is a focused, powerful way to understand your unique growth edge, to ask questions and start aligning with it right away.

What happens when reality TV meets Human Design? In this episode, Paula Fehrmann talks with Patrick from Love Is Blind UK about life after the show, navigating public backlash, and finding healing and authenticity through Human Design.

We cover:

• Patrick’s journey on Love Is Blind UK and what came after

• How he dealt with criticism in the spotlight

• The role of Human Design in self-discovery and dating

• Using Human Design for resilience, growth, and authentic living

• What it’s really like to integrate HD after being on a global reality show

Whether you came for Love Is Blind or for Human Design wisdom, you’ll leave with insights on navigating challenges, staying grounded, and living true to yourself.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Follow Patrick on Instagram: @projectorpatrick

• Explore Paula’s Yin & Nidra practices: On-the-Go Wellness Shop

More episodes you’ll love:

• Nervous System Meets Human Design

• Why You Feel So Much (And What To Do About It)

• Emotional vs. Non-Emotional in Human Design

Connect with Paula:Instagram → @paulafehrmannWebsite → paulafehrmann.com

Welcome to the very first episode of Accept & Reflect — a new monthly series on Human Design 101 with Paula & Lea.

In this series, two Projectors (Paula – a 5/1 Splenic Projector, and Lea – a 3/5 Splenic Projector) come together to process the past month’s lessons and share openly through the lens of Human Design and Astrology.

Our intention with Accept & Reflect is to:

• Offer you realistic insights, solutions, and tools.

• Remind you that whatever you’re going through, you’re never alone.

• Help you feel that life is happening for you, not to you.

• Empower you to move forward with ease and even excitement for what’s next.

This first episode dives into relationship needs, breakups, and healing , and how we can use Human Design and Astrology to navigate heartbreak and rise stronger.

After listening, we hope you’ll feel lighter, supported, and ready to welcome whatever life is throwing your way, knowing it’s ultimately working in your favor.

✨ Connect with us:

• Paula: paulafehrmann.com | Instagram

• Lea: leacristin.com | Instagram

Welcome back to Human Design 101! After a little pause, I’m so excited to be back with you and to share what’s been moving in my world.

In this episode, I open up about why the podcast went quiet for a while, the big life transition I’ve been navigating (including moving to Lisbon!), and how my Human Design has supported me through it all.

You’ll hear:

• Why I paused the podcast and what felt important about coming back now

• My personal story of choosing Lisbon as a Splenic Projector

• The very human doubts and fears that came up along the way

• How Human Design can be an anchor in times of transformation (real talk)

If you’re in your own transition, this episode is here to remind you that you already have the map inside you. Human Design is a tool to help you return to yourself, again and again.

🌿 Ready to go deeper into your design or book a session with me? Head to paulafehrmann.com/booking

Thank you for being here, for listening, and for letting me share this new chapter with you. If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend, tag me when you listen, or leave a review, it really helps this work reach more people.

With love,
Paula

Have you ever wondered if Human Design is actually making things harder instead of easier? In this episode, we’re unpacking a big question: When does Human Design support your growth, and when does it hold you back?

We’ll dive into:- Why we sometimes use Human Design as a reason to stay stuck
- The traps of over-identifying with your chart
- What to do when you feel low or unworthy (and what NOT to do)
- A simple process for moving through hard moments without overcomplicating it
- When to use Human Design as a tool, and when to step away from it

If you’ve ever found yourself overanalyzing your chart, waiting for the perfect transit, or wondering if your struggles are “because of your design,” this conversation will bring relief and clarity.

✨ Connect with me:Instagram → @paulafehrmannWebsite → paulafehrmann.com

In this episode, Paula Fehrmann sits down with Sofia Mellano, a 2/4 Reflector and embodiment coach, to explore the fascinating intersection of the nervous system and Human Design.

We dive into:

• How nervous system regulation looks different for each Human Design type

• Why alignment isn’t always about excitement (and what to look for instead)

• The role of safety and embodiment in decision-making

• Dating and relationships through the lens of your nervous system

• How to use Human Design as a tool for empowerment, not as a box that limits you

Whether you’re curious about deconditioning, learning to trust your inner authority, or creating nervous system safety in your relationships, this conversation will give you powerful insights and practical takeaways.

LINKS & RESOURCES
Follow Sofia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humandesignwithsofia
Explore Yoga & Nidra practices for nervous system regulation: https://www.paulafehrmann.com/shop-on-the-go-wellness

Follow Paula on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula.fehrmann
Website: https://www.paulafehrmann.com

In this episode, we explore one of the juiciest, most misunderstood aspects of Human Design: your open and undefined centers.

Whether you're completely open in the Head, trying to prove your worth in the Heart, or feeling overwhelmed in the Solar Plexus , you’re not alone. These centers don’t just describe where you’re vulnerable to conditioning… they show you how you’ve been shaped by the world around you.

We’ll dive into:

• What an open center is

• What each center can feel like when it's open or undefined

• Why these areas can be sources of deep wisdom or lifelong wounding

• How to recognize when you’re acting from your conditioning

• The hidden gifts of openness in your chart

This episode is inspired by a deep-dive Reddit thread, real-life patterns I see in clients, and my own experiences as a Projector with several open centers.

✨ If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too lost, or too affected by others, this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or YouTube

🌿 Work with me or explore my offerings→ https://paulafehrmann.com

🧘‍♀️ Yin & Nidra practices for open center overwhelm→ On-the-Go Wellness Shop

🧠 Reddit thread that inspired this episode→ Undefined Centers & Conditioning – Reddit Discussion

🎧 Related Episode: “Starting the Center Series - Understanding your Core?”→ Listen on Spotify