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Have you seen this viral question going around the internet where people are asking women if they would rather be stuck in the woods with a bear or a man? It was intended to spark discussion about violence against women and the responses have been both overwhelming and insightful.

This whole conversation has made us wonder how people would answer if we ask them if they would rather mediate with a bear or a narcissist?

Today we're tackling the fear so many individuals have about trying to mediate with a high conflict or difficult partner. We consistently see people choose to pay an attorney tens of thousands of dollars to litigate rather than attempt mediation and negotiate directly with their spouse. Having an attorney to represent them might feel like they’re more protected, but are they?

We discuss:

• How HCP complicate the mediation process
• Common fears we hear
• Reasons mediation might be a BETTER choice
• Tips for negotiating and keeping your cool

As always, our goal is to make sure our clients are making decisions from a place of information and strategy, not fear no matter which option they choose.


Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Ever hear the expression "Expectations are just planned resentments”? When our expectations aren't met, we feel like what we got less than we deserved, which leads to disappointment and builds to resentment which increases cost, conflict, and stress in divorce.

Whether the source is tv and movies, social media, or family and friends, people can tend to enter into divorce with some preconceived notions about how it works or how things will go. They may have expectations about parenting time, how much support they’ll get, how their spouse will behave, or how assets will be divided.

And when those expectations don’t match up with the reality of their divorce process, reactions can range from mild disappointment to downright rage.

In this episode we're talking through 10 of the most common expectations we hear from clients beginning the divorce process, offering some reality testing, and sharing some tips to help them prepare to accept the reality of their situation and make choices that reflect their priorities and their values.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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It’s well known that divorce can be one of the most stressful life events our clients will experience. And we’ve talked extensively about how fear escalates cost and conflict. But there’s a secret ingredient that can make the process even more difficult and more expensive … and that’s trauma.

Today we are going to give you some insight into working with clients experiencing PTSD or post traumatic spouse disorder. No, that’s not a real DSM diagnosis, but it is a condition that can affect people who go through extremely contentious divorces.

According to psycholoogytoday.com, “The word 'trauma' literally means wound, shock, or injury". Studies have found that following relationship dissolution, many people manifest symptoms similar to those experienced by people who have survived highly stressful situations.

This means that in some cases, those who experience divorce could experience true PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms similar to those who have experienced military combat, natural disasters, sexual assault, or other life-threatening events.

Coaching a client in trauma presents some extra challenges because their alarm system is going off and when we feel threatened, it’s hard to have the same level of self-awareness or decision making skills.

Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss types of trauma, trauma responses, trauma recovery, and strategies for supporting clients struggling with PTSD.


Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com