Overgiving Is NOT Who You Are

Have you ever found yourself overgiving in relationships, constantly caring for others, hoping (maybe unconsciously) to be loved in return?

In this episode, I explore what’s really behind this pattern and why overgiving, merging, or people-pleasing are not personality traits, but survival strategies rooted in emotional trauma.

I share a client example, guide you through a short somatic practice to connect with your body and inner child, and explain how the nervous system adapts when love and attunement are missing in childhood.

You'll hear:

• Why overgiving often masks a deep fear of not being lovable as you are

• How to begin reconnecting with your needs and your worth

• Insights from somatic experiencing trauma therapy

• Journaling prompts to go deeper with this theme

Overgiving is not who you are — it’s what you learned to stay connected and safe. Let’s gently begin to untangle that, together.

You can find all ways to work with me — therapy, mentoring, energy healing, and retreats — at www.jasminschott.de

Welcome to the first episode of the new season of Dear Therapist — a podcast where psychology, somatic healing, and energy work come together to support deep, lasting transformation.

I’m Jasmin Schott Carvalheiro, a clinical psychologist, certified Somatic Experiencing trauma therapist, coach, and shamanic energy healer. After a long pause, I’m bringing this podcast back to life — and in this opening episode, I want to reintroduce myself and my work, so you can get a sense of who I am and how I support people on their healing journey.

In future episodes, we’ll dive deeper into specific topics. But this first conversation sets the foundation: why I bring together science and soul, how somatic therapy changed everything for me and my clients, and what I believe healing truly requires — especially in these intense and transformational times.

We’ll explore:

• Why somatic trauma therapy is so effective

• Why releasing trauma too fast, too strongly, or alone can recreate the conditions of the original wound

• How ancestral, collective, and energetic imprints can live in our system

• Why we need to reconnect with the body to truly heal

And at the end, we’ll do a short body scan practice together — something you can return to anytime you need grounding and reconnection.

This space is for anyone seeking clarity, truth, and depth — whether you're a therapist, coach, healer, client, or simply interested in holistic healing methods.

Thank you for being here. The new season starts now.

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Learn more about my work: https://jasminschott.de

#somatictherapy #traumahealing #shamanichealing #holistichealing #energyhealing #bodymindconnection #somaticexperiencing #portugaltherapy

DEAR THERAPIST meet THE OCEAN SISTERS!

“Especially in this surfer lifestyle, when you see my life from outside and when I talk to friends and people in Germany they say: what`s your f**ing problem?! You should be happy the whole day! And I am like: no, I am not. Because I recognized that I am stil the same and what I was doing in Germany – I was taking those patterns and I was exactly transferring them to here." Julia, founder of the OCEAN SISTERS

In this episode I speak with Julia and Jaz, who founded the OCEAN SISTERS, a community in Ericeira/ Portugal bringing together likeminded people who love the ocean and the lifestyle at Portugals coast!

We speak about seasalt therapy and that it`s ok, not to be ok sometimes ;)

Enjoy this episode and become part of the OCEAN SISTERS COMMUNITY by following them on Instagram: @oceansisters_ericeria!
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If you look for mental health support within the public health care system in Portugal have a look at:

https://lisbonproject.org/mental-health-sns/
And here you find a very helpful article about healthcare in Portugal as well:
www.expatica.com

Especially about mental healthcare:

https://www.expatica.com/pt/healthcare/healthcare-services/mental-health-portugal-104327/

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All the best for you and follow me for more on Instagram @jasminschott_psychologist

Can you relate to the feeling that sometimes it just seems to be TOO MUCH? To much for your body, too much for your mind, too much to handle things in a conscious and calm way and you simply feel overwhelmed?!

In the new podcast episode of DEAR THERAPIST I speak about feelings of overwhelm, the different aspects of emotional, mental, physical, energetical and spiritual overwhelm and I invite you to join me for a Body Scan Meditation in the end of the episode to ease overwhelm and feel more grounded.

Enjoy!

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In today`s episode of "DEAR THERAPIST" I spoke to a former client, Dyan Valdés (she gave me the permission to tell her name), who has been a professional musician for years, playing in well-known bands and just recently, she released her very first own single FADE AWAY.

I wanted to know how she accesses creativity and we ended up having a wonderful talk about vulnerability, taking emotional risks, female empowerment and female support and why creating something special always means that some people will definitely not like it.

You can also enjoy listening to the song "FADE AWAY" at the end of the episode!

Check out more about Dyan`s work and her full album being released soon:

www.dyanvaldes.com https://www.facebook.com/DyanValdesMusic https://www.instagram.com/dyanvaldes/

Follow me on Instagram for more inspirational talks and infos about therapy, psychology and coaching: @jasminschott_psychologist

THINGS THERAPISTS SAY YOU SHOULD DOUBT

In this episode of DEAR THERAPIST I speak about things therapists say that you should doubt, question or at least not take for the only truth.

This episode is actually inspired by my younger therapist self who said and did things during therapy processes which I now, after being in this business for quite a while, would not say or do like that any more.

I speak about the following:

• Why only following a diagnose will make you not see your client fully and will make your client not feel seen
• Why working on boundaries during therapy might be the wrong approach
• Why the assumption „You can only love someone else if you can love yourself“ is not totally correct
• Why your body might not give you the best advice
• Why fear is not just bad and can even become your guardian angel

Please don’t forget to drop your feedback as a review! I truly appreciate that! Thank you so much and enjoy listening!

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In this podcast episode I would like to give a definition of Spiritual Psychology and point out why I think that strengthening our minds on a spiritual level became a global need. You will also get some very practical advice on what you can do when you feel like storing a lot of anxiety inside yourself. Enjoy!

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We hear all the times that we should have goals right?!

And a vision!

But what if you can`t think of a clear vision? What if your goals just don`t resonate from within?

What if you just don`t have the motivation and energy to even imagine what else could be there for you to live a fulfilled life?

In this episode I speak about how you can access your energy by finding out which are your self-sabotaging behaviours and emotional wholes which need to be filled first before you feel energized and motivated to create a vision from within!

🌿 MY EVENT IN BERLIN: https://www.jasminschott.de/new-events/

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