Overgiving Is NOT Who You Are

Have you ever found yourself overgiving in relationships, constantly caring for others, hoping (maybe unconsciously) to be loved in return?

In this episode, I explore what’s really behind this pattern and why overgiving, merging, or people-pleasing are not personality traits, but survival strategies rooted in emotional trauma.

I share a client example, guide you through a short somatic practice to connect with your body and inner child, and explain how the nervous system adapts when love and attunement are missing in childhood.

You'll hear:

• Why overgiving often masks a deep fear of not being lovable as you are

• How to begin reconnecting with your needs and your worth

• Insights from somatic experiencing trauma therapy

• Journaling prompts to go deeper with this theme

Overgiving is not who you are — it’s what you learned to stay connected and safe. Let’s gently begin to untangle that, together.

You can find all ways to work with me — therapy, mentoring, energy healing, and retreats — at www.jasminschott.de

Welcome to the first episode of the new season of Dear Therapist — a podcast where psychology, somatic healing, and energy work come together to support deep, lasting transformation.

I’m Jasmin Schott Carvalheiro, a clinical psychologist, certified Somatic Experiencing trauma therapist, coach, and shamanic energy healer. After a long pause, I’m bringing this podcast back to life — and in this opening episode, I want to reintroduce myself and my work, so you can get a sense of who I am and how I support people on their healing journey.

In future episodes, we’ll dive deeper into specific topics. But this first conversation sets the foundation: why I bring together science and soul, how somatic therapy changed everything for me and my clients, and what I believe healing truly requires — especially in these intense and transformational times.

We’ll explore:

• Why somatic trauma therapy is so effective

• Why releasing trauma too fast, too strongly, or alone can recreate the conditions of the original wound

• How ancestral, collective, and energetic imprints can live in our system

• Why we need to reconnect with the body to truly heal

And at the end, we’ll do a short body scan practice together — something you can return to anytime you need grounding and reconnection.

This space is for anyone seeking clarity, truth, and depth — whether you're a therapist, coach, healer, client, or simply interested in holistic healing methods.

Thank you for being here. The new season starts now.

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Learn more about my work: https://jasminschott.de

#somatictherapy #traumahealing #shamanichealing #holistichealing #energyhealing #bodymindconnection #somaticexperiencing #portugaltherapy

DEAR THERAPIST meet THE OCEAN SISTERS!

“Especially in this surfer lifestyle, when you see my life from outside and when I talk to friends and people in Germany they say: what`s your f**ing problem?! You should be happy the whole day! And I am like: no, I am not. Because I recognized that I am stil the same and what I was doing in Germany – I was taking those patterns and I was exactly transferring them to here." Julia, founder of the OCEAN SISTERS

In this episode I speak with Julia and Jaz, who founded the OCEAN SISTERS, a community in Ericeira/ Portugal bringing together likeminded people who love the ocean and the lifestyle at Portugals coast!

We speak about seasalt therapy and that it`s ok, not to be ok sometimes ;)

Enjoy this episode and become part of the OCEAN SISTERS COMMUNITY by following them on Instagram: @oceansisters_ericeria!
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If you look for mental health support within the public health care system in Portugal have a look at:

https://lisbonproject.org/mental-health-sns/
And here you find a very helpful article about healthcare in Portugal as well:
www.expatica.com

Especially about mental healthcare:

https://www.expatica.com/pt/healthcare/healthcare-services/mental-health-portugal-104327/

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All the best for you and follow me for more on Instagram @jasminschott_psychologist