Episodes

  • 180. What if midlife is the start of your sexiest years yet? With Lisa Fitzpatrick

    180. What if midlife is the start of your sexiest years yet? With Lisa Fitzpatrick
    Oct 28 2026

    What if midlife was something to look forward to knowing your best years are yet to come.

    In this episode, I sit down with physiotherapist and pelvic and sexual health educator and author Lisa Fitzpatrick for a refreshingly open conversation about midlife, our bodies, intimacy, ageing, and what happens when we start paying attention to what our bodies might be telling us.

    We explore why midlife can bring old stories, unresolved experiences, and parts of ourselves we’ve pushed down bubbling back to the surface, and the connection between what’s happening physically and what might be going on elsewhere in our lives.

    We also go into territory women aren’t always encouraged to talk about openly: Intimacy after 50, pelvic health, feeling safe in relationships, and the beliefs many of us have absorbed about becoming less sexy, desirable, or relevant as we age.

    Lisa shares how her own experience of heartbreak during menopause challenged many of those beliefs and forced her to look differently at her body, her relationships, and herself.

    And we explore why this stage of life doesn’t have to be about decline at all…and what might become possible when consider our best and sexiest years are ahead of us.

    Key takeaways:

    o What your body might be telling you beyond “it’s just menopause”.

    o Why midlife can bring buried stories and unresolved experiences bubbling to the surface.

    o The connection between feeling safe and what happens in your body.

    o What women are rarely told about intimacy and pelvic health after 50.

    o Why questioning the stories you’ve absorbed about ageing can change what feels possible.

    o Why menopause is not merely a hormonal event, rather a profound threshold.

    o Why your 50s could be when you feel your best and come fully alive.

    Get a copy of Lisa’s book, Sexy Menopause.

    Get in touch with Lisa:

    Website: Lisa Fitzpatrick

    Instagram: @thelisafitzpatrick

    Facebook: Sacred Women's Business

    LinkedIn: Lisa Fitzpatrick

    Substack: Lisa Fitzpatrick

    X: Lisa Fitzpatrick

    COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

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    SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

    Pop your name on the list and be first to know about the event in Melbourne AND Sydney in 2027.


    Where to find me:

    Website: Kim Payne

    LinkedIn: Kim Payne

    Instagram: @iamkimpayne

    Facebook: KimPayneBiz

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    56 mins
  • 179. What happens after you do the big thing? With Kim Payne

    179. What happens after you do the big thing? With Kim Payne
    Oct 21 2026

    What happens after you finally do the thing you’ve dreamed about, worked towards, and poured everything you have into?

    In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of what happened after one of my biggest dreams, my Someday to TODAY event, became real, and what I discovered when I finally came back down to earth.

    Because there’s a side to doing big things we don’t talk about nearly enough.

    I walk through the incredible high, the physical and emotional crash that followed, and how my inner critic turned a handful of tiny logistical comments into a reason to question the entire thing.

    I share what happens when adrenaline disappears and why high achievers and perfectionists can be particularly vulnerable to the post-achievement crash.

    And why the moments immediately after doing something courageous may NOT be the best time to critique how you went.

    And once you’ve rested, recalibrated, and allowed yourself to appreciate what you’ve achieved... how are you going to leverage it?

    Whether you’ve run an event, finished a huge project, launched something, stepped onto a stage, shared something vulnerable, or finally done something you’ve been putting off, this episode invites you to think differently about what comes next.

    Because doing the big thing might not be the finish line, instead it might just be the starting point.

    Key takeaways

    o Why the emotional crash can come after you do the courageous thing, even when you nail it.

    o What your inner critic can do when adrenaline, exhaustion, and perfectionism collide.

    o Why waiting for things to settle can change what success, or the feedback, really means.

    o The question that can turn one big moment into something with a much bigger ripple effect.

    o Why doing the thing isn’t enough and what we often forget to do once it’s done.


    SOMEDAY to TODAY – event 2027

    Pop your name on the list and be first to know about the event in Melbourne AND Sydney in 2027.

    COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

    Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

    Where to find me:

    Website: Kim Payne

    LinkedIn: Kim Payne

    Instagram: @iamkimpayne

    Facebook: KimPayneBiz

    Grab a 2027 calendar from Natalie Birch.

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    31 mins
  • 178. What if starting again isn’t starting from scratch? With Claire Adamou

    178. What if starting again isn’t starting from scratch? With Claire Adamou
    Oct 14 2026

    How much of who you are today has been shaped by things that happened years, or even decades, ago?

    A throwaway comment from childhood.

    Years of being criticised or second-guessed.

    A relationship where you gradually became less of yourself.

    Or an experience that left you afraid to go after what you want.

    In this episode, I chat with life and leadership coach and Author of Life After Divorce, Claire Adamou, to explore how these experiences can shape our confidence, identity and choices…often without us even realising it.

    Claire shares what it took to leave a marriage in which she'd lost herself, and how, after 40, she rebuilt her life and took her career in a completely different direction.

    We also explore the fears that can sit underneath even the most confident exterior and what can happen when you uncover where those fears really began.

    And why courage isn't always about saying yes, sometimes, it’s knowing when to say no.

    Key takeaways:

    o What it takes to rebuild your life, confidence, and identity after divorce.

    o How one seemingly insignificant comment from childhood can hold you back for decades.

    o How starting again after 40 can take your life in a completely different direction.

    o How years of criticism and second-guessing yourself can erode your sense of who you are.

    o Why the confidence people see on the outside can be very different from what’s happening underneath.

    o What can change when you uncover the real source of a fear you’ve carried for years.

    o Why learning to say no can require just as much courage as always saying yes.

    Get in touch with Claire:

    Website: Claire Adamou

    LinkedIn: Claire Adamou

    Instagram: @claireadamou

    Tiktok: Claire Adamou

    Get Claires Book: Life After Divorce: From Surviving to Thriving

    COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

    Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

    Where to find me:

    Website: Kim Payne

    LinkedIn: Kim Payne

    Instagram: @iamkimpayne

    Facebook: KimPayneBiz

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • 177. When you’ve said yes to something and now you have to do it. With Kim Payne

    177. When you’ve said yes to something and now you have to do it. With Kim Payne
    Oct 7 2026

    What happens when you stop saying you’ll do something someday… and finally do it?

    Recorded just two days before my first Someday to Today event, this episode is a very real look at what it feels like to be in the messy middle of bringing a big idea to life, before I know how the story ends.

    I share the nerves and excitement, the mistakes and unexpected wins, and the lessons I didn’t see coming.

    From confronting my discomfort with asking, to a rather spectacular ticket-selling blunder, to a photoshoot that revealed a side of myself I rarely see, this experience has stretched me in ways I never expected.

    And as I watch nine other women say yes to doing something that scares them too, I’m seeing firsthand what can happen after you’ve said yes…when there’s nowhere left to hide, and you have to do the thing.

    Key takeaways:

    o What happened when one of my biggest personal challenges became impossible to avoid.

    o The innocent wording mistake that completely backfired when I tried to sell tickets.

    o Why an unexpected black-and-white photoshoot became one of the most confronting parts of this entire experience.

    o What I witnessed when women who aren’t speakers stepped onto a stage to share deeply personal stories.

    o The growth I never expected to experience before the thing I was preparing for had even happened.

    SOMEDAY to TODAY – event

    A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.

    Friday 9 October 2026.

    Find out more and grab your spot here.

    COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

    Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

    Where to find me:

    Website: Kim Payne

    LinkedIn: Kim Payne

    Instagram: @iamkimpayne

    Facebook: KimPayneBiz

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    29 mins
  • 176. You know what needs to change, so why haven't you? With Jo Woods

    176. You know what needs to change, so why haven't you? With Jo Woods
    Sep 30 2026
    Have you ever wished someone in your life would change, only to be disappointed when they don't? Or held on to a relationship, a version of yourself, or something from your past, even when you know it's time to move on?In this episode, I sit down with psychotherapist, relationship coach, and entrepreneur Jo Woods for a conversation that takes us into some personal territory. We cover difficult family relationships and hidden insecurities, changing friendships, breaking old habits, and finding the courage to start something completely new in your 50s.Jo shares the moment she finally stood up for herself and what she discovered in the years that followed, including a fascinating perspective on the expectations we place on the people closest to us and what happens when those expectations aren't met.We explore why we can appear confident and capable on the outside while feeling completely different on the inside, what happens to our relationships as we grow and make different choices, and why knowing what we need to change and changing it are two very different things.And at 58, Jo is putting much of what she's learned into practice. Having just launched a new product business, Claridi, she shares what she's discovering about herself as she navigates the challenges, uncertainty, and vulnerability that come with putting something new into the world.It's a conversation about the courage it takes to change and the choices we make about what comes next. Key Takeawayso What changes when you stop expecting the people closest to you to change?o How the person everyone sees can be very different from the person you feel you are inside.o How to make different choices when the people around you expect you to stay the same.o How a confident, outgoing woman can end up battling anxiety, panic attacks, and agoraphobia.o What happens to your friendships when you start making different choices and growing in different directions.o Why knowing what needs to change doesn't necessarily mean you'll change it.o Why living in the past can keep you stuck, even when those experiences happened years ago.o What happens when you back yourself and start something new in your 50s? Find out more about Jo Woods or Claridi Botanical Inhaler:Website: Jo Woods Website: Claridi Instagram: @claridi_aus Facebook: Claridi LinkedIn: Jo Woods Tiktok: Claridi SOMEDAY to TODAY – event A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.Friday 9 October 2026Find out more and grab your spot here. COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today. Where to find me: Website: Kim Payne LinkedIn: Kim Payne Instagram: @iamkimpayne Facebook: KimPayneBiz
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    56 mins
  • 175. What would you do if you knew you could fail? With Kim Payne

    175. What would you do if you knew you could fail? With Kim Payne
    Sep 23 2026

    What would you do if you knew you could fail?

    If you knew there was a chance it might not work, you might not be brilliant at it, or things might turn out completely differently than you hoped, would you still want to do it?

    In this episode, I explore how that one question has changed my relationship with failure, risk, and courage, particularly after spending much of my life as a high-achieving perfectionist who would sometimes rather not try at all than risk not being good enough.

    I share some of the experiences that have challenged that thinking, including the freedom that comes from doing your best rather than being the best, writing my book, and now creating my first full-day event, Someday to Today.

    I also cover what perfectionism may really be protecting us from, why self-doubt and imposter syndrome show up, and what changes when we stop needing all the ducks lined up before we move.

    For me, the bigger question isn't whether something might fail.

    It's whether the cost of never finding out has become greater than the risk of giving it a go.

    Key takeaways:

    o The one question that can completely change how you think about failure.

    o Why the cost of never trying can eventually become greater than the risk of getting it wrong.

    o What perfectionism may really be protecting you from.

    o The surprising freedom in discovering that your best doesn’t have to be the best.

    o How you can reframe imposter syndrome as something to move towards, not away from.

    o How taking action can build the self-trust you can't create by waiting until you feel ready.

    o What changes when you ask yourself: Would I regret failing… or never finding out?

    SOMEDAY to TODAY – event

    A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.

    Friday 9 October 2026, Sth Melbourne.

    Find out more and grab your spot here.

    COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK

    Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today.

    Where to find me:

    Website: Kim Payne

    LinkedIn: Kim Payne

    Instagram: @iamkimpayne

    Facebook: KimPayneBiz

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    30 mins
  • 174. How midlife and being “too much” created The Hormonal Queen with Danni Novytarger

    174. How midlife and being “too much” created The Hormonal Queen with Danni Novytarger
    Sep 16 2026
    What if the parts of yourself you’ve spent years being told to tone down are exactly the parts you’re meant to turn up? At 53, Danni Novytarger, aka The Hormonal Queen, is finding that out.Behind the outrageous humour, straight-faced reels, and unapologetic personality is a story of courage that most people following Danni would never know.In this episode, Danni opens up about IVF, losing her mum, the breakdown of long-term friendships, debilitating perimenopause symptoms, and an unexpected health challenge. She shares how, during one of the darkest periods of her life, teaching Pilates, telling stories, and making other women laugh helped her find her way back to herself.Danni also reflects on being told she was too loud, too outrageous, and even embarrassing, and that she needed to tone herself down. Yet those very parts of her personality have become the reason so many people connect with her, particularly women in midlife who see themselves in the experiences she shares so hilariously.She is still blown away that being unapologetically herself has led to live comedy shows and an Instagram community of 200K+ followers and growing.We explore how laughter helped Danni find her way back to herself, what happened when she stopped containing the parts of her personality others considered “too much,” and how the feeling she’d carried for years that there was something more for her is now making sense.Because sometimes the thing you’ve been searching for isn’t something new you need to become.It might be something that’s been part of you all along. Key takeaways:o What can happen when you stop toning yourself down for other people.o How telling stories in Pilates classes led Danni to be crowned The Hormonal Queen.o Why laughing at the realities of perimenopause can help women feel a whole lot more normal.o How humour became an unexpected way through dark times.o What to do with that persistent feeling that there’s something more for you.o Why some of the people closest to you may fall away when you start following what lights you up.o How the parts of yourself you once thought were “too much” might hold a clue to what comes next.o What becomes possible when, at any age, you finally give yourself permission to fully be you. Find out more and follow The Hormonal Queen:Instagram: @hormonal_queen Facebook: Danni HormonalQueen Come see Danni perform for the VIP’s 👑SOMEDAY to TODAY – event A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.Friday 9 October 2026, Sth MelbourneFind out more and grab your ticket here. COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today. Where to find me: Website: Kim Payne LinkedIn: Kim Payne Instagram: @iamkimpayne Facebook: KimPayneBiz More about Danni aka The Hormonal Queen At 53, Danni is a Pilates instructor, mother of two, wife to a chiropractor, and devoted servant to a cat named Pickles. After years of teaching more than 25 Pilates classes a week, life threw her a season of grief that forced her to rethink everything.She turned to social media as an outlet, sharing the raw, hilarious and often unfiltered reality of midlife, menopause and everything in between. What began as therapy quickly became a movement.Today, millions of women know her as The Hormonal Queen, the outspoken voice who says exactly what women are thinking but are often too afraid to say out loud. With humour, honesty and heart, Danni is changing the conversation around midlife, proving that getting older doesn't mean getting quieter. It means finally giving yourself permission to speak up. 👑
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    42 mins
  • 173. What if the thing that makes you different is your greatest strength? With Helen Pollard

    173. What if the thing that makes you different is your greatest strength? With Helen Pollard
    Sep 9 2026
    What if the parts of yourself you’ve spent years trying to hide are the very things that make you who you are?In this episode, I chat with Helen Pollard, creative director of the ARTea Group, about what happens when we stop hiding those parts of ourselves and start seeing them as superpowers.Growing up with dyslexia, navigating a turbulent home life, and financial hardship, Helen learned early what it felt like to be considered “different” and to mask the things she found difficult.We explore how experiences like these can shape the way we think, adapt, and find another way when the obvious path doesn’t work.But we also go behind what success looks like from the outside. Helen shares openly about financial pressure, businesses that don’t always go to plan, and what happens when you’ve become so good at pushing forward that you haven’t stopped to deal with where you are now.We talk about the courage it takes to be more honest about who you are, the freedom that can come when you stop trying to appear as though you have it all together, and one of the hardest questions for any high-achieving woman: when do you keep pushing for something you believe in, and when is the courageous decision to let it go?And as Helen looks towards an even bigger dream inspired by her own son’s neurodiversity, we explore what becomes possible when the things that make you different become part of the impact you’re here to make. Key takeaways:o How something you’ve spent years hiding can become one of your greatest strengths.o What survival mode can teach you about resourcefulness and finding another way.o Why success can look very different from what’s really happening behind the scenes.o What becomes possible when you stop hiding the messy parts of who you are.o Why courage isn’t always about pushing through…sometimes it’s knowing when to let go.o How the things that make you different can be the work you’re uniquely equipped to do.o Why there may never be a perfect time to begin the thing you keep thinking about. Follow along or find about more about Helen:Websites: ARTea Art School Roxys Venue Melbourne Event Florals Party Corp Instagram Pages:@helenpollard_ @roxysparty @melbourneeventflorals @artea.art.school Facebook Pages:Melbourne Event Florals Roxys Unique Functions & Events ARTea Art School LinkedIn: Helen Pollard SOMEDAY to TODAY – event A one-day transformational experience for women who are done waiting for 'someday'.Friday 9 October 2026Find out more and grab your spot here. COURAGEOUS ME – THE BOOK Grab your copy of Courageous Me – The courage to turn someday into today. Where to find me: Website: Kim Payne LinkedIn: Kim Payne Instagram: @iamkimpayne Facebook: KimPayneBiz
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    1 hr