For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger can feel powerful — but that surge of energy, those sharp words or slammed doors, are often doing more harm than good.

In this deeply important episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs and AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah reveal the truth: uncontrolled anger doesn’t solve problems — it creates them.

From subtle emotional abuse to devastating outbursts, this episode explores how anger chips away at trust and connection — and how you can reclaim real power through calm, clarity, and conscious choice.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger doesn’t work — it wounds: What feels powerful in the moment often damages your relationships and leaves you feeling regretful and isolated.

-Abuse comes in many forms: Uncontrolled anger can turn into verbal, emotional, or even physical patterns of abuse — even if it doesn’t look like “rage.”

-The illusion of control: Using anger to get what you want creates a false sense of power — real strength lies in calm, conscious responses.

-Unaddressed anger escalates: Left unchecked, anger tends to grow and multiply, creating destructive cycles that erode relationships and self-respect.

-You can choose a different path: Learning emotional awareness, empathy and communication gives you the tools to respond instead of react — and truly change your life.

-Change starts with a single decision: The choice to take back control of your reactions is the first step toward building healthier, more respectful relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger doesn’t always look like shouting. Sometimes, it shows up as tension in your tone, silence in place of connection or words that leave unseen bruises.

In this moving episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Leon’s powerful story — a man who didn’t think he had an anger problem until he realised how deeply his unspoken frustration was affecting the people he loved.

If you’ve ever said, “At least I’m not yelling,” this episode is a wake-up call — and a message of hope.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger can be quiet and still cause harm: Leon’s story reveals how subtle signs — tone of voice, emotional withdrawal, critical words — can hurt just as much as yelling.

-Awareness is the game-changer: Learning to recognise the physical and emotional signs of anger helped Leon stop it before it boiled over.

-Change starts with empathy: Leon’s desire to protect his young daughter from emotional harm gave him the motivation to change, fast.

-Communication goes both ways: The course helped Leon understand the importance of listening and considering how his words impacted others.

-Even skepticism can lead to transformation: Leon was unsure at first, but within days of starting the course, he began making real, lasting changes.

-Positive self-talk creates resilience: Anchoring his change to something precious — his daughter — gave Leon strength to shift old patterns and stay calm under pressure.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

When things go wrong, it’s tempting to point the finger — at your partner, your boss, even your kids. But blame doesn’t solve problems; it creates distance.

In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores "The Blame Game" — a hidden habit that damages relationships and keeps us stuck in conflict.

With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair unpacks why we blame, how it affects those around us and what you can do instead to build understanding and connection.

Key Takeaways:

-Blame is a defence mechanism: It often shows up automatically to protect our ego from discomfort, but it only deepens disconnection.

-Awareness is the first step: Simply noticing when you’re blaming — even in your own mind — opens the door to a different response.

-Own your part: Taking responsibility for your contribution, no matter how small, shifts you from victim mode into growth and empowerment.

-Practice empathy over accusation: Asking “Why might they be acting this way?” builds understanding and defuses conflict.

-Let go of “shoulds”: Rigid thinking about how things should have gone only fuels resentment. Focus on what can be done now.

-Communicate to connect: Use “I” statements, listen actively, and validate feelings to create safer, more productive conversations.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Does anger feel like a cycle you can’t escape—despite your best intentions? In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs takes a closer look at whether anger management programs actually work.

Through real-world examples and compelling research, you'll discover how practical tools and proven strategies can help you take back control, rebuild trust and create a calmer, more respectful life.

Key Takeaways:

Anger is human, not shameful: The goal isn’t to suppress anger—it’s to understand and redirect it in healthier ways.

Real tools create real change: Skills like identifying early warning signs, using timeouts and self-soothing can dramatically shift how you respond under pressure.

Science supports success: Research shows anger management programs reduce aggression, improve emotional control and help reframe distorted thinking.

Change doesn’t require years of therapy: Structured, practical programs offer step-by-step support you can start using right away.

Taking the first step is powerful: Just deciding to seek help is a courageous act—and a meaningful step toward more peaceful relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Some relationships crumble not because of one big fight—but because of small, damaging habits repeated over time.

In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the Four Horsemen of relationship breakdown—criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling—and more importantly, how to replace them with healthier, more constructive behaviors.

If you're ready to protect and strengthen your connection, this episode is your roadmap.

Key Takeaways:

Criticism chips away at connection: Focus on expressing your needs with “I” statements instead of blaming or attacking your partner’s character.

Contempt is the most toxic dynamic: Sarcasm, eye-rolling and superiority destroy respect. The antidote is appreciation—notice and name what your partner does well.

Defensiveness blocks growth: Instead of explaining or blaming back, try taking responsibility, even for a small part of the problem.

Stonewalling shuts down the relationship: If you're overwhelmed, pause to self-soothe—but always come back to the conversation.

Every pattern can be changed: With awareness, practice and the right tools, you can shift from conflict to connection—and build a relationship that lasts.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

We’ve all been there—saying something in anger that we didn’t mean, only to be left with regret and a damaged relationship. In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs guides you through the often misunderstood art of a true apology.

You’ll learn how to move beyond a quick “I’m sorry” and instead make a real, lasting repair that rebuilds trust and strengthens connection.

Key Takeaways:

Own your actions fully: A real apology starts with clear responsibility—no “buts,” no excuses, no blame-shifting.

Validate their feelings: Empathy is crucial. Showing that you understand the hurt you've caused can begin the healing process.

Make meaningful amends: Actions speak louder than words. Small, specific efforts to repair the damage show sincerity and care.

Commit to change: Apologising isn’t just about the past—it’s a promise about the future, ideally with a plan for how things will be different.

Respect their timeline: Forgiveness can take time. Patience, humility and consistency are key to rebuilding trust.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Do you ever feel stuck in the same arguments, saying things you don’t mean and watching your relationship suffer? In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs introduces a simple, practical three-step process to help you transform conflict into connection.

If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like every disagreement turns into a battle, this episode offers a better way forward—one based on respect, empathy and shared solutions.

Key Takeaways:

Mindset matters: Entering a disagreement with a spirit of collaboration—rather than competition—sets the stage for real resolution.

Listening is deeper than hearing: Active listening means setting aside your defences and really tuning into your partner’s emotions and needs.

Solve the real problem together: Brainstorming without judgment helps uncover creative, win-win solutions that go beyond surface-level fixes.

Make it stick with action: Clear plans, shared accountability, and regular check-ins turn good intentions into lasting change.

Small shifts make a big difference: When both partners feel heard and valued, conflict becomes an opportunity—not a threat.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What if the key to overcoming anger wasn’t more control, but more compassion?

In this thought-provoking episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how choosing compassion—far from being weak or passive—can be a powerful way to break the cycle of reactivity and protect your most important relationships.

If you’ve ever lashed out in the heat of the moment and wished you could take it back, this episode could change the way you see anger forever.

Key Takeaways:

-Assumptions fuel anger: Most outbursts are based on incomplete stories and snap judgments—recognising this blind spot can stop anger before it starts.

-Curiosity creates space: Taking a moment to ask “What else might be going on?” turns impulse into insight and helps you respond thoughtfully.

-Compassion is not weakness: It’s a conscious choice to interrupt the anger cycle and act from strength, not reactivity.

-We all have hidden struggles: Seeing others through a compassionate lens—even in conflict—fosters connection and emotional clarity.

-You always have a choice: While you can’t control others, you can choose your response—and that’s where real power lies.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System