For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger can feel powerful — but that surge of energy, those sharp words or slammed doors, are often doing more harm than good.

In this deeply important episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs and AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah reveal the truth: uncontrolled anger doesn’t solve problems — it creates them.

From subtle emotional abuse to devastating outbursts, this episode explores how anger chips away at trust and connection — and how you can reclaim real power through calm, clarity, and conscious choice.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger doesn’t work — it wounds: What feels powerful in the moment often damages your relationships and leaves you feeling regretful and isolated.

-Abuse comes in many forms: Uncontrolled anger can turn into verbal, emotional, or even physical patterns of abuse — even if it doesn’t look like “rage.”

-The illusion of control: Using anger to get what you want creates a false sense of power — real strength lies in calm, conscious responses.

-Unaddressed anger escalates: Left unchecked, anger tends to grow and multiply, creating destructive cycles that erode relationships and self-respect.

-You can choose a different path: Learning emotional awareness, empathy and communication gives you the tools to respond instead of react — and truly change your life.

-Change starts with a single decision: The choice to take back control of your reactions is the first step toward building healthier, more respectful relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Anger doesn’t always look like shouting. Sometimes, it shows up as tension in your tone, silence in place of connection or words that leave unseen bruises.

In this moving episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Leon’s powerful story — a man who didn’t think he had an anger problem until he realised how deeply his unspoken frustration was affecting the people he loved.

If you’ve ever said, “At least I’m not yelling,” this episode is a wake-up call — and a message of hope.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger can be quiet and still cause harm: Leon’s story reveals how subtle signs — tone of voice, emotional withdrawal, critical words — can hurt just as much as yelling.

-Awareness is the game-changer: Learning to recognise the physical and emotional signs of anger helped Leon stop it before it boiled over.

-Change starts with empathy: Leon’s desire to protect his young daughter from emotional harm gave him the motivation to change, fast.

-Communication goes both ways: The course helped Leon understand the importance of listening and considering how his words impacted others.

-Even skepticism can lead to transformation: Leon was unsure at first, but within days of starting the course, he began making real, lasting changes.

-Positive self-talk creates resilience: Anchoring his change to something precious — his daughter — gave Leon strength to shift old patterns and stay calm under pressure.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

When things go wrong, it’s tempting to point the finger — at your partner, your boss, even your kids. But blame doesn’t solve problems; it creates distance.

In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores "The Blame Game" — a hidden habit that damages relationships and keeps us stuck in conflict.

With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair unpacks why we blame, how it affects those around us and what you can do instead to build understanding and connection.

Key Takeaways:

-Blame is a defence mechanism: It often shows up automatically to protect our ego from discomfort, but it only deepens disconnection.

-Awareness is the first step: Simply noticing when you’re blaming — even in your own mind — opens the door to a different response.

-Own your part: Taking responsibility for your contribution, no matter how small, shifts you from victim mode into growth and empowerment.

-Practice empathy over accusation: Asking “Why might they be acting this way?” builds understanding and defuses conflict.

-Let go of “shoulds”: Rigid thinking about how things should have gone only fuels resentment. Focus on what can be done now.

-Communicate to connect: Use “I” statements, listen actively, and validate feelings to create safer, more productive conversations.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System