Most agents think confidence comes BEFORE action

I’ve learned the opposite is true

Confidence is the REWARD for the action you take

On my flight back from Cabo, a team leader I coach asked me to jump on Zoom with his agents

He told me they were struggling with confidence in this market — they weren’t making calls, asking for the business, or showing up as their best selves

So I shared a message with them that I want to also share with you

The truth is, confidence isn’t personality

Confidence is a skill

And after years of coaching agents and leaders, I’ve realized confidence grows when you do three things consistently:

#1 Keep the promises you make to yourself

Confidence is really just trust in yourself

Every time you say you’re going to do something and follow through, that trust grows

Small promises kept consistently build real confidence

#2 Stack wins

Your brain builds confidence through evidence

Every call you make, every appointment you set, every conversation you have is proof that you can do hard things

Focus on stacking those small wins

#3 Expand your identity

You will never outperform the identity you hold about yourself

When you start seeing yourself as a professional who solves problems and serves people, everything changes

Here’s the key: you don’t get confident and then take action

You take action… and confidence FOLLOWS

🎙️ I break all this down in the latest episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate

This week’s podcast episode is about something special and personal to me…

I grew up in a town with no stoplights. 30 kids in my graduating class.

While my friends were out having fun, I was stacking slabs at my grandma's sawmill for $20 a day.

That's where my work ethic was born.

But somewhere in all that hard work, I felt it, this burning feeling that I was meant for more.

So I did the only thing I know how to do.

I got to work.

Here's what nobody tells you about success… it can DESTROY YOU just as fast as it builds you.

I started reading my own press clippings.

Lost good people. Burned bridges.

Created toxicity in an environment I was supposed to be building.

My biggest failure. And also my greatest lesson…

Because the transition from top producer to leader isn't a promotion. It's starting over.

This is where I struggled and I see so many others struggle as well.

It requires you to remove your ego, humble yourself, and go back to zero!

This is such a challenge because of all the work you have gone through to become a successful agent.

But becoming a successful leader requires you to start all over again.

Most people can't make that shift.

I also used the wrong motivation.

Proving people wrong will get you somewhere, but it won't build something sustainable.

The day everything changed was when I stopped asking how do I prove them wrong and started asking who can I lift up with me?

Now my daughters don't even know I have a job.

They just know dad goes out to help people.

That's the whole mission.

I'm not living for my resume anymore.

I'm living for my eulogy.

In this week’s episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate, I sit down with Duane Murphy and Shane Kilby to share the story of how my past built me for more, and the lessons every leader needs to hear.

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32 out of 42 agents on my team have at least one closed or pending transaction right now.

The 10 agents that don’t are all in their first 90 days or less with the team

Most teams celebrate activity. We celebrate those too but we also celebrate standards and results

We ranked #3 Mega Team at eXp in January.

But here's what the leaderboard doesn't show you… how did we actually do this?

We set CRYSTAL CLEAR expectations before day one and repeated them over and over and over again

During the interview. At boot camp. Through onboarding. In every meeting. Every week.

Because you don't rise to your potential. You fall to your standards.

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on exactly how we're doing it.

The Five E Framework: Effort, Enthusiasm, Endurance, Energy, Environment.

It’s the engine (another E ;) behind our production.

We go deep on something most leaders run from, the hard conversation.

We don't avoid conflict.

We frame it as the path to resolution.

Because leaders who avoid difficult moments don't build great teams.

They build comfortable ones and… nothing ever grows in your comfort zone

You want a team that performs?

Stop making it complicated.

Build the environment.

Hold the standard.

Lead by example.

We break all this down and more in the latest episode of our podcast

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You will never outperform who you think you are.

Not your goals. Not your hustle.

Your identity.

In this episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate, I break down why your internal thermostat determines your success — in income, relationships, leadership, everything.

Your identity sets your results.

Your brain’s number one job isn’t to hit your goals, it’s to keep you consistent with who you think you are and what you believe you deserve…. Your IDENTITY

If your identity says, “I’m inconsistent,” your actions will match it.

If it says, “I’m not built for success at that level,” you’ll unconsciously avoid the behaviors that would get you success

Your results always gravitate toward your identity setting.

Chasing more without becoming more never works long-term.

Personal development isn’t a phase.

It’s the mechanism that raises your thermostat.

Better thinking produces better decisions.

Better decisions produce better behaviors.

Better behaviors produce better results.

Because success is an inside job.

In this episode, I also share 5 tactical ways to raise your thermostat:

✅ Raise your standards, not just your goals

✅ Audit your self-talk

✅ Stack identity-based wins

✅ Change your environment

✅ Visualize from identity, not outcome

And when you upgrade your identity, everything changes: your income, relationships, and leadership.

Stop chasing more.

Become more.

Raise your thermostat.

Do the inner work.

Success is built from the inside out.

🎙️ Listen now and start living at the next level

Profit… Why don’t most team leaders have any?

If you’re running a real estate team and still telling yourself, “I’ll take profit later…” or you are like most who are thinking… profit… what’s that?

This episode is for you.

Because here’s the truth most leaders avoid…

Profit isn’t a result. It’s a decision.

And if it’s not built intentionally it will never magically appear

In this episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate, I sit down with Andy Mulholland, a former team leader who built and exited a high-volume business, retired in 2018, and now helps real estate leaders understand their numbers and profitability without the accounting fluff.

Andy runs Simple Numbers, and is the best I have seen at turning Real Estate financial chaos into CEO-level clarity.

We get real about what actually drives profitability.

Not growth “someday.”

Not hoping the market saves you.

Systems. Decisions. Standards.

We break down five core financial principles every team owner needs, including why profit has to be chosen upfront, how adjusted net profit shows what you’re really making, and why some of the vanity metrics you hear or see on stage could be killing your business.

Andy also explains the three levers every leader must pull for financial health in their business

The truth is most teams aren’t struggling because they can’t grow.

They’re struggling because they don’t prioritize profit and hide behind it saying things like “I just want my agents to win”, “I’ll make money later” all while their production is the only reason they can pay the light bills…

Then they call it leadership

This episode isn’t about being greedy.

It’s about being responsible.

If you want a real business that supports your life, not drains it, you need this conversation.

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I’ve been a part of over 5,000 transactions since we built this team.

And none of that happened because of systems alone.

It happened because of people.

Great people.

Aligned people.

People willing to grow.

In this episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate, I’m joined by Janelle Quick, and together we dive into how great teams are actually built — not on hype, but on leadership, standards, and alignment.

I live in two worlds.

I’m in the trenches every day running a real estate team.

And I coach inside John Cheplak’s organization with top leaders across the country.

That perspective has taught me one thing:

Skills are overrated.

Culture is not.

Most leaders hire resumes.

I hire humans.

In this episode, I break down exactly what I look for when hiring agents — and it has nothing to do with experience or polished interviews.

We talk about:

✅Why culture always comes before skill

✅How to identify hunger, coachability, and personal responsibility

✅Why past success doesn’t guarantee future results

✅How accountability creates freedom, not pressure

I also walk through how we onboard agents, set expectations, and hold standards without creating chaos.

If you want to build a team that’s scalable, aligned, and built to win in any market — this one’s for you.

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Why do most people stop doing what works?

Not because it failed.

Not because it stopped producing.

They stop because it worked.

They did the work. They got results. They got paid.

And then… they got comfortable.

And comfort? Comfort kills hunger.

Here’s the trap no one warns you about:

When things are hard, you fight.

When pressure is high, you execute.

Anyone can do that.

The dangerous moment is after you win.

After the big closing. After your best month. After your best year.

That’s when most people drift.

A skipped call. A shortcut here. An excuse there.

Here’s the truth:

The habits that got you out of struggle are the same habits required to stay elite.

Not new habits. Not better habits. The same ones.

Elite people don’t prove who they are when life is hard.

They prove it when life gets easy.

So here’s the real question:

Can you stay hungry after you win?

Can you keep standards when no one is forcing you?

Can you execute when life feels good?

Because that’s where average stops… and elite begins.

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Most agents spend their careers selling real estate…

But never actually owning it.

And that’s where legacy gets lost.

We talk every day about helping buyers and sellers build wealth: appreciation, equity, cash flow, freedom.

But too often, we don’t apply those same principles to our own lives.

That’s what this episode of All or Nothing in Real Estate is about.

I sat down with one of our agents and real estate investing expert, Shawn McArthur, to have an honest conversation about ownership, investing, and building something that lasts.

This is the thinking behind Changing Lives Investments.

We didn’t create it to sound good.

We created it to actually change lives.

To help agents confidently invest in their first deal.

To help experienced investors improve returns on their 20th.

And to do it with strategies that carry less risk than owning a single-family property.

We break down how investing shifts your mindset, strengthens your leadership, and makes you better at serving clients — not just closing transactions.

If you’re an agent curious about investing…

If you’re a team leader looking to add real value and empower your people…

If you’re thinking beyond commissions and toward legacy…

This episode is for you.

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