In this episode, your host, Jackie, gets real about how her expectations have been holding her back, including why she hasn't been releasing episodes lately.

What expectations have been holding you back?

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In this episode, your host, Jackie, explains financial abuse and leads you through a powerful Tapping session. Have you experienced financial abuse? 

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EFT Tapping Meditation time stamps:

Tapping explanation: 29:03

Tapping: 32:07-48:23

“I realized that I deserve more than those breadcrumbs. I deserve more than the leftovers.” - Jackie

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Information

What is Coercive Control?

Guide to Gaslighting

It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good

How to find a local Domestic Violence Shelter in the US

How to find a local Domestic Violence Shelter in the UK

National Domestic Violence Hotline in the US

Refuge in the UK

What is The Great Resignation?

The Great Resignation = more jobs available

Merida from Brave

Yelena Belova from Hawkeye and Black Widow

Books

Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother’s Will to Survive by Stephanie Land

In Jackie’s interview with Lynda Sunshine West, you’ll learn how running away as a five-year-old (to get away from an abusive father) and being gone for a week led to the belief that nobody loved her, which shaped her into a people pleaser who was ruled by fear, and how she overcame it.

Inside the Episode: 

*Find out what Lynda says was “the greatest gift I've ever given to myself.”

*Lynda believes that no matter our age, we can change our belief systems, even if they are “locked in tight.” Find out how she changed hers.

*Learn Lynda’s Powerful Forgiveness Exercise!

*Find out how to tell the difference between fear that’s stopping you and your intuition that’s warning you.

*Find out why Lynda calls the popular acronym for fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) stupid, and the powerfully effective acronym she replaced it with.

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As the Founder and CEO of Action Takers Publishing, Lynda Sunshine West’s mission is to empower 5 million women and men to share their stories with the world to make a greater impact on the planet. She is affectionately known as The Queen of Collaboration. Lynda Sunshine is a Book Publisher, Speaker, Multiple Times International #1 Best-Selling Author, Executive Film Producer, and a Red Carpet Interviewer.

Action Takers Publishing

Action Takers Publishing on LinkedIn

Action Takers Publishing YouTube Channel

Quotes in the Episode from Lynda:

“You have a story to tell and when you start telling your story, it does several things. One is it helps you to heal. And the other thing is you can help others heal also through your story.”

“Even though I was no longer with the abuser, the abuse was still in my head and now I became the abuser of myself.”

“When you leave an abusive environment, you can't go back to the same environment because it’s going to help pull you back in. So find those people in your life who do believe in you, who do want to see you succeed and surround yourself with those people.”

“When I know the cause, I can move through it.”

“Once we have awareness, we can make a decision. And the decision is to stay the same or to change. Either way, we're making a decision. I have awareness. If I decide to stay the same, I have made that decision.”

“The majority of my fears were based on the fear of judgment. That fear is the biggest fear.”

“When we find our purpose, it's our job and duty to spend the rest of our lives living on purpose instead of living on accident.”

“See the opportunity, then seize the opportunity.”

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Jackie Graybill interviews Regina Andler about her experience as a teenager and how she has healed her life. Regina is a Jack Canfield Success Principles Certified Coach and is the founder and CEO of Autumn Ascent Consulting. She can be found at her website and her Facebook group.

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Information

The Cycle of Abuse

What is Coercive Control?

Lundy Bancroft’s 9 Types of Male Abusers

The 5 Stages of Grief

Mirror Meditation

What is The Law of Attraction?

E+R=O (Event + Response = the Outcome)

It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good

Your Gut is Your Second Brain

Financial abuse is found in 98% of all cases of abuse

Books

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark

The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield

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In this episode, Jackie interviews author and non-profit founder Lee Marks on his story and his path to becoming an author and an advocate for men who experience abuse.

Lee Marks is the founder of Break the Silence UK and began the organization following the release of “Break the Silence,“ his support guide for male victims of domestic abuse. This book is now used in a number of male domestic abuse services across the UK as well as being on the approved reading list for the domestic abuse diploma at his local university.

Following the success of this, Lee has gone on to write his first fiction novel “The Silent Truth,“ again based around a male victim of domestic abuse that has received very high praise indeed.

Lee is a qualified CBT and NLP therapist and is currently undertaking his Masters degree in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence.

“Has your partner ever portrayed any behavior that made you feel a bit uncomfortable? If so, let's talk about that.”

“What we hear all the time is domestic abuse is a gendered crime. It is not. Domestic abuse is a crime that can happen to anybody.”

“I'd like to say one day I'd fully recover, but I think domestic abuse changes you as a person. And I think that aspects of the way that it changes you, that you can't go back to how you were. And what you have to do, is you're recreating the best possible you, you can, from that situation that you've been in. And it's about having the right people around you that are going to support that process. Over 11 years since I came out of that relationship, and it's still an ongoing process, I'm still learning about me, I'm still learning about who I am.  I had to become a whole new person. I'm not the person I used to be.”

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Organizations

Break the Silence: The Organization Lee Founded

Video for Break the Silence UK

The Court Said UK

Books

Break the Silence: A Support Guide for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse (by Lee Marks)

The Silent Truth (by Lee Marks)

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Jackie interviews singer/songwriter Brandi MacLaren on her story and experience of tragedy and abuse as a confident and successful woman.

“I think it's so important for women to support women. I think that's just so important because we need to stand together and say, it's not going to fly. It's not gonna go under the radar anymore. We're going to stand behind each other and be a voice for the other person. And you are heard and you are seen, and you're not doing this alone.” - Brandi MacLaren

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Quotes

Maya Angelou quote 

Music

I Surrender by Brandi MacLaren (Spotify)

I Surrender by Brandi MacLaren (Apple Music)

Caligo, Brandi's Duo (Spotify)

Caligo, Brandi's Duo (Apple Music)

Information

It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good

Books

Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath's Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power by Christiane Northrup, MD

Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists,...

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Guest Vanessa L. Wilde (a fellow abuse survivor whose story is told in a future episode), joins Jackie in discussing Slapgate in the light of abuse. What does this incident say about our culture and do we need to change?

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Take a read of my article on Medium about Slapgate

More about Jada and alopecia

Laura Richards’ Podcast, Crime Analyst

Laura Richards’ Instagram post about Jada

Amy Shumer’s response to Slapgate: traumatizing

PHENOMENAL interaction between Oprah and Amy Shumer talking about their abuse experiences

Tiffany Haddish’s surprising Slapgate response

Article telling white women and abuse victims that Slapgate is not about us

Book about Cluster B’s and lack of empathy: Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie

20% of the population are Cluster B Personality Disordered abusers: The Empath’s Guide to Evading Energy Vampires by Christiane Northrup

Guide to Gaslighting 

Join Jackie as she interviews special guest, NYU Professor Christine Cocchiola, who shares her own abuse journey and her fight to pass Jennifer’s Law (coercive control legislation) in the US state of Connecticut.

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Christine Cocchiola, LCSW

NYU, DSW-c, 2022

Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Survivor

www.christinecocchiola.com

coercivecontrolisipv on Instagram & FB and coercivecontrol on Twitter

“Victims are highly agreeable and conscientious. They are off the charts in those two areas.” - Christine Cocchiola on study of shared victim traits by Sandra Brown

“One of the key characteristics [of abusers] is charming.” - Christine Cocchiola

“700 children have died since 2008 at the hands of an abuser, because a judge allowed the abuser to share custody.” - Christine Cocchiola

“Not all narcissists are pedophiles, but all pedophiles are narcissists” - Christine Cocchiola

“Coercive control is the foundation of domestic abuse.” - Christine Cocchiola

“At the moment we start to disengage [from the abuser], they actually intensify.” Christine Cocchiola

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Dr. Grande on psychopathy (paying attention to Psychopath Factor 1 and Factor 2)

Dr. Ramani on manipulation tactics of narcissists

Dr. Ramani on scapegoating

Sandra L. Brown on specific temperament traits of those who get trapped in relationships with and by psychopaths

Christine Cocchiola’s study: COVID-19 and Sheltering in Place: The Experiences of Coercive Control for College Students Returning Home

Baker and Ben-Ami study on Parental Alienation