Dads, your silence is costing you more than you think. In this raw, unfiltered episode of Fatherhood In Focus, I pull back the curtain on the hidden battles so many of us dads face, mental health struggles, burnout, shame, and the fear of speaking up.

Drawing from my own story of nearly losing everything, I'm challenges you to confront the truth: That staying silent doesn’t protect your family but it distances you from them.

As a dad, regardless of your experience or situation the more you carry, the harder fatherhood gets and every time you choose to shut down you push them away. That's the cold hard reality of modern fatherhood - You have a choice, you either face your demons, seek support or you fight on alone and risk losing everything. I chose to push them away and it wasn't until I was faced with losing my wife and boys that I finally owned up to the pain the and the pressure.

This week we cover:

✅ Why emotional honesty is the foundation of fatherhood.

✅ How shame and perfectionism silently erode your influence.

✅ The small steps that rebuild trust and connection with your kids.

✅ Why vulnerability isn’t weakness but your superpower as a dad. Whether you’re a new dad on paternity leave, a husband feeling the strain, or a father silently battling burnout, this is your chance to reflect on the influences impacting the way you show up as their dad.

Remember: 💬 Your kids don’t need the perfect you, they need the real you. Start the conversation.

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You snap, you withdraw, you feel guilt afterwards. That reaction; it’s not them. It’s your past.

In this episode I pull up the mirror and ask the tough question: Are you raising your kids or are you reliving and raising your own unfinished story?

This week we cover: When the house finally goes quiet, the real questions hit: Am I showing them strength or just stress? Do they see the man they need, or a dad just surviving the day? This episode is a mirror and a reset.

As a dad I wrestle with this question every single day. Fatherhood is about giving them what they need but when you are distracted, who shows up and what dad do they see?

Key Themes

Modelling vs. managing: Why your identity (not your to-do list) is what your kids copy.

Presence over perfection: Turn the school run, after-school, and bedtime into connection anchors.

This episode is all about understanding how to interrupt the influences that stop you showing up when they need you. This week, why not Pause, Reflect Interrupt and show them to calm the storm and set the tone.

Why this episode matters (for dads right now):

Your children are learning how to love, lead and handle pressure by watching you.

They don’t need the highlight reel; they need the reality, a conscious, emotionally available dad who champions their mum, holds the line in chaos, and shows up with love.

Why not try this with your kids this week:

Choose your word: Pick one identity word (e.g., steady) and live it for 7 days.

3 touch-points daily: Morning reset, after-school debrief, bedtime ritual (no phones).

Doorframe pause: 60–90 seconds to breathe, set intention, and enter on their level.

Dad-first coaching: Make that next car journey matter: connection → feeling → (optional) lesson. but above all else give them confidence they need to tackle that next challenge.

Comment:

What are you modelling this week and where will you interrupt the chaos?

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That reaction; it’s not them. It’s your past.

In this episode I pull up the mirror and ask the tough question: Are you raising your kids or are you reliving and raising your own unfinished story?

This week we cover:

Why your daily habits, reactions and coping mechanisms shape your child’s future.

The “Mirror Test” and spotting the parts of yourself showing up in your child.

Practical steps to switch from avoidance to presence so your kids inherit resilience, not shame.

Why this episode matters (for dads right now):

Kids don’t remember the promotion. They remember how you made them feel. If you’re distracted, exhausted, numb or angry, your children absorb it as their normal. Fatherhood is a leadership role and leaders must do the internal work. This is designed to get you thinking about how you respond and reflect on whether you meet fire with fire.

Actionable takeaways:

Door-drop ritual: Leave the week at the door, taking 3 minutes to breathe and connect when you walk in.

One habit swap: Replace one avoidance habit (drinks, endless scrolling) with a repair habit (10-min walk, 10-min play). Track it for 7 days.

Mirror journaling: When you react, write the trigger + one possible root from your own past and see if you can spot that little bit of you staring back during those tense standoffs.

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Dads, be honest with yourself: Would you want to be raised by you?

Fatherhood isn’t just about providing, it’s about leading, protecting, and shaping your children’s future. But here’s the hard truth: the way you show up today is already becoming your child’s inner voice tomorrow.

In this episode we share the raw truth about facing the man in the mirror and confronting the patterns we carry from our own childhood. If you’ve ever wrestled with:

✅ Dad guilt and feeling like you’re not enough.

✅ Fear of failure and worrying you’ll repeat mistakes you grew up with.

✅ Pressure to provide while neglecting presence and connection.

✅ Anger, frustration, or burnout that spills into your home. …then this is your wake-up call.

This week we work on:

How your past influences the father you’re becoming.

Why raising kids isn’t about fixing your broken pieces but about building their confidence and resilience.

How to shift from guilt to clarity, and lead your family with strength and love.

Practical ways to show up daily even when life feels overwhelming.

👉 This episode isn’t about shame it’s about ownership and taking responsibility for the way you respond under pressure. Because your kids don’t need a perfect dad. They need a present one.

🎧 Listen now and ask yourself: If your younger self walked into your home today would he feel safe, loved, and proud of the man you’ve become?

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Dads, here’s the uncomfortable question: Are you raising your kids to be strong or just safe?

In today’s world, filled with distractions, diluted masculinity, and endless outside influence, the role of a father has never been more important.

In this episode of Answer Me This, we go deep into what it really means to raise resilient children in 2025.

We explore:

✅ Why protecting kids from every struggle can weaken them for the future.

✅ How to teach resilience, confidence, and self-worth in a fragile culture.

✅ The tension between safety and strength and why your kids need both.

✅ The influence of school, society, screens and how dads must lead at home.

Your kids don’t need a perfect dad. They need a father who shows them how to fail, rise, and try again. This isn’t about survival. It’s about raising kids ready to thrive in a tough world.

If you’re a new dad, boy dad, or father determined to raise resilient kids, this episode will challenge you to think differently and act with conviction.

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Dads, be honest. Does fatherhood feel like a duty… or a privilege? In this week’s Friday Fuel – Answer Me This episode, we cut deep into the question I believe we need to answer as modern dads:

Are you showing up out of obligation, or out of love and presence? Too often, life’s noise, work deadlines, bills, exhaustion turns fatherhood into a checklist instead of a connection.

But here's what I think we wrestle with every day: Our kids need connection, they're not looking to you to be perfect, all they need is your time and your presence.

In this raw and reflective conversation, I share:

✅ Why presence is greater than perfection in modern fatherhood

✅ How to shift from “managing your kids” to truly connecting with them

✅ The danger of letting duty drown out joy and gratitude

✅ Simple mindset shifts to help you lead with clarity, love, and strength

Whether you’re an expectant father, a new dad on paternity leave, or a man in the grind of balancing work, family, and identity, this episode will push you to pause, reflect, and redefine what fatherhood means to you. Don’t let fatherhood pass you by. Start treating it as the gift it truly is.

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Your kids are learning from you every single day but are they learning the right lessons?

This week on Answer Me This, part of the Fatherhood In Focus podcast, I ask the question every dad needs to face:

What are your kids really learning from the way you live right now? It’s not about what we say, it’s about what we do. From how we handle pressure, stress, and failure, to how we love, connect, and show up at home… those are the real lessons that shape our children.

In this episode we dive into:

✅ Why your behaviour and habits speak louder than your words

✅ How screen time and distractions might be shaping your kids’ values more than you realise ✅ The importance of setting boundaries, resilience, and problem-solving in fatherhood

✅ Why being present more than perfect is the ultimate fatherhood lesson

Your kids don’t just need advice, they need a role model. They’re learning how to rise, how to handle failure, how to love, and how to lead… all by watching you.

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Dads, what’s the excuse holding you back from being the father, partner, and man you know you can be?

This episode of Answer Me This is a wake-up call I didn't know I needed. It’s not about blame. It’s about ownership. This is about finding the energy and will to create a legacy.

Because excuses, whether it’s work, fatigue, money, or “I’m doing it for them” are robbing your kids of the best version of you. In this raw and unfiltered conversation, I share:

✅ The hidden excuses that stop dads from being present and connected

✅ Why “providing” can become the very thing that destroys your legacy

✅ How to create momentum, lead at home, and set the standard for your kids’ future

✅ The mindset shift that turns survival mode into purpose-driven fatherhood

If you feel like you're coasting, distracted, or feeling stuck then this is your chance to reflect, take stock and reset. Because your kids don’t need a perfect dad. They need a present one.

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