Dads, your silence is costing you more than you think. In this raw, unfiltered episode of Fatherhood In Focus, I pull back the curtain on the hidden battles so many of us dads face, mental health struggles, burnout, shame, and the fear of speaking up.

Drawing from my own story of nearly losing everything, I'm challenges you to confront the truth: That staying silent doesn’t protect your family but it distances you from them.

As a dad, regardless of your experience or situation the more you carry, the harder fatherhood gets and every time you choose to shut down you push them away. That's the cold hard reality of modern fatherhood - You have a choice, you either face your demons, seek support or you fight on alone and risk losing everything. I chose to push them away and it wasn't until I was faced with losing my wife and boys that I finally owned up to the pain the and the pressure.

This week we cover:

✅ Why emotional honesty is the foundation of fatherhood.

✅ How shame and perfectionism silently erode your influence.

✅ The small steps that rebuild trust and connection with your kids.

✅ Why vulnerability isn’t weakness but your superpower as a dad. Whether you’re a new dad on paternity leave, a husband feeling the strain, or a father silently battling burnout, this is your chance to reflect on the influences impacting the way you show up as their dad.

Remember: 💬 Your kids don’t need the perfect you, they need the real you. Start the conversation.

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You snap, you withdraw, you feel guilt afterwards. That reaction; it’s not them. It’s your past.

In this episode I pull up the mirror and ask the tough question: Are you raising your kids or are you reliving and raising your own unfinished story?

This week we cover: When the house finally goes quiet, the real questions hit: Am I showing them strength or just stress? Do they see the man they need, or a dad just surviving the day? This episode is a mirror and a reset.

As a dad I wrestle with this question every single day. Fatherhood is about giving them what they need but when you are distracted, who shows up and what dad do they see?

Key Themes

Modelling vs. managing: Why your identity (not your to-do list) is what your kids copy.

Presence over perfection: Turn the school run, after-school, and bedtime into connection anchors.

This episode is all about understanding how to interrupt the influences that stop you showing up when they need you. This week, why not Pause, Reflect Interrupt and show them to calm the storm and set the tone.

Why this episode matters (for dads right now):

Your children are learning how to love, lead and handle pressure by watching you.

They don’t need the highlight reel; they need the reality, a conscious, emotionally available dad who champions their mum, holds the line in chaos, and shows up with love.

Why not try this with your kids this week:

Choose your word: Pick one identity word (e.g., steady) and live it for 7 days.

3 touch-points daily: Morning reset, after-school debrief, bedtime ritual (no phones).

Doorframe pause: 60–90 seconds to breathe, set intention, and enter on their level.

Dad-first coaching: Make that next car journey matter: connection → feeling → (optional) lesson. but above all else give them confidence they need to tackle that next challenge.

Comment:

What are you modelling this week and where will you interrupt the chaos?

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That reaction; it’s not them. It’s your past.

In this episode I pull up the mirror and ask the tough question: Are you raising your kids or are you reliving and raising your own unfinished story?

This week we cover:

Why your daily habits, reactions and coping mechanisms shape your child’s future.

The “Mirror Test” and spotting the parts of yourself showing up in your child.

Practical steps to switch from avoidance to presence so your kids inherit resilience, not shame.

Why this episode matters (for dads right now):

Kids don’t remember the promotion. They remember how you made them feel. If you’re distracted, exhausted, numb or angry, your children absorb it as their normal. Fatherhood is a leadership role and leaders must do the internal work. This is designed to get you thinking about how you respond and reflect on whether you meet fire with fire.

Actionable takeaways:

Door-drop ritual: Leave the week at the door, taking 3 minutes to breathe and connect when you walk in.

One habit swap: Replace one avoidance habit (drinks, endless scrolling) with a repair habit (10-min walk, 10-min play). Track it for 7 days.

Mirror journaling: When you react, write the trigger + one possible root from your own past and see if you can spot that little bit of you staring back during those tense standoffs.

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