In this special episode, we share our favorite “you’re doing it wrong” stories we weren’t able to fit into the series. These stories reveal that no one is immune, not even those in positions of authority, to being told they’re doing it wrong. These stories highlight the vulnerability, resilience, and humor needed to lead a Jewish life, for rabbis and regular Jews alike.

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In this episode, Rabbi David Minkus speaks with rabbis Lizzi Heydemann and Jess Minnen and journalist Jodi Rudoren to explore the roots of the “you’re doing it wrong” phenomenon in Jewish life. Is it about protecting tradition? Maintaining control? Preserving identity? Together, they explore the cultural, historical, and emotional forces that shape this deeply embedded instinct.

Do you have your own You Are Doing It Wrong story? Write to us or send us a voice memo at hello@mercaz.community.

What does the fear of “doing it wrong” cost us? And why is the instinct to correct—often harshly—so common in Jewish spaces? In this episode, Rabbi Benay Lappe and Dan Libenson unpack how gatekeeping, judgment, and the pressure to "get it right" shape our communal life. Through personal stories and the wisdom of the tradition, they reveal what’s truly at stake when fear and control take precedence over empathy and belonging.

Do you have your own You Are Doing It Wrong story? Write to us or send us a voice memo at hello@mercaz.community.

In this opening episode, host Rabbi David Minkus begins a conversation that’s long overdue in the Jewish community. We hear stories from everyday Jews who were told, sometimes subtly, sometimes bluntly, that they were doing Judaism wrong. These stories are vulnerable, personal, and heartfelt- and, sadly, far from unique.

In the latest series from Mercaz Media, Rabbi David Minkus explores a phenomenon all too familiar to Jewish communities, but not taken seriously enough. Join David in getting to the bottom of the persistent fear of getting it wrong, with help from Jewish leaders, brave storytellers, and some very old wisdom.

Another week passes and David finally sits down with the person who set this all in motion.

Now that everyone has shared their piece, it’s your turn. What did you take away from the story?

Sometimes all we can do is listen, and the real change comes later.

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After a week consumed with conversations about “the incident”, David was ready to move on. He knew he had done the right thing. Then he got an email he couldn’t ignore.

If we believe in Jewish wisdom, then it should guide every decision that we make, right?

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For Rabbi David Minkus, the days after October 7th were as disorienting as they were heartbreaking, but one thing was for sure. Being in shul, with fellow Jews, felt right. Until a slip of paper broke the illusion. If you’d like to sponsor an upcoming episode, email us at hello@mercaz.community. You can also subscribe to our newsletter list to make sure you stay up-to-date on all upcoming events and content releases.