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You Are Doing It Wrong

You Are Doing It Wrong

By: Mercaz Media
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 Is there a voice in your head saying you’re doing it wrong? Are you afraid you’ll never be a ‘real Jew’? Well, you’re definitely not alone. In the latest series from Mercaz Media, Rabbi David Minkus dives right into an experience so many of us share but don’t always want to talk about. With the help of Jewish leaders, brave storytellers, and thousands of years of wisdom, we’ll try to understand why so many of us in the Jewish community feel like outsiders in our own tradition. How did it get this way, and what can we do about it? New episodes weekly, starting on July 24th You Are Doing It Wrong, the second series from Mercaz Media, was created by Rabbi David Minkus and Joel Shupack with music from Blue Dot Sessions. Mercaz Media is the content arm of Mercaz: The Center for Purposeful Living. Mercaz is a portal where both religious and ambivalent Jews, as well as fellow travelers, come together and make sense of the wisdom and technologies that have grown out of Judaism. Mercaz works to change the landscape of Jewish life through both in-person experiences and content. More information at: https://www.mercaz.community/Copyright 2024 All rights reserved. Judaism Spirituality
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