Loving someone doesn’t always make vulnerability easy, in fact for some, it makes it more difficult. Shelly explores the emotional impact of trauma in relationships - and how survivors can move toward trust and connection without abandoning their own pace or needs.

Resources

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

https://www.galop.org.uk/helpline

https://thesurvivorstrust.org/if-you-need-help-now/

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-services/find-a-rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centre/

https://www.drasacs.org.uk

Tell Us A Tail Ltd

https://www.tellusatail.co.uk

Pain, disconnection, or difficulty with desire are natural after trauma. This episode offers validation and insight into why these struggles are common, and how healing can look different for everyone.

Resources

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

https://www.galop.org.uk/helpline

https://thesurvivorstrust.org/if-you-need-help-now/

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-services/find-a-rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centre/

https://www.drasacs.org.uk

Tell Us A Tail Ltd

https://www.tellusatail.co.uk

Hyperarousal, numbness, and emotional flipping are common after trauma. Shelly discusses how these patterns develop and how survivors can begin to understand and soothe their nervous systems without judgment.

Resources

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

https://www.galop.org.uk/helpline

https://thesurvivorstrust.org/if-you-need-help-now/

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-services/find-a-rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centre/

https://www.drasacs.org.uk

Tell Us A Tail Ltd

https://www.tellusatail.co.uk

Fantasies are complex and often misunderstood. This episode explores how trauma and arousal pathways can become entangled - and why fantasies that echo trauma can be a way the mind tries to make sense of uncomfortable thoughts.

Resources

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

https://www.galop.org.uk/helpline

https://thesurvivorstrust.org/if-you-need-help-now/

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-services/find-a-rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centre/

https://www.drasacs.org.uk

Tell Us A Tail Ltd

https://www.tellusatail.co.uk

Arousal is a physiological response, not a sign of consent or enjoyment. This episode gently unpacks the confusion, shame, and biology behind why the body sometimes responds this way - and why that doesn’t make your trauma any less real.

Resources

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

https://www.galop.org.uk/helpline

https://thesurvivorstrust.org/if-you-need-help-now/

https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-services/find-a-rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centre/

https://www.drasacs.org.uk

Tell Us A Tail Ltd

https://www.tellusatail.co.uk

Join Shelly with this relaxing body scan to teach you how to be present in the body, be mindful and give your body the validation it deserves, just by being listened to.

Find a safe, peaceful place where you will not be disturbed and just listen along. Perfection is not necessary here.