Why are sex toys still so taboo? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we take a thoughtful look at the stigma, curiosity, and misinformation that still surround sex toys—and why it’s time to change the conversation.

We explore how limited sex education, media portrayals, and cultural discomfort have shaped how people think about pleasure and the toys that can enhance it. Dr. Sue shares how she integrates sex toy education into her college classrooms and her work with older adults, and we chat about some of the common fears and questions many people have but rarely say out loud.

We also discuss the deeper relationship dynamics at play—like how insecurity, jealousy, or silence can complicate conversations about sex toys in partnerships, especially in heterosexual relationships. Together, we highlight the importance of communication, consent, and respecting boundaries when exploring new things with a partner.

Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already confident, this episode offers insight, validation, and encouragement to think differently about what pleasure means—and who gets to talk about it and who gets to have it.

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Online dating: Is it worth it? Well… that really depends on your "worth it." In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get real about the highs, lows, and “what even is this?” moments of dating online. Charlie shares why online dating hasn’t worked for her, while Dr. Sue brings in perspective from her work with students, seniors, and curious minds of all ages.

We talk about setting realistic expectations, navigating dishonesty (hi, bots), and why knowing what you want before diving in can save you a lot of heartache. From ethical non-monogamy to decoding bios and red flags, we cover the good, the bad, and the confusing parts of digital dating.

Whether you're new to online dating or feeling jaded by the apps, we’re here to help you check in with yourself, stay grounded, and figure out what your version of “worth it” really looks like.

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Is honesty always the best policy in relationships? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unpack the gray areas of truth-telling—exploring when full transparency strengthens trust and when it might do more harm than good.

We explore the nuances of disclosure, personal boundaries, and the idea that not everyone has earned the right to know certain details about your life—especially when it comes to topics like sexual orientation, past experiences, and personal choices. We also examine the difference between thoughtful honesty and brutal truth, discussing how timing, context, and emotional safety all play a role in communication.

From small white lies to life-changing disclosures, honesty in relationships isn’t always black and white. We break down how navigating these tricky conversations with intention, and respect, can help you foster deeper trust without unnecessary harm.

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What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the complexities of desire discrepancy—when partners have mismatched levels of sexual interest. It’s a common challenge in relationships, but one that’s often misunderstood, stigmatized, or even ignored. We explore the many factors that can influence libido, from stress and medication to relationship dynamics, emotional connection, past experiences, and shifting self-perceptions.

We also challenge outdated stereotypes about men and women’s sex drives—like the myth that men always want more sex and women are the gatekeepers—and unpack how these assumptions can create unnecessary guilt and frustration. We talk about why communication is key, and why those conversations can be difficult or even painful. That’s why we share ways you can work to bridge the gap with empathy, curiosity, and openness.

From rediscovering passion in long-term relationships to handling mismatched desire without shame or resentment, this episode is about fostering deeper connection, understanding, and pleasure—on both sides of the bed. Whether you’re experiencing this yourself or just want to learn more, we’ve got insights, real talk, and ways to help you navigate intimacy with confidence.

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Sex is everywhere—but actually talking about it? That’s still a challenge. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get personal about what it’s like to openly discuss sex and sexuality. As co-hosts of a podcast that dives into taboo topics, we’ve seen firsthand how conversations about sex can empower, educate, and even shift cultural narratives. But we’ve also had to navigate the challenges that come with having these discussions openly.

We explore how having a platform like Unzipping Taboos has changed the way people perceive our expertise in human sexuality—sometimes in surprising ways. We talk about the social calculus of deciding what to share, setting personal boundaries, and how cultural and religious expectations can shape the way people engage (or avoid) conversations about sex. From family reactions to public scrutiny, we break down the complexities of being open about topics that many still prefer to keep behind closed doors.

Whether you're someone who's hesitant to talk about sex or you're already challenging taboos in your own circles, this episode unpacks the power of conversation, the risks and rewards of being open, and why normalizing discussions about sexuality is more important than ever.

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Anal sex is often wrapped in stigma, misinformation, and awkward silence—but we’re here to change that. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we break down some of the myths and misconceptions about what can make anal play safe, pleasurable, and well-informed.

We talk about the essentials: consent, communication, and why the right lube can make all the difference. We get into the nitty-gritty of preparation, hygiene, and common health concerns, including the risks of STIs.

But this isn’t just about the physical side—we also dive into the social taboos that keep people from talking about anal sex, why those stigmas exist, and how we can change the narrative around pleasure and sexual health.

Whether you’re new to the conversation or a seasoned pro, this episode is here to give you the facts, challenge the myths, and help you feel more confident talking about (and experiencing) anal play.

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What defines cheating, and where do we draw the line? In this episode, we unzip the nuanced world of relationships, exploring how communication, honesty, and personal boundaries shape our understanding of fidelity. From flirting and emotional connections to the impact of technology and dating apps, we dissect the complex dynamics that influence trust and transparency between partners.

You'll hear insights on identifying emotional baggage, the pitfalls of lying by omission, and why "calibration conversations" (a phrase Charlie coins) can help couples navigate evolving expectations. Whether it's tackling the challenges of meeting up with an ex or the ethical use of non-monogamy labels, this episode offers practical advice for fostering healthier, more honest relationships.

Tune in for a candid discussion that blends real-life scenarios with expert guidance—and learn how to create a stronger foundation of trust with your partner.

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In this impactful episode, we explore the complexities of consent, tackling its challenges and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate harassment and sexual assault. We confront the normalization of harmful behaviors, examine the influence of power imbalances, and discuss why "no means no" is an insufficient framework for understanding consent.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of believing survivors, challenging rape myths and jokes, and addressing non-consensual behaviors like stalking and harassment. We also share practical advice on safely calling out inappropriate comments in various settings, creating safer spaces, and providing meaningful support to those affected.

By focusing on compassion, education, and cultural change, this episode equips listeners with tools to navigate boundaries, empower victims and allies, and contribute to a more consent-conscious society.

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