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ADHD meds can be a lifesaver for focus, productivity, and stability — but no one tells you what they might do to your sex life. Lowered desire, delayed arousal, harder-to-reach orgasms… it’s a thing, and it’s not your fault. In this episode, I talk about how stimulant medications interact with sexual response, why neurodivergent brains often experience sex differently, and what strategies can help you adapt without shame. From timing your intimacy to sensory amplifiers to honest scripts with partners, this is about reclaiming agency and keeping pleasure alive — meds or no meds.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: ADHD Meds and Sexuality
• (00:02:04) - Understanding ADHD and Sexuality
• (00:05:31) - The Impact of ADHD Medications
• (00:09:26) - The Silence Around Sexual Side Effects
• (00:14:35) - Navigating Sexuality on ADHD Meds
• (00:19:44) - Partner Support and Communication
• (00:21:32) - Advocating for Your Sexual Health
• (00:23:34) - Reflection and Closing Thoughts

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You want to feel connected, but suddenly you’re gone — body present, mind floating near the ceiling tiles. Dissociation during sex can feel confusing, shameful, or even like proof something’s wrong with you. But here’s the truth: dissociation isn’t failure, it’s protection. In this episode, I break down why nervous systems sometimes check out during intimacy, how trauma and shame hijack presence, and what you can do to begin reclaiming safety and real connection. This isn’t about forcing pleasure or performing for your partner — it’s about understanding your body’s brilliance and learning to stay with yourself one breath at a time.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Reality of Dissociation During Sex
• (00:01:25) - Understanding Dissociation: Your Body's Safety Mechanism
• (00:02:41) - The Spectrum of Dissociation: Different Experiences
• (00:03:23) - Why Dissociation Happens: Vulnerability and Trauma
• (00:06:22) - Neurodivergence and Sensory Overload
• (00:07:38) - The Aftereffects: Shame and the Cycle of Dissociation
• (00:09:26) - Strategies for Presence: Micro Check-Ins and Sensory Anchors
• (00:11:11) - Communication and Nonsexual Touch
• (00:12:59) - Healing and Therapy: Rewriting Your Script
• (00:14:35) - Conclusion: Embracing Compassion and Healing

Ever wondered why detailed negotiation, safe words, and scene structure don’t kill the vibe in kink—they actually make it hotter? For neurodivergent and trauma-impacted folks, clear boundaries and predictable roles can feel like a nervous system exhale. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how structured intimacy (like kink and BDSM) creates real safety, reduces dissociation, and turns clarity into turn-on. We’ll dive into why your brain craves rules in the bedroom, how consent conversations are actually erotic, and why aftercare is non-negotiable for healing.

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• (00:00:00) - Why Structured Play Is Sexy for Neurodivergence and Safety
• (00:01:59) - What Kink Is Doing for Sexual Safety
• (00:04:42) - The Radical Difference Between Sexual Consent in Vanilla and Kink Culture
• (00:10:43) - What Nervous System informed Kink
• (00:11:46) - Kink Community: Aftercare for Trauma Impact Players
• (00:13:39) - Kink and the Stigma
• (00:16:10) - My message for kink lovers
• (00:17:46) - The Secret to Authentic Sex

Ever sat in your car outside an event, heart racing, stomach in knots, every cell in your body screaming don’t go in, but guilt dragged you anyway? In this episode, Dr. Misty dismantles the toxic myth that keeping every commitment equals moral worth. You’ll learn the neuroscience behind why saying no is an act of nervous system protection, how to spot your body’s “quit signals” before burnout hits, and practical strategies for bailing, gracefully, unapologetically, and without drowning in guilt. Perfect for neurodivergent, queer, trauma-impacted, and chronically overcommitted rebels ready to reclaim their energy, boundaries, and agency.

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• (00:00:00) - Why You Should Be Able to Bail
• (00:02:20) - What Is The Commitment Culture?
• (00:05:21) - When Your Nervous System Reacts to Commitments
• (00:10:12) - How to Exit From Dysregulated Sit
• (00:15:00) - The Art of Strategic Abandonment
• (00:15:55) - Why You Should Abandon Your Boundaries
• (00:20:42) - This Week's Act of Strategic Abandonment
• (00:21:11) - When Your Body Refuses to Serve You
• (00:22:11) - Rebelling Against Your Nervous System

What happens when your body aches for more touch than your partner, friend, or family can give—or when you crave space while someone else longs to connect? In this radically honest episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty dives deep into the science, shame, grief, and negotiation of “touch hunger” and mismatched touch needs. Discover why touch is a real biological need, how neurodivergence, trauma, fat liberation, and disability justice shape who gets touched (and who doesn’t), and get practical tools, scripts, and rituals for navigating the awkward, brave, and beautiful work of honoring your body’s truth. Whether you’re touch-starved, touched-out, or somewhere in between, this episode is your permission slip to need what you need—without apology.

• (00:00:00) - How To Get Physical Touch
• (00:00:47) - What Is Touch Hunger?
• (00:06:05) - What You Need to Know About Mismatched Touch Needs
• (00:12:06) - What Kind of Touch Need Do You Have?
• (00:18:54) - How to Deal with Unmet Touch Need
• (00:26:45) - You're allowed to ask for more touch this week

Is waiting agony for you? Do you feel anxious when a conversation goes quiet, or does time vanish when you’re hyperfocused? In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time differently—why pauses can feel like punishment, and why mismatched tempos create conflict, shame, and communication breakdowns. You’ll get a science-backed, radically honest look at time perception, plus practical tools and conversation scripts to make your own “time warp” visible and workable in relationships, work, and daily life. Perfect for neurodivergent folks, partners, friends, and anyone ready to ditch urgency culture and honor their real rhythm. Listen, share, and join the Untamed Ember rebellion—because your tempo isn’t a flaw, it’s your superpower.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Agony of Waiting
• (00:00:34) - Understanding Neurodivergent Time Perception
• (00:01:36) - The Neuroscience Behind Time Blindness
• (00:04:35) - Impact on Conversations and Relationships
• (00:12:37) - Practical Tips for Fast Processors
• (00:14:25) - Practical Tips for Slow Processors
• (00:15:59) - Navigating Time Warps in Relationships
• (00:19:33) - Time Perception in Work and School
• (00:21:51) - Time Perception in Intimacy and Friendships
• (00:24:41) - Daily Life and Survival Strategies
• (00:26:20) - Conclusion: Embracing Your Unique Tempo

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Are you haunted by old stories in your sex life—shutdowns, freeze responses, numbness, or shame that shows up right when you most want to be present? In this episode, Dr. Misty takes you deeper than talk therapy, into the places your body holds ancestral scripts about pleasure, safety, and desire—sometimes generations deep. Discover how your fascia acts as the body’s living archive, and learn the basics of SOFT (Somatic-Oriented Fascia Therapy), Misty’s original approach for working with tissue-level memory and nervous system liberation.
You’ll hear stories, get practical ways to notice your “ghosts,” and find out why your pleasure isn’t something you have to earn—it’s your birthright.

• (00:00:00) - Misty on Ghosts in the Bedroom
• (00:03:04) - What Fascia Really Does to Your Body
• (00:10:32) - Soft Therapy for Awakening the Ghost of Sexual Performance
• (00:16:41) - When Your Body's Haunted by Old Stories

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Ever notice that right when things get steamy, your brain turns into a Twitter feed of insecurity? Welcome to the world of parts work, sex edition. In this episode, Dr. Misty dives headfirst into Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how your inner critic, perfectionist, rebel, caretaker, and shame-burdened exiles all love to crash your sex life.

We’re talking about:

• Why sexual difficulties are rarely about “technique”—and almost always about internal parts fighting for airtime

• How the Performance Manager, Hypervigilant Protector, People-Pleasing Caretaker, and your spicy inner exiles hijack your pleasure

• Specific, actionable strategies to check in with your parts, speak for them, and actually integrate their wisdom instead of letting them run wild

• Neurodivergent masking, sexual spontaneity, and why you might feel disconnected or stuck in performance mode (again)

• Real talk: The parts of you that want connection, the ones that want control, and how to get them working together instead of fighting for the mic

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• (00:00:00) - The Critic in Your Sex Life
• (00:02:05) - How to Love Your Sexual Life
• (00:02:59) - What Are the Parts of Your Sex Life?
• (00:09:27) - How to Work With Exile Parts in Sex
• (00:14:25) - How to Work With Protective Parts in Sexual Life
• (00:20:51) - Working With Your Parts in Sexual Relationships
• (00:22:08) - Partners Awareness