In non-monogamous relationships, many conflicts are not about jealousy or trust, they are about information. What needs to be shared, what should remain private, and how people get stuck oscillating between oversharing and withholding.

Dr. Misty breaks this episode down into the critical difference between privacy and withholding, and why confusing the two creates unnecessary harm. Privacy protects autonomy. Withholding removes information required for consent, safety, or shared decision-making.

You will hear a clear framework for sorting information into three distinct channels: logistical safety and accountability, relational impact, and erotic or experiential detail. The episode explores how collapsing these categories leads to boundary violations, shutdown, and loss of trust, even when no one intends harm.

This conversation is for people practicing polyamory, open relationships, or other forms of consensual non-monogamy who want clarity without surveillance, honesty without oversharing, and consent that functions in real life rather than theory.

• (00:00:00) - The 3 Types of Consent in Polyamory
• (00:01:22) - The Difference Between Privacy and Withholding in Non-Monogamous
• (00:06:11) - The 3-Channels Framework
• (00:12:14) - Why I Overshare and Say Nothing in Polyamory
• (00:16:39) - When Sexual Privacy Is Involved
• (00:18:13) - What is a No-Feeling Relationship?
• (00:19:47) - A Guide to Privacy in Sex
• (00:20:26) - Which Channel Do You Need From Your Partners?
• (00:21:05) - The 3 Channels of Information in Your Relationships