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Untamed Ember

Untamed Ember

By: Dr. Misty Gibson
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 Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay. I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense. Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want. Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them). So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life... Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.© 2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Top Drop, Sub Drop, and the Neurochemistry of “After”

    Top Drop, Sub Drop, and the Neurochemistry of “After”
    Dec 10 2025

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    You’ve heard of sub drop — the crash after intense play. But tops crash too. In this episode, we explore the neurochemistry of “after”: why dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin swings can leave both tops and subs feeling weepy, anxious, drained, or guilty. We’ll talk about how drop shows up in the body, why it’s normal, and what practices help regulate and repair. Because drop isn’t proof you did it wrong — it’s proof your body went deep.

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    Chapters
    • (00:00:00) - Introduction to Drop
    • (00:02:03) - Understanding Sub Drop
    • (00:03:02) - Understanding Top Drop
    • (00:04:39) - The Science Behind Drop
    • (00:08:55) - Recognizing Drop Symptoms
    • (00:11:54) - Distinguishing Drop from Red Flags
    • (00:13:24) - Planning and Managing Drop
    • (00:19:25) - Personal Reflections and Rituals
    • (00:21:11) - Conclusion and Resources
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    23 mins
  • Switching Roles, Staying Safe: Consent for Switches

    Switching Roles, Staying Safe: Consent for Switches
    Nov 26 2025

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    Switches get a bad rap as “indecisive” — but the truth is, switching between roles is a skill, and it comes with unique consent challenges. In this episode, we explore what it means to be a switch, how to navigate role changes without confusion or coercion, and why nervous system regulation matters when moving from dominance to submission (or vice versa). With humor, real talk, and trauma-informed insight, I’ll show you how switching can be one of the most creative and liberating dynamics when consent is clear.

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    Chapters
    • (00:00:00) - Introduction to Switching Roles
    • (00:00:22) - Challenges of Switching Roles
    • (00:00:46) - Navigating Role Shifts Safely
    • (00:01:25) - Understanding the Switch Identity
    • (00:02:09) - Defining a Switch in Kink Culture
    • (00:03:37) - Appeal and Benefits of Switching
    • (00:05:47) - Consent and Boundaries for Switches
    • (00:07:52) - Nervous System and Role Transitions
    • (00:10:56) - Practical Tips for Smooth Switching
    • (00:16:17) - The Joy and Complexity of Switching
    • (00:19:47) - Reflecting on Your Role Preferences
    • (00:21:44) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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    24 mins
  • CNC Without Confusion: Ethics, Capacity, and Clear Off-Ramps

    CNC Without Confusion: Ethics, Capacity, and Clear Off-Ramps
    Nov 5 2025

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    Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of the edgiest and most misunderstood areas of kink. Done well, it’s cathartic and erotic. Done poorly, it becomes coercion. In this episode, I break down the ethics of CNC: how to negotiate clearly, check capacity, and always have clear off-ramps in place. We’ll talk nervous system safety, why freeze and fawn matter, and how to play with intensity without crossing lines. CNC doesn’t erase consent — it makes it even more central.

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    Chapters
    • (00:00:00) - Introduction and Trigger Warning
    • (00:01:24) - Understanding Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
    • (00:02:14) - Ethics and Safety in CNC
    • (00:03:03) - Basics of CNC: Definitions and Scenarios
    • (00:04:28) - Risks and Misconceptions of CNC
    • (00:06:49) - Practical Framework for CNC
    • (00:11:22) - Importance of Off-Ramps in CNC
    • (00:16:04) - Neuroscience and CNC
    • (00:20:34) - Personal Reflection and Conclusion
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    24 mins
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