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ADHD meds can be a lifesaver for focus, productivity, and stability — but no one tells you what they might do to your sex life. Lowered desire, delayed arousal, harder-to-reach orgasms… it’s a thing, and it’s not your fault. In this episode, I talk about how stimulant medications interact with sexual response, why neurodivergent brains often experience sex differently, and what strategies can help you adapt without shame. From timing your intimacy to sensory amplifiers to honest scripts with partners, this is about reclaiming agency and keeping pleasure alive — meds or no meds.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: ADHD Meds and Sexuality
• (00:02:04) - Understanding ADHD and Sexuality
• (00:05:31) - The Impact of ADHD Medications
• (00:09:26) - The Silence Around Sexual Side Effects
• (00:14:35) - Navigating Sexuality on ADHD Meds
• (00:19:44) - Partner Support and Communication
• (00:21:32) - Advocating for Your Sexual Health
• (00:23:34) - Reflection and Closing Thoughts

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You want to feel connected, but suddenly you’re gone — body present, mind floating near the ceiling tiles. Dissociation during sex can feel confusing, shameful, or even like proof something’s wrong with you. But here’s the truth: dissociation isn’t failure, it’s protection. In this episode, I break down why nervous systems sometimes check out during intimacy, how trauma and shame hijack presence, and what you can do to begin reclaiming safety and real connection. This isn’t about forcing pleasure or performing for your partner — it’s about understanding your body’s brilliance and learning to stay with yourself one breath at a time.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Reality of Dissociation During Sex
• (00:01:25) - Understanding Dissociation: Your Body's Safety Mechanism
• (00:02:41) - The Spectrum of Dissociation: Different Experiences
• (00:03:23) - Why Dissociation Happens: Vulnerability and Trauma
• (00:06:22) - Neurodivergence and Sensory Overload
• (00:07:38) - The Aftereffects: Shame and the Cycle of Dissociation
• (00:09:26) - Strategies for Presence: Micro Check-Ins and Sensory Anchors
• (00:11:11) - Communication and Nonsexual Touch
• (00:12:59) - Healing and Therapy: Rewriting Your Script
• (00:14:35) - Conclusion: Embracing Compassion and Healing

Ever wondered why detailed negotiation, safe words, and scene structure don’t kill the vibe in kink—they actually make it hotter? For neurodivergent and trauma-impacted folks, clear boundaries and predictable roles can feel like a nervous system exhale. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how structured intimacy (like kink and BDSM) creates real safety, reduces dissociation, and turns clarity into turn-on. We’ll dive into why your brain craves rules in the bedroom, how consent conversations are actually erotic, and why aftercare is non-negotiable for healing.

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• (00:00:00) - Why Structured Play Is Sexy for Neurodivergence and Safety
• (00:01:59) - What Kink Is Doing for Sexual Safety
• (00:04:42) - The Radical Difference Between Sexual Consent in Vanilla and Kink Culture
• (00:10:43) - What Nervous System informed Kink
• (00:11:46) - Kink Community: Aftercare for Trauma Impact Players
• (00:13:39) - Kink and the Stigma
• (00:16:10) - My message for kink lovers
• (00:17:46) - The Secret to Authentic Sex