In the previous edition, we discussed the position of the person who controls and who sometimes can be abusive and violent. In this edition, we focus on the person who feels controlled or abused. We explain the intention of the one who controls: to prevent the loss of the loved one. Because the person has difficulty trusting they deserve love, they are afraid of losing their partner and cannot trust in their love.

This becomes a problem for the partner who, despite all the efforts to show love, is unable to reassure their insecure partner. In addition, receiving protests and accusations from their insecure partner causes them to react in ways that seem to suggest they don't love their partner. This creates a cycle that causes suffering to both partners.

In this episode, we discuss a tendency among some partners to control their loved ones. We try to understand the underlying motivation behind their need to control and offer suggestions for overcoming it.

We explain that controlling behavior stems from difficulty believing that one is lovable, which leads the person to doubt their partner. There is a lack of trust in the other person and a tendency to think that the other person doesn't care and wants to abandon the relationship. This causes the person to complain, demand, and control their partner to guarantee they won't lose them. However, this controlling behavior can cause the very loss that the person fears.

Stress not only hurts the stressed person but also those around them. If you are stressed, you can be sure it affects your loved ones. Now you have two problems: your stress and its impact on the important people in your life. Something that can greatly reduce stress is vulnerability. Sharing what you feel brings you closer to your loved ones and helps them empathize with you. As a result, your stress may become a way to get closer to those you love.