Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of person once you start dating after loss? Join us today as Shar Stephenson & Diana Rice unpack how the vulnerability of loss can make you susceptible to attracting narcissists. This impactful conversation includes many tips & tools to help you establish healthy relationships.  Everyone can benefit from this episode, not only those currently experiencing grief. PT. 3 of the 'Dating After Loss' series.
Today’s guest is Diana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health Counselor (MH18034). With over 25 + years caring for high risk, under-served individuals, her vast experience along with her education allows her to help clients GROW through what they GO through! Diana has served as a Crisis Intervention Counselor in alternative high schools & has extensive experience helping teens through grief and trauma.

Topics covered:

• How to safeguard your heart in dating
• The individual's unique journey of grief 
• 9 traits of Narcissist Personality Disorder
• The value of understanding your history (observe the why behind behaviors)
• Phases of a relationship with a narcissistic & how to exit
• Being comfortable in the uncomfortable
• Using your challenges as a tool to heal
• Healthy coping mechanisms that help you go from surviving to thriving
• ANTS - challenging automatic negative thoughts
• Dropping shame & blame
• And much more!

"There is grief in dating, but the one who has experienced this big "G" grief & then is brave enough to date after, is a hero or heroine." Diana Rice

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• Grief Share
• Explorer Chick
• Toastmasters

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Are you thinking about dating after loss? In Part 1 of this series Dr. Deb and Shar discussed how to know if you are ready to date.  If you missed the first episode in the Dating After Loss Series, we recommend you listen to the last episode and then come back to this one.

"Am I looking for other people & places to fill holes, or where I'm really making a decision that I'm absolutely whole already whether I have a person in my life or not. The other one is rediscovering you doesn't equate to losing you." Shar

In this episode, we continue the conversation on dating after loss. The wisdom shared comes from Shar's own experience, as well as some advice from therapists & grief counselors. We discuss these topics: 

• how dating is different now
• some of the things you can expect as you begin dating
• how allowing the process to unfold organically diminishes disappointment
• the power of being authentically you
• the power of boundaries & knowing your true north
• why having a written action plan for dating is important 
• ideas for what to put on your plan
• how your kids fit in the plan
• and more

Resource: Relationship Values

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This episode is the first of a series on dating after loss and what you can expect.   If you have recently experienced loss, this topic may be sensitive.  If so, we encourage you to press pause and jump over to Season 1  and start at the beginning. 

 In this episode,  Dr. Deb has an open conversation with Shar Stephenson on dating after loss,  why she thought she was ready, the challenges of dating through grief  along with a few pitfalls to avoid.  

Information weaved into this discussion is gathered from grief experts, licensed therapists along with personal experiences.

Topics include:

• Why  and when to date after loss - who decides?
• How emotions can skew 
• Why you need a plan
• One size does not fit all
• You alone get to guide this ship
• Fear of losing again
• Challenges, tips and advice on dating after loss
• Mistakes are OK
• And more!

"I thought I was through my grief when I felt like I was ready to date, but oh how wrong I was." Sharon Stephenson

Mentions:

• Dr. Andrew Huberman
• Diana S. Rice, Licensed Mental Health Counselor
• Signs that you are ready

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Do you feel as if you are going backwards in your grief journey?  Where some days are good even great but then WHAM! And grief rushes in again.  It can be challenging to see the progress made in those moments.  
In this episode Shar Stephenson shares  raw and transparent talk that will help encourage and remind that you are not alone AND IN FACT you are making steady progress as she offers tools she uses in these moments.
In this episode:

• Understand why we can feel we are going backwards
• Ways to see progress
• Tools that help and heal through our journey

So settle into a comfy chair or perhaps take a walk with us as you listen into this episode.

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As we embrace this new year, we share our gratitudes, lessons learned, and our vision for this next year.  We also offer up some suggestions for dealing with this possibly first new year without your loved one. 

We remain committed to you, our listeners, as we approach the year anniversary of This Beautiful Ugly's launch. We request your feedback to help us better create valuable content for you. Leave comments and share with us topics you want to hear on any of our social media channels. Thank you!

Mentions:

• Grief Share
• LifeThrive (check out the free assessments)

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Do you find yourself stuck in the grief process or just wishing the pain would go away? Join us today for this epic conversation where you will walk away with tools that can immediately transform your pain into more joy & happiness. Sound too good to be true? Check it out to see how it is possible.

Mark Scherer is our guest today. Mark developed the QLT (Quantum Leap Technique) after 30 years of studying Consciousness, Language, Spiritual Law, & Quantum Physics. The QLT  has helped thousands of people transform their lives in powerful ways.

Our topics today include:

•  The power of your gift of co-creation which is always working whether you know it or not
• A path to forgiveness 
• Cravings & their causes
• Good questions to ask yourself in grief to help you move through
• A whole new realm of possibility for higher levels of love & enthusiasm

“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Albert Einstein

Mark@encompasslife.com
https://www.encompasslife.com/

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Our co-host Dr. Deb Harrell shares a few  quick nutrition tips to help you through the stress of grief, and everyday life.

Deb is a Naturopathic Doctor, Speaker, & Author of HEAL: Your Path to Thriving. She is the founder of Well.Farm Retreats & PureLightHealth. She inspires & equips people to thrive - body, soul and spirit through her inspirational holistic classes, talks, and retreats. Deb uses a "food as medicine" approach to health. She is a passionate wellness warrior on a mission to impact future generations.

Today you will learn which foods to choose to support your body during this season to help you feel better physically, which will have a ripple effect on your mental health. Nutrition can often fly out the window during grief when people often choose comfort foods. However this is the time when good nutrition matters most. And it is really simple.
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Our grief journey is unique to us; we can often feel misunderstood or may not understand why others grieve differently. Our guest, Dr. Chuck Coker, unpacks how understanding our temperaments and mindsets can benefit us and others' grief process.  For more than 30 years Chuck has focused his career on people’s development. Chuck's landmark study released in 2012 capped four years of research in the UK about human data management. He founded LifeThrive to help with the human element in business & organizations. He teaches emotional intelligence worldwide & has authored several books. 

In this episode:

• How a tragedy can launch a purpose
• Increasing the trust factor in relationships
• Better understand yourself & others
• How personalities (DISC) & Mindsets affect grief
• Practical tips for parents who lost a spouse to help the kids

Quote of the Day: “Psychologists have discovered that anything past 1.5-2 years is based more on what you think about it than what actually happened. In other words ,you don't remember things exactly the way they happened. If the conversation is focused on 'how did this person bless me, make my life better, and what are the things I can contribute to society that was given to me through this person', now you're focused on the right direction. Because the more you communicate that, the more it becomes reality."
Discover your personality & mindsets with Dr. Coker's free assessments!

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