You want sex. She doesn’t.
You feel confused, rejected, and maybe even ashamed.

You wonder:
“Why doesn’t she want me like I want her?”
“Is something wrong with me… or her?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain what’s really going on when your wife isn’t as interested in sex — and why it doesn’t mean she’s broken or you’re not enough.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
✅ Why men and women experience sex differently
✅ How stress and hormones affect your wife’s desire
✅ Why taking it personally makes things worse
✅ How to stop letting sex define your worth
✅ How to lead with emotional strength, not pressure

This episode breaks down:

The biology behind different sex drives

How unmet needs trigger old wounds

Why your reaction can block connection

What you can influence (and what you can’t)

How to become a man who is desirable for who he is — not what he gets

You don’t need to chase sex to feel loved.
You need to show up strong, grounded, and calm — even when she’s distant.

That’s what creates safety.
That’s what invites real intimacy.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You do something nice.
You help around the house.
You give a compliment or say “I love you.”

But deep down, you’re hoping she gives something back — maybe sex, affection, or appreciation.

That’s called giving to get, and it’s ruining your connection.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break down:

What “giving to get” really means

Why your wife feels confused or pressured

How to stop scorekeeping and start leading with honesty

Why hidden expectations are hurting your marriage

In this video, you’ll learn how to:
✅ Spot when you’re keeping score
✅ Stop giving with strings attached
✅ Heal the fear of being unwanted
✅ Replace unspoken deals with real connection
✅ Love without trying to control or earn affection

Topics Covered:

The hidden damage of unspoken emotional contracts

How guilt and silent expectations push her away

Why clear, calm leadership is more powerful than performance

How to give from fullness, not fear

How to rebuild trust through honesty and strength

When you give to get, you create pressure.
When you give from overflow, you create peace.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

If you’ve ever said:

“Why don’t you want me?”

“You never initiate anymore.”

“You’d have sex with me if you really loved me…”

This episode is for you.

Guilt does not create intimacy. It creates pressure.
And pressure pushes her away — every single time.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why guilt never works, what’s really going on underneath your words, and how to build real connection without using shame, blame, or emotional pressure.

This video will help you:
✅ Understand why guilt-driven comments backfire
✅ Learn how your pain turns into pressure
✅ Stop trying to get sex through shame or sadness
✅ Heal the part of you that ties love to sex
✅ Rebuild trust, safety, and closeness the right way

What we cover:

Why your words feel heavy to her

How guilt breaks trust and safety

The deeper emotional wounds behind sexual pressure

What makes a woman feel emotionally safe again

How to lead from peace, not panic

Stop asking for connection in ways that kill it.
Start becoming the kind of man she feels safe opening up to again.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.