You do something nice.
You help around the house.
You give a compliment or say “I love you.”

But deep down, you’re hoping she gives something back — maybe sex, affection, or appreciation.

That’s called giving to get, and it’s ruining your connection.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break down:

What “giving to get” really means

Why your wife feels confused or pressured

How to stop scorekeeping and start leading with honesty

Why hidden expectations are hurting your marriage

In this video, you’ll learn how to:
✅ Spot when you’re keeping score
✅ Stop giving with strings attached
✅ Heal the fear of being unwanted
✅ Replace unspoken deals with real connection
✅ Love without trying to control or earn affection

Topics Covered:

The hidden damage of unspoken emotional contracts

How guilt and silent expectations push her away

Why clear, calm leadership is more powerful than performance

How to give from fullness, not fear

How to rebuild trust through honesty and strength

When you give to get, you create pressure.
When you give from overflow, you create peace.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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