In this heartfelt episode of The Middle Way, Adam Asdel and Art Burns dive deep into one of the most common yet unspoken challenges: anxiety in relationships. Whether you're the anxious partner or loving someone who struggles with anxiety, this conversation explores how anxiety shows up between two people—and what to do about it.

Adam shares personal stories from his own relationship, including parenting with anxiety and learning not to pass it down to his daughter. Art brings powerful insights from his coaching practice, emphasizing empathy, self-awareness, and the importance of not making your partner responsible for your healing. Together, they explore how anxiety can be treated as a "third party" in the relationship—something both partners work on side by side instead of against each other.

They discuss:

• How anxious energy can transfer between partners
• The importance of radical responsibility and boundaries
• Why empathy matters more than fixing
• The dangers of labeling yourself or your partner
• And why sometimes… it’s actually okay to go to bed angry

This episode includes practical tools like active listening, mindfulness, and communication tips that help deepen connection while honoring individuality—because healthy love is a fruit salad, not a smoothie.

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What if the anxiety that feels like it's weighing you down could actually become your superpower? In this raw and insightful conversation, we explore the transformative potential of changing our relationship with anxiety through mindfulness and gratitude.

We begin by sharing our personal journeys with anxiety – from full-blown panic disorders that led to self-medication and agoraphobia to the constant undercurrent of stress that masqueraded as "just being overwhelmed." Through these experiences, we unpack the crucial difference between experiencing anxiety and being controlled by it. The deer that shakes off stress after escaping a predator offers a powerful metaphor for how humans can learn to process anxiety rather than becoming trapped in recursive worry.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn as we examine how reframing anxiety can actually enhance performance. Athletes who channel pre-competition nervousness into heightened awareness don't try to eliminate anxiety – they harness it. Research shows mindfulness practices can be as effective as medications like Lexapro for many people, not by eliminating anxiety but by changing our relationship with it.

Perhaps most powerfully, we explore how gratitude practices create a cognitive shift where our brains begin actively seeking positive aspects in all experiences. One practitioner shares how teaching teenage athletes a simple gratitude journaling practice led to better sleep and the elimination of nightmares in just one week. With consistent practice, we can develop appreciation not just for life's blessings but even for our challenges – seeing anxiety itself as a teacher rather than an enemy.

Whether you're experiencing occasional worry or battling a diagnosed anxiety disorder, this episode offers compassionate insight into how your perception shapes your experience. As the Buddhist teaching shared at the end reminds us: "Whether we experience what happens to us as an obstacle and enemy or as a teacher and friend depends entirely on our perception of reality."

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