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You’re not the same after what you’ve lived through, but what if that’s not a setback? What if it’s the beginning of becoming?

In this transformative episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya, explores the powerful concept of Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) and why healing isn’t about going back to who you were, but about rising differently.

Whether your life was disrupted by grief, burnout, a relationship breakdown, a career shift, or something that doesn’t “seem big enough” to name as trauma, if you’ve felt changed by it, this episode is for you.

We cover:

• What post-traumatic growth really is and how it’s different from toxic positivity
• How trauma (big or small) reshapes your identity and your nervous system
• The signs you may already be in a phase of growth and don’t even realise it
• The difference between PTG and learned helplessness
• What makes PTG possible and the practical, emotional shifts to look for
• A grounding practice and reflection prompt to help you anchor into the growth already happening in you

Clare shares openly about how the death of her husband shifted everything, not only her grief, but her strength, courage, and authenticity. And how Happya was born from the belief that survival isn’t enough.

If you’re wondering whether this season of hardship might also be the soil for something more meaningful, this episode will leave you feeling seen, softened, and supported.

You are not broken. You are becoming. And that becoming deserves to be honoured.

👉 Want to explore post-traumatic growth with Clare? Send a message on Instagram or reach out through the website, she’ll guide you towards the right support for where you are now.

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You’ve been everything for everyone, the mum, the leader, the caretaker, the high achiever.

But now something’s shifted.

And you’re left wondering... who am I, really?

This episode is for the woman quietly realising she no longer recognises herself and doesn’t know how to begin again. Whether it’s your kids growing up, your career changing, a relationship ending, or a subtle sense that the roles you’ve played no longer fit, this isn’t failure. It’s an awakening.

In this powerful, grounding episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon explores what it means to lose yourself and how to gently, compassionately rebuild who you really are.

✨ Inside this episode:

The real reason identity loss is so common in midlife (and why it’s not just trauma)

How role changes: motherhood, career shifts, relationship breakdowns, can make you feel invisible

Why survival mode leads to self-forgetting

How to start reconnecting with your true self in small, doable ways

What nervous system regulation has to do with identity rebuilding

How to grieve old roles while creating space for something new

If you’ve ever said “I don’t know who I am anymore,” this is your invitation to come home to yourself, gently, honestly, without rushing.

📩 Reach out to Clare on Instagram or through the website if this speaks to you. Whether you need support, coaching, or just permission to begin, you don’t have to do it alone.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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You say you’re protecting your peace…
But are you really protecting yourself from discomfort?

This episode is for the women who’ve said “I’m setting boundaries” but deep down suspect they might just be pulling away. If you’ve ever avoided messages, cancelled plans, or shut someone out and called it self-care, this conversation will help you gently unpack what’s really going on underneath.

In this episode, Clare shares how to tell the difference between healthy boundaries and protective avoidance and why your nervous system often confuses the two.

✨ What you’ll hear:
The key difference between a true boundary and an avoidant response
How trauma and people-pleasing shape the way we disconnect
Why avoidance isn’t bad, but it isn’t always honest
How to set boundaries from a place of self-worth, not fear
Real-world signs you might be avoiding under the label of “boundaried”
What to do when your nervous system shuts down instead of speaking up
Whether you’re constantly retreating or unsure how to hold your ground with compassion, this episode will help you come back to clarity, connection, and choice.

📩 Feeling stuck in the blur between avoidance and boundaries? DM Clare on Instagram or get in touch via email, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Boundaries should bring you closer to yourself, not push you further away.

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➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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Do you find yourself snapping, shutting down, or spiralling and then wondering, why did I react like that?

You’re not overreacting. You’re overtriggered.

And your nervous system is doing exactly what it was trained to do, protect you.

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks how trauma, high-functioning anxiety, and survival mode create emotional reactivity that feels impossible to control. You’ll learn how to create space between trigger and response, and gently rewire the way your body and brain handle stress.

✨ In this episode:

• Why reactions happen before you even realise you’re triggered
• The science behind emotional hijacking and the trauma response
• How to spot the story your nervous system is telling you
• Three trauma-informed tools to create a pause and respond calmly
• Why emotional regulation isn’t about suppressing feelings, it’s about safety

You’ll also hear real-life insights from Clare’s journey and her work with women who felt like they were “too much” and discover how to shift from shame to self-trust.

📩 Ready to stop reacting from pain and start responding from presence? Clare invites you to reach out via Instagram or the website. Whether it’s coaching, tools, or just a reminder that you’re not alone, this is your space to begin again.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get present.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

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Does your mind race even when nothing’s wrong?

Do you feel wired but exhausted, unable to fully relax, yet desperate to slow down?

You’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.

In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach, unpacks what it really means to be stuck in nervous system overdrive. She shares how trauma, people-pleasing, and constant high-functioning pressure can leave your body in a state of chronic anxiety and how to gently bring yourself back into regulation.

✨ You’ll learn:

• What “anxious in overdrive” actually feels like in your body
• How survival mode becomes your default without you realising it
• The science of the vagus nerve and why breathwork really works
• Clare’s signature Five-Minute Reset, a grounding tool you can use anywhere
• Why reaching out before you hit rock bottom might be the wisest choice you’ll ever make

If your nervous system feels stuck in high alert…
If rest feels unsafe…
If you're exhausted from being “on” all the time…
This is your invitation to pause, breathe, and return to yourself.

📩 Clare invites you to reach out DM her on Instagram (@thehappyacoach) or send an email to be gently signposted to the right support, whether that’s coaching, tools, or simply a reminder that you’re not alone.

You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to break to begin.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat)

Are you high-functioning, holding it all together on the outside but quietly falling apart inside?

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks the subtle signs of emotional burnout that most women miss until it’s too late. From constant fatigue and emotional numbness to decision paralysis and people-pleasing, burnout often hides in plain sight, especially in the lives of high-achieving women stuck in survival mode.

Clare blends science-backed nervous system insights with her own deeply personal story of loss, grief, and recovery, showing you how burnout isn’t a personal failure, but a sign that your body and mind need care, not criticism.

You’ll learn:

Why burnout isn’t just “stress”, it’s a nervous system pattern

How chronic overwhelm rewires your brain and body

The real reason rest doesn’t feel restful

Small but powerful ways to start restoring energy and self-worth

Why reaching out for help is not weakness, it’s wisdom

Whether you’re feeling “just tired” or completely depleted, this episode is a compassionate call to pause, reflect, and honour your needs.

👉 If this episode resonates, don’t wait for burnout to knock you flat. Reach out to Clare on Instagram (@thehappyacoach) or via her website for gentle support and next steps.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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Have you ever told yourself, “This time will be different” only to slip back into old patterns? Maybe you swore you’d rest more, stop people-pleasing, or set firmer boundaries… but life got messy, and you broke your own promise. And then came the shame: “See? I can’t even trust myself.”

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, explores how to rebuild self-trust, even after years of self-abandonment.

Self-trust doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from repair. From small, repeated acts of self-respect that tell your nervous system: I can count on me.

✨ In this conversation you’ll discover:

• Why self-trust is built in the body, not just the mind
• How survival mode and people-pleasing make promises hard to keep
• Why shame keeps you stuck and how compassion breaks the cycle
• A grounding practice to begin reconnecting with yourself today

Because you’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re worthy of trust, even from yourself.

💛 Free guide: Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No happyacoach.com/boundaries

Next week: The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat).

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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Are you feeling constantly overwhelmed, even when your day looks “normal” on paper? Do you find yourself snapping at the people you love, forgetting simple things, or feeling like you’re never truly rested, no matter how much sleep you get?

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, unpacks the invisible mental and emotional load so many high-functioning women are silently carrying. From emotional labour and executive dysfunction to survival mode conditioning and nervous system dysregulation, this episode dives deep into why you're exhausted... and what to do about it.

You’ll hear science-backed insight, deeply compassionate truths, and a guided nervous system reset that will help you come home to yourself, gently and powerfully.

If you’re constantly holding it all together for everyone else, this episode is your permission slip to finally put something down.

🎧 In this episode:

• What the “invisible load” really is (and why it’s not all in your head)
• Why executive dysfunction and emotional labour are not personality flaws
• The hidden cost of being the “capable one” in every room
• How survival mode rewires your brain and body, and how to unlearn it
• A guided grounding moment to help regulate your nervous system in real time
• One simple practice to begin reclaiming your energy, your voice, and your joy

✨ Plus: A sneak peek at next week’s episode, “Trusting Yourself Again: Even After You’ve Broken Your Own Promises”

If this episode resonates, be sure to subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review, it helps us get this healing work to more women who need it.

💛 Ready to go deeper? Join Clare inside Blooming Happya, the nervous system-based coaching program designed to help you go from barely coping to boldly living.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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